Official Relationship Thread: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

[The Squirrel]

It's not very encouraging to your self confidence when you can't even get simple conversations going online.

 

[TheWatcher]

I'll try man.


Actually, screw that, I'm going in with corpse paint and a devilock.

 

[steintym]

I used to like showing up for first dates in clown makeup and carrying handcuffs

 

[SpideyVille]

It's not very encouraging to your self confidence when you can't even get simple conversations going online.

Well how simple is simple? I mean are you just saying "Hi" or "Hey"?

I used to like showing up for first dates in clown makeup and carrying handcuffs

I think a simple devil costueme will be much better. I mean, if they can't learn to accept him like that, then that's their problem.

 

[The Squirrel]

Well how simple is simple? I mean are you just saying "Hi" or "Hey"?

Simple as in commenting on common interests and asking a question. While leaving a short response of my own. Like you would in any conversation.

 

[SpideyVille]

Simple as in commenting on common interests and asking a question. While leaving a short response of my own. Like you would in any conversation.

Hmm, I mean I kinda have the same issue at times with friends of mine, both male and female. so I wouldn't take it too personally. But if it happens consistently with the same person, I just wouldn't bother with them anymore because they've just proven that they're not worth your time if they won't take time to reply.

 

[TheWatcher]

I used to like showing up for first dates in clown makeup and carrying handcuffs

How did that work out?

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Good luck Blackheart! Wish ya the best.


So I have a small predicament, there is this girl that I reallllly like, but before we can hang out, I have to meet her parents(They are super Christian, which I think makes her mad.)

Any advice?

It's not a date. It probably will be the second or third time we hang out. We have really hit it off.

The way you're phrasing it as hanging out would give me much more pause than meeting the parents. Also how old are you? High School? College? Post College? The older you are the weirder it seems, in high school I could totally understand, in college and after, it might be a little bit of a concern that her parents still have that much control over her life. I think the biggest thing though is to make it a date, not hanging out, date implies relationship, hanging out implies let's be friends.

 

[Anita18]

The way you're phrasing it as hanging out would give me much more pause than meeting the parents. Also how old are you? High School? College? Post College? The older you are the weirder it seems, in high school I could totally understand, in college and after, it might be a little bit of a concern that her parents still have that much control over her life. I think the biggest thing though is to make it a date, not hanging out, date implies relationship, hanging out implies let's be friends.

To be fair, my fiance used to say we were "hanging out" when he was staying over weekends and we were bumping uglies. But he's not exactly the romantic type...

 

[amazingfantasy15]

To be fair, my fiance used to say we were "hanging out" when he was staying over weekends and we were bumping uglies. But he's not exactly the romantic type...

Yeah, but at that point you were in an established relationship. Plus you met on a dating site, just think it can lead to confusion if wishy washy language is used at the begining.

 

[SpideyVille]

I agree. More often than not, in my experience, a guy that goes up to a girl and asks her if she wants to hang out is more likely to end up in the "friend zone" than a guy who openly asks her out on a date. Of course there are other variables at play, but the wording can help with making your intentions known.

 

[Anubis]

How about, "I'd like to set up an interview for intercourse. How's Friday?"

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, but at that point you were in an established relationship. Plus you met on a dating site, just think it can lead to confusion if wishy washy language is used at the begining.

That's true. If you're on a dating site, it's pretty much assumed that you're there for um, dating.

 

[TheWatcher]

The way you're phrasing it as hanging out would give me much more pause than meeting the parents. Also how old are you? High School? College? Post College? The older you are the weirder it seems, in high school I could totally understand, in college and after, it might be a little bit of a concern that her parents still have that much control over her life. I think the biggest thing though is to make it a date, not hanging out, date implies relationship, hanging out implies let's be friends.

High school. I can totally see how you would interpret this as weird if I was 30 lol.

 

[SpideyVille]

How about, "I'd like to set up an interview for intercourse. How's Friday?"

It works, although I don't know if I'd ask for an interview. Just show up and say "Hey, wanna ****!" Leaves no room for interpretation.

 

[The Squirrel]

Well I've gotten to the part where I try to exchange phone numbers, which is usually where things fall flat.

 

[jaqua99]

oh you guys :P

here, I am accepting girlfriend applications, I am a 20 year old male, five foot 10, in shape, track and field is my life, i love comics, i love nascar, if you think you are worth it, send me your application, and why I should choose you as my girlfriend, send via inbox, go!


..I kid, I kid.
Seriously though, the point of this is confidence. to all you guys having trouble asking a girl out, confidence, don't show you are insecure, be confident. What's the worst that can happen? You get rejected. That's all lol. It can hurt, but its totally manageable. Show confidence

 

[The Squirrel]

I do show confidence when talking to people, but I come here to let my insecurities out. I need to channel it somewhere.

 

[TheAQU4M4N]

If your a guy, and you wanna get something nice for your best friend who is also a guy is that cool. I have been debating this type of thing for years, i've known my best friend since i was in kindergarten, and we usually never do that type of thing, but some reason i'm in a giving mood haha

 

[Anubis]

Keep it manly.

Booze. A Carton of Cigarettes. Power Tools. Cupcakes.

 

[The Squirrel]

So I was sending messages back and forth with this one girl, we even IM'd a little. Things were going good, so I asked her out. She initially agreed, but when I sent a follow up message with the details of the date (time/day/place) she never responded. Thoughts?

 

[SpideyVille]

So I was sending messages back and forth with this one girl, we even IM'd a little. Things were going good, so I asked her out. She initially agreed, but when I sent a follow up message with the details of the date (time/day/place) she never responded. Thoughts?

How long has it been? And what day/time did you suggest to meet up?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

EDIT: Sorry, didn't see your post Spidey, same question

 

[Hawkingbird]

Well I realised I'm unlikely to have my first proper relationship till next year because I'm not interested in anyone in my year can't wait to move schools in Year 12.

 

[steintym]

That doesn't mean you have to wait until next year. Keep your options open.