Official Relationship Thread: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

[WillardNation]

I hope, for all of our sakes, that when it's the 'right one' it'll be different, and it won't feel like a chore or an inconvenience or a burden on your life.

But then... that's the eternal optimist in me

Eh, I'm not upset. And I honestly have never had a fear of being alone. I'm actually way more comfortable being alone.

That being said, I saw on facebook last night that she went out drinking with her friends. I woke up this morning to a missed call and 2 texts from her. The first text said, "I miss you. Goodnight." and then 20 minutes later was the missed call and the 2nd text that just said, "A lot."

I had no idea what to reply. I didn't want to go back on anything and say, "I miss you, too." but I also didn't want to be a dick and go with, "Well you broke up with me so tough ****." so I eventually replied, "Yeah... it's weird...". She said, "I don't like it."

Then she texts me a little bit ago saying she found one of my shirts at her house and that I could stop by and grab it tonight. I'm not going to.

She also just changed her FB profile picture to a pic of her and my sister. I want to say that that is being aimed at me or something but I may just be reading too much into it.

It's weird, I pride myself on being a rational and logical person and basing my decisions off of those things rather than emotions so I have no plans of working things out and getting back together with her but, at the same time, there's some part of my brain that has managed to hold onto some emotions and throw out a couple random thoughts of missing her.

The whole dynamic between men and women is a huge part of why I don't understand humans. We're such dumb creatures.

 

[Anita18]

True... but I guess since it's birds of a feather... why pay for a Real Doll when you can get a moving one for free?

Cause you pay by having to either wine and dine her (and then paying for her lifestyle), or by using your charms to attract her?

Either way, you still gotta expend some effort.

It's weird, I pride myself on being a rational and logical person and basing my decisions off of those things rather than emotions so I have no plans of working things out and getting back together with her but, at the same time, there's some part of my brain that has managed to hold onto some emotions and throw out a couple random thoughts of missing her.

The whole dynamic between men and women is a huge part of why I don't understand humans. We're such dumb creatures.

Not really. Other animals rely on instinct or by gut. Humans have the gift/curse of being able to think long-term. That's why you don't want to get back with her - you know it'll lead to the same outcome, so why waste your time going around in circles.

I still have my ex-bf's baby pictures somewhere, because he didn't want me to return them. Actually I wouldn't be surprised if my mom just left them in the garage and/or donated them in the 10 years since.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Of course not! But there doesn't seem to be the market for Real Guy Dolls as there seem to be with Real Girl Dolls.

And the guys who put up with bad behavior because a girl is hot might as well cut to the chase regarding their superficial tastes and get a Real Doll. You can even choose your optimal breast size!

Don't worry nobody is going to replace you with a robot anytime soon.

So what's been going on in this thread since I was away?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Eh, I'm not upset. And I honestly have never had a fear of being alone. I'm actually way more comfortable being alone.

That being said, I saw on facebook last night that she went out drinking with her friends. I woke up this morning to a missed call and 2 texts from her. The first text said, "I miss you. Goodnight." and then 20 minutes later was the missed call and the 2nd text that just said, "A lot."

I had no idea what to reply. I didn't want to go back on anything and say, "I miss you, too." but I also didn't want to be a dick and go with, "Well you broke up with me so tough ****." so I eventually replied, "Yeah... it's weird...". She said, "I don't like it."

Then she texts me a little bit ago saying she found one of my shirts at her house and that I could stop by and grab it tonight. I'm not going to.

She also just changed her FB profile picture to a pic of her and my sister. I want to say that that is being aimed at me or something but I may just be reading too much into it.

It's weird, I pride myself on being a rational and logical person and basing my decisions off of those things rather than emotions so I have no plans of working things out and getting back together with her but, at the same time, there's some part of my brain that has managed to hold onto some emotions and throw out a couple random thoughts of missing her.

The whole dynamic between men and women is a huge part of why I don't understand humans. We're such dumb creatures.

Yeah, I don't think hearts and minds tend to work together very often, especially in break ups.

And I know what you mean by not being afraid to be alone. But it's still nice to feel those emotions sometimes, and to know someone loves you. Little things about relationships have their benefits. It's not all about making sure you have a partner.

Don't worry nobody is going to replace you with a robot anytime soon.

So what's been going on in this thread since I was away?

Wow... how long have you been gone? You missed Dreadstar didn't you?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Don't worry nobody is going to replace you with a robot anytime soon.

So what's been going on in this thread since I was away?

I got a girlfriend, broke up with said girlfriend, and almost got laid.

How's that for the Mayan apocalypse?

And yes... Dreadstar... Oh Dreadstar...

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Is it a little depressing that nothing noteworthy has happened in my love life since you've been gone...

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I got a girlfriend, broke up with said girlfriend, and almost got laid.

How's that for the Mayan apocalypse?

And yes... Dreadstar... Oh Dreadstar...

Well, that’s an improvement anyway. At the least should improve your comfort level around women.

Is it a little depressing that nothing noteworthy has happened in my love life since you've been gone...

Well, has anything in your life happened that is noteworthy, outside of the romantic realm?


My second son was just born on the 20th, most noteworthy thing for a while.

 

[Anita18]

Well, has anything in your life happened that is noteworthy, outside of the romantic realm?


My second son was just born on the 20th, most noteworthy thing for a while.

Yeah, hopeful moved into the city. Kind of a big deal.

Congrats!

 

[Pfeiffer-Pfan]

I just got a text from a 'friend' saying that while they really like me... it's like trying to get close to an iceberg.

Yikes. I guess I might have some issues.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well, that’s an improvement anyway. At the least should improve your comfort level around women.

Yea, here's hoping.

I'm a little frustrated in a current situation, but that's not so much a comfort level so much as the girl in question has issues she needs to work out.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Yea, here's hoping.

I'm a little frustrated in a current situation, but that's not so much a comfort level so much as the girl in question has issues she needs to work out.

Yeah, good idea to simply start over again with a new girl.

New year, good time for a fresh start.

 

[The Squirrel]

Cool, first post of the year.

Well I've gotten myself into a pickle. I gone out on a few dates with a girl, and apparently she really likes me. I find her to be just... ok. I don't really feel a connection to her. So other than just ignoring her texts, how should I proceed?

 

[the last son]

Honesty is always the best policies for both parties. Why would you want to keep ignoring text when you can just tell her and be done with it?

 

[The Squirrel]

I have told her, it didn't seem to stick on her end.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Well, has anything in your life happened that is noteworthy, outside of the romantic realm?

Yeah, hopeful moved into the city. Kind of a big deal.

Congratulations on your son, that's awesome

And yeah, what Anita said Got a better job, live in the city, and generally just have a much happier life now. But still, relationships elude me.

Hooked up with a guy last night, first person i've slept with since I moved here. He was okay, good looking, nice enough. Don't remember his name though . But when I woke up with him trying to cuddle me, I kept pushing him off. Was a really strange sensation, like i'm just so not used to having anyone next to me when I sleep that it felt wrong somehow. Bailed out of there at 6am, think he was a bit surprised I was in such a rush and said something about it being a shame cause morning sex is great... but I dunno, I am NEVER in the mood the night after a drunk hook up... It's mostly just the coyote ugly thing

 

[Erzengel]

I have told her, it didn't seem to stick on her end.

Were you direct or wishy washy when you told her?

 

[The Squirrel]

Were you direct or wishy washy when you told her?

I could have been a little of both. I just sent a more direct one. I'll see what happens now.

 

[knowsbleed]

The text break up... what a glorious thing to exist. Too bad there's not a block/ignore button in real life.


'bleed

 

[The Squirrel]

Right? Though is it a break up when you've not in a relationship? And she's the one that is more into the texting then talking on the phone.

 

[grout]

I have told her, it didn't seem to stick on her end.

Oh boy, one of those that dont get it... Well,, get a shovel because your in deep shi* lol

 

[grout]

Congratulations on your son, that's awesome

And yeah, what Anita said Got a better job, live in the city, and generally just have a much happier life now. But still, relationships elude me.

Hooked up with a guy last night, first person i've slept with since I moved here. He was okay, good looking, nice enough. Don't remember his name though . But when I woke up with him trying to cuddle me, I kept pushing him off. Was a really strange sensation, like i'm just so not used to having anyone next to me when I sleep that it felt wrong somehow. Bailed out of there at 6am, think he was a bit surprised I was in such a rush and said something about it being a shame cause morning sex is great... but I dunno, I am NEVER in the mood the night after a drunk hook up... It's mostly just the coyote ugly thing

If he was good looking.. How does the coyote drunk thing come in?

 

[knowsbleed]

Right? Though is it a break up when you've not in a relationship?

Nope, my error on incorrect use of terminology. Perhaps "escape" is a more suitable term to apply to this situation.

And she's the one that is more into the texting then talking on the phone.

What did she say when you told her you weren't interested anymore... the first time?

 

[Erzengel]

Congratulations on your son, that's awesome

And yeah, what Anita said Got a better job, live in the city, and generally just have a much happier life now. But still, relationships elude me.

Hooked up with a guy last night, first person i've slept with since I moved here. He was okay, good looking, nice enough. Don't remember his name though . But when I woke up with him trying to cuddle me, I kept pushing him off. Was a really strange sensation, like i'm just so not used to having anyone next to me when I sleep that it felt wrong somehow. Bailed out of there at 6am, think he was a bit surprised I was in such a rush and said something about it being a shame cause morning sex is great... but I dunno, I am NEVER in the mood the night after a drunk hook up... It's mostly just the coyote ugly thing

I don't usually stay in one position all night so I don't hold or can be held.

But sleeping next to someone, is just something you get use to. Although I sleep alone a few times a week because of different work schedules, I normally put the TV on when I am by myself.

 

[knowsbleed]

When I'm with someone, we have 3 beds... one communal/activity bed and 2 separate sleeping beds.

 

[grout]

When I'm with someone, we have 3 beds... one communal/activity bed and 2 separate sleeping beds.

You Hippie!