Is this 14 city miles? Can't you just take a subway?
It's outside the city.
that reminds me of Joseph-Gordon Levitt's character from 500 Days of Summer
I havent seen the movie yet but from what i hear he's a good example of this idealistic dude who's looking for hte 'right person' and has no idea of compromise. we can't be that. guys or girls.
Actually, JGL's character was trying to compromise, but it was the girl who was being a real ***** about the relationship. But then again I may be bias since he reminded me a lot of myself.
Yeah that's not too bad. I used to live in Germany without a license the first year and met a girl who lived 30-40 miles away. Things moved kind of fast though because within a month I was spending nights and weekends. Also if I didn't make it back by a certain time on Sunday the bus wouldn't run near the base and I'd have to hail a cab.
Yeah I remember I liked a girl that I would only see at church because she lived about 30 miles away from me and wasn't really used to being in the city on her own. One time I was going to stay at a friend of hers and mine's house so I could spend the day with her over there. It didn't happen but I knew then that it wasn't going to work even though I could've also taken a train, but I wasn't really looking forward to that because that would've been half a day spent traveling.
That movie was cute but ultimately I didn't like it all that much. I only really like movies where the main character actually learns something. He didn't.
I actually think he did learn something. I mean he was depressed after breaking up with her, and even more depressed after he realized she was engaged, but after a few weeks he snapped out of it and tried to fix his life, quitting his job and going after his real dream. And even though it didn't work out right away, he didn't quit.
Not to mention the narrator mentions at the end: [BLACKOUT]"If Tom had learned anything... it was that you can't ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence, that's all anything ever is, nothing more than coincidence... Tom had finally learned, there are no miracles. There's no such thing as fate, nothing is meant to be. He knew, he was sure of it now. "[/BLACKOUT] He basically learned how to face reality.
I'm boggled. I'm talking to three girls on OkCupid, one is 18, one is 24 and one is 26. The 24 and 26 years olds are using terrible punctuation, bad spelling and grammar, whereas the 18 year old is writing almost flawlessly.
Hmmmm...curious.
I can't stand the people who can't type properly, so I guess that would be a dealbreaker of mine.
I'm super skeptical of this "professional" advice. I've literally heard it all and I know what needs to be done--I'm trying to get better on my own--it's just taking such a long and painful time to get there. My serotonin pills will help bide me some time until I'm able to get there.
God damn right.
I've been feeling like this for years I'd say...I've just been finding ways to deal with it.
I think it runs in the family because my sister's had bad depression problems for most of her life and my mother too. I haven't done much about it "clinically" other than the occasional pop of 5-HTP...
and it goes far beyond "not getting a girl"....I don't like leaving the house, I don't like getting up for work, I don't like talking to people, I have trouble sleeping, I avoid family members,..etc.
I'm super skeptical of this "professional" advice. I've literally heard it all and I know what needs to be done--I'm trying to get better on my own--it's just taking such a long and painful time to get there. My serotonin pills will help bide me some time until I'm able to get there.
I've mentioned how I spent the past year and a half "depressed" so I can understand what you're going through. At first people thought it was because of a girl, but I quickly realized it was deeper than that. I was more frustrated with my life and myself. I felt like everything I thought I knew was a lie and that I didn't really know anything, and I had to change a lot of things that I had no desire to change. So I was pretty much stuck and I too started to hate talking to people and family and I stopped going out and missed a bunch of classes when school started for the first time in my life.
A few people suggested professional help, but even though part of me felt like I needed it, I also knew that the only thing I needed was a good friend to talk to and someone who would listen and give me honest advice. I kept saying I knew what I had to do and what needed to change, but what I didn't know was how to change it. I can say that I am doing much better now, even though I can't really explain why. Like I feel much more confident and I feel like I could get a girlfriend now if I just try, but at the same time I feel like there's still some things that I need to change not just to help me now, but also for the future. But even though I'm alone now, I feel much better about things because I just have hope and faith in myself to get to where I want to be eventually. I'm not saying that it will be easy or that things will get better right away, but just try to keep looking at the brighter side of things, and if possible, talk to people. You may not want to get out or talk to people, but sometimes a bit of fresh air and a good ear will go a long way.
Also the person who I know consider to be my best friend told me this when I felt at my worse, and that's to just do things in baby steps. Don't try to make any big jumps right away. Instead, take things one step at a time at your own pace. Eventually you'll find yourself where you need to be. Also, try to surround yourself around positive things. I know my mom is very negative and most of my thoughts stemmed from being around her and only her all my life, so it was hard to see things positively. But a friend of mine got my into some comedy shows that really made me feel better just because all I did was laugh with them. That really helped me forget what was even bothering me.
These questions will allow you to find out all sort of things about her personality. Girls love fin stuff like a quiz, and she is already trying to qualify herself to you. 
