Raiders of the Official Relationship Thread

[SuperMike335!!]

Yeah, and if it's the same guy. He's full of s'. Considering his photo bucket account only had one picture of his "girlfriend" and a few pics of himself.

Sure I'm full of "s"

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

That was completely unnecessary but whatever. It was clearly someone you knew. I saw your same kitchen in both shots.

 

[Erzengel]

For a while in the TDKR boards (yeah I know) some guy was adamant that Anne Hathaway was a fat cow and posted a pic of his gf to show his ideal woman, which IIRC he said would not be over 110lbs. The gf looked no more than 5'3", and honest to golly if she was under 110lbs, I better check my scale again because I'm sure I'd only be in the double digits.

Yeah, and if it's the same guy. He's full of s'. Considering his photo bucket account only had one picture of his "girlfriend" and a few pics of himself.

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[Anita18]

That was completely unnecessary but whatever. It was clearly someone you knew. I saw your same kitchen in both shots.

Seriously. A webcam pic of you groping your sleeping girlfriend? Really?

 

[Anita18]

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Erz, if there was a time to use the quote feature, that was it.

But the resulting misunderstanding gave me a good laugh, so maybe it was worth it.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Seriously. A webcam pic of you groping your sleeping girlfriend? Really?

She wan't sleeping .

I might have put up a less suggestive picture, and I certainly could have done worse, but then there is some *** clown who has to accuse me of putting up a picture of a "just a friend" or something. So, it makes it clear enough, she is indeed with me, and not plutonic.

Call me all sorts of things *****ebad and ***hole, guilty as charged, but Liar is not one of them.

 

[Erzengel]

My post wasn't directed at you. Reach the above posts.

 

[SpideyInATree]

Heh. *****ebad. That sounds like the title of a movie I'm going to write. I'm copyrighting that word.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

She wan't sleeping .

I might have put up a less suggestive picture, and I certainly could have done worse, but then there is some *** clown who has to accuse me of putting up a picture of a "just a friend" or something. So, it makes it clear enough, she is indeed with me, and not plutonic.

Call me all sorts of things *****ebad and ***hole, guilty as charged, but Liar is not one of them.

I mean there weren't other pictures? Most girls I know wouldn't want that shown idly on a messageboard. An engagement photo perhaps?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

This thread just took a fun direction.

 

[Anita18]

I mean there weren't other pictures? Most girls I know wouldn't want that shown idly on a messageboard. An engagement photo perhaps?

Unless she's as much of an exhibitionist as he is?

But yeah, most people I know wouldn't want their pics to be shown willy nilly on a public messageboard, let alone one in where they're in bed in a state of undress.

What's gold is that that pic is on the first post of this page.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I mean there weren't other pictures? Most girls I know wouldn't want that shown idly on a messageboard. An engagement photo perhaps?

As for her caring, it was her idea to black out her parts. This is the same girl who put up a picture of us together, in bed, as her facebook profile picture. You should have seen the **** storm that caused!

I may have overreacted a bit when accused of being a liar (or looked accused), but what's done is done.

 

[SpideyVille]

This thread just took a fun direction.

That was my same reaction seeing where this went in the few hours that I was gone.

 

[Optimus_Prime_]

As for her caring, it was her idea to black out her parts. This is the same girl who put up a picture of us together, in bed, as her facebook profile picture. You should have seen the **** storm that caused!

I may have overreacted a bit when accused of being a liar (or looked accused), but what's done is done.

I'm frankly surprised you felt you needed to prove it at all.

 

[bullets]

Ok, I've been chatting with this apparently cute chick on OkCupid for a few days. We've been messaging for the past hour or so, I'm not sure of her motives, but I just asked her out to meet.

Let's see what happens..

Good luck I spent an hour talking to a girl on Ok Cupid. I'm just hoping she's the real deal , lol.

I can't make calls or text on my phone, so I asked her what happened online, but she never replied. Now I just got a text from her at 4am asking if I wanted to go ice skating on Tuesday. I'll go but I don't even know if its worth making plans because I never hear from her and I hate getting ready and waiting for someone who never shows up.

I have ex girlfriend that calls when seemingly none of her friends are around. I know what the deal is so it doesn't bother me. Neither of us have many friends in this area. However it kind of got tiresome waiting to see if she would cancel. Also she does the thing with the texting , I'll send her something and not hear back for a few days. So I'm just at the point where sometimes I cancel on her so it doesn't seem like I'm readily available. Now, If she wants to go somewhere bad enough I'll know.

Hey, here's an awkward situation!
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I'd tell your girlfriend to get a lock on the door. He sounds like a problem.

 

[Erzengel]

The whole situation kind of angers me. I haven't told her though.

Girls always do the, "Oh isn't he sweet? He's looking out for me."

Nope. Probably a creep.

And if you haven't made out already, yeah, I'm apparently the jealous type.

You should. Communication is very important. I'm sure the explanation by at least him and your brother and his friends is "Oh, he was just drunk." But that's not really an excuse.

I'd tell her, just so that she'd be careful around him, especially if he's drinking.

 

[WillardNation]

Do you understand that being fat or thin is in no way as simple as just 'she eats a lot of pies and she doesn't?'

I have 4 or 5 female friends who can eat whatever the hell they like and never put on weight. My housemate at uni used to drink a 2 litre bottle of coke every day and went to mcdonalds 3 times a week... and she was stick thin.

It's all the metabolism of the indiviual, or how your body processes your food. I don't fully understand it, but I know for a fact that it is harder for some people to stay in shape than others.

Some girls have a small frame and therefore just don't look as 'big', and some look like a giant because of their large bone structure. And hey, some people have actual medical conditions that effect how big they are, or how much they crave food.

I am of a pretty average size I guess. I'm not skinny, I have 'wobbly' bits and i'm quite tall and broad shouldered. And I do sometimes get self conscious about that fact, BECAUSE I am around so many girls who are absolutely tiny. I mean, I tower over them.

I've been called fat before in school, or made to feel self conscious about my size. I seriously was NOT fat in school, though I wouldn't believe it at the time. I look back now at pics of me in a bikini with a flat stomach and long legs and wonder how the hell I ever let them make me think that.

But I did. Because although I was completely in proportion, I looked big next to the other girls.

Now I don't know what you classify as 'fat'. That's the danger in the word.

All I know, is that if you say 'I wouldn't date a fat girl' then I assume your talking about me. That's just the way a girls brain works if she has any inkling of feeling 'fat'.

When I say "fat", I don't mean thick or a big frame. I mean a gut, cellulite, round. I'm fully aware of people's metabolisms and whatnot. But a girl who is naturally bigger, doesn't have to be fat. If you eat healthy, you'll never be fat. I guarantee that. The problem with that is, there are such gross misconceptions about what is and isn't healthy these days that somebody could be eating a very strict "healthy" (in their perception) diet and not still be fat because they are being given false information about what's actually healthy.

I still think you're a jerk to feel that you can still get away with criticizing a person's weaknesses or physical condition like that. It doesn't help you or the other person.

I'm totally ok with you thinking that. But you can't guarantee it wouldn't help another person. Some people respond better to tough, not sugar coated truth. I do.

I wouldn't usually do this, but for the sake of this point, which I think is one of the reasons that I and other people in my position don't perhaps land as many guys, i'm going to.

I am 5'10, and last time I weighed in I was 13st11. I wear a UK size 14-16 trousers.

When I was at university, I was the same height, but about 12st6.

If I said to a guy like WillardNation - 'Would you date a girl who was nearly 14 stone?' what do you think his answer would be?

Society tells me i'm fat. The majority of men out there, will only call a girl 'hot' if she's slim. And if i'm completely honest it is my biggest confidence issue. I ALWAYS feel like the fat girl, because in all honestly i'm usually the biggest girl in the group/room. And even if I stand by to a guy who is slim, I feel fat next to him.

Here is the comparison of me then and now (don't have a lot of full body shots, and i've picked the same top for consistency).

I know I don't look FAT.

But do you get what i'm saying about how a man saying he doesn't like fat women, would never look twice at a fat woman, etc etc, effects a girl who is classed by society as overweight?

I wouldn't consider you fat. Could you stand to firm a bit, yeah (sorry if that comes across as mean or crass, I don't mean it to be, just being blunt for the sake of the conversation) but not fat. And if you were to ask me "Would you date a girl who was nearly 14 stone?" I would reply, "I'm sorry, what? I have no idea what a 'stone' is."

Yes, obviously most guys seem to prefer more petite size women. Don’t be discouraged however. Plenty of guys have found a good reason to prefer the sturdy girls. They find they tend to be better lovers. Some guys have found out there are benefits to sturdier girl. I mean by that a taller woman with a thicker bone frame.

By that I am not talking about obesity either, there is a big difference with a girl being at the upper end of her healthy BMI limit vs. being over the limit into the realm of unhealthy. Unhealthy is never attractive, but if she is still in the healthy range she is good to go.

There are some negatives to the petite size girls, and bonuses to the bigger ones. Silver lining one could say.

While the petite woman is the modern symbol of the feminine archetype, they are more often, not as good in bed. Simple physics. Its quite easy to get too rough with a petite woman, I have to be careful not to "break" her. The smaller cave can even leave bruises on your bear, he wont be sore right away, but will be very sore later. I found I have to be overly careful, cannot thrust too hard, cannot grab too hard its all too easy to hurt her back, arm, leg, etc... and they will cry if you do.

The sturdy girl, the "amazon" as some call her, can take the pounding of a water buffalo in rut. The amazon seems to have a true appreciation and enthusiasm for roughness, and there is no fear of accidentally breaking her either. I call that her being better in bed, at least from my own Brute point of view.

I completely disagree. I've been with a couple "sturdy" women and the sex was not even close to be as good as the sex I've had with the more petite women. Maybe it's just because that's my preference. I have no problem with thick women, I just really like my women smaller. They're not as fragile as you make them out to be, I can guarantee you will never break one. t:

 

[Anita18]

I'd tell your girlfriend to get a lock on the door. He sounds like a problem.

Lock on the door is definitely the best solution with the least drama.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I completely disagree. I've been with a couple "sturdy" women and the sex was not even close to be as good as the sex I've had with the more petite women. Maybe it's just because that's my preference. I have no problem with thick women, I just really like my women smaller. They're not as fragile as you make them out to be, I can guarantee you will never break one. t:

When I say sturdy I did not mean obese (unless you define BMI of about 24 as too big). Take a BMI of 23 or 24 and apply it to a girl who is 5'7"+ and she can still be very attractive, but petite she is not in any way, that is how I define sturdy. Right in the middle of the healthy range, but on perhaps a taller than average frame.

The problem with terms like "big" or "sturdy" is that the definition varies, .

I like girls to be smaller than me too, but its the degree of smaller. In person I am quite big. 5'9" and 160 will feel small next to a guy who is 6ft and almost 250. The tallest girl I was ever with was 6'2".

Then there are some smaller size guys, who are like 5'4" who prefer girls to be taller than themselves, but I don't see those couple too often. I suspect it is the female side that does not often date shorter men.

 

[SpideyInATree]

I've really only been with girls who have a little meat on their bones. I am really not a picky person when it comes to women. The only thing I'm picky about is whether they are psycho or not. I, unfortunately, attract a lot of psycho women.

My last girlfriend had such a super low self esteem and self image. I loved her a whole lot and, in my opinion, really helped her feel better about herself. The problem was that she, I think, thought that in doing that I was somehow Superman. Superman...I am not.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I've really only been with girls who have a little meat on their bones. I am really not a picky person when it comes to women. The only thing I'm picky about is whether they are psycho or not. I, unfortunately, attract a lot of psycho women.

My last girlfriend had such a super low self esteem and self image. I loved her a whole lot and, in my opinion, really helped her feel better about herself. The problem was that she, I think, thought that in doing that I was somehow Superman. Superman...I am not.

I think some people attract, subconscious or otherwise, certain types of members of the opposite sex.

Its like when I hear a woman say "I'm sick of ***holes and Jerks", then likely she has for whatever reason either only attracted, or gave those same types of men the time of day.

I don't know if we do it on purpose, but it sure happens.

 

[SpideyInATree]

Yeah, well...when I was younger I know I attracted them because I was too much of a nice guy and that's open season for psycho women.

However, I got a little older. Learned. Got into shape. Got some self confidence and that faded away. However, a couple psychos got through so it's not completely out of my system.

 

[WillardNation]

When I say sturdy I did not mean obese (unless you define BMI of about 24 as too big). Take a BMI of 23 or 24 and apply it to a girl who is 5'7"+ and she can still be very attractive, but petite she is not in any way, that is how I define sturdy. Right in the middle of the healthy range, but on perhaps a taller than average frame.

The problem with terms like "big" or "sturdy" is that the definition varies, .

I like girls to be smaller than me too, but its the degree of smaller. In person I am quite big. 5'9" and 160 will feel small next to a guy who is 6ft and almost 250. The tallest girl I was ever with was 6'2".

Then there are some smaller size guys, who are like 5'4" who prefer girls to be taller than themselves, but I don't see those couple too often. I suspect it is the female side that does not often date shorter men.

Yeah, I got what ya meant. I didn't mean BIG girls, just a little bigger than average. Not fat by any means. The biggest girl I think I've ever been with was maybe an inch or two taller than me with a proportionate body size. So I would not call her overweight at all, but she was bigger. And she was not good at sex at all.

And when I say smaller, I don't mean just smaller than me, I mean on the smaller side of average. I like em very petite.

 

[SpideyInATree]

Yeah, I got what ya meant. I didn't mean BIG girls, just a little bigger than average. Not fat by any means. The biggest girl I think I've ever been with was maybe an inch or two taller than me with a proportionate body size. So I would not call her overweight at all, but she was bigger. And she was not good at sex at all.

And when I say smaller, I don't mean just smaller than me, I mean on the smaller side of average. I like em very petite.

I'm 6' and was with a girl who was 6'3" and, trust me, she REALLY knew what she was doing! t:

 

[Anita18]

I think some people attract, subconscious or otherwise, certain types of members of the opposite sex.

Its like when I hear a woman say "I'm sick of ***holes and Jerks", then likely she has for whatever reason either only attracted, or gave those same types of men the time of day.

I don't know if we do it on purpose, but it sure happens.

Something else we agree on!

I have a coworker who's as tiny as I am. She's also an introverted hermit, but somehow finds herself in ALL kinds of trouble. Like, she's been assaulted more than once just walking down the street, and had to go across the country with none of her possessions in order to escape her fiance who had turned out to be completely psycho. Nothing resembling any of the above has ever happened to me.

There must be something I give off that tells people I don't take no crap.