The Relationship Thread and the Kingdom of the Crystal Advice

[WillardNation]

Who here believes in love?

I believe it exists but I also believe that not everybody gets to experience it.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Love is just extreme emotional attachment mixed with dependency and lust. People who say there's only one person in the world for them are idiots. What are the odds everyone finds that one person? You can fall in love with thousands of people quite easily and in time you could learn to love millions more.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Love is just extreme emotional attachment mixed with dependency and lust. People who say there's only one person in the world for them are idiots. What are the odds everyone finds that one person? You can fall in love with thousands of people quite easily and in time you could learn to love millions more.

I totally believe in love.

I don't believe in the concept of "the one". I believe that you meet someone, and if you're compatible, and form a bond together, then you will begin to love that person. There's no fate or anything supernatural about it. It's simply coincidence.

Uh oh, if you want to make sure you're doing it the complete opposite of what I suggest, you better go spend a lot of money on her right away.

What are the details of your "opposite way"?

I mean, what is that exactly? I’ve said lots of things, and you already got one contradiction going on the spending money, as accident or not, that fits well with my advice.

If you think that means you did not disrespect her and completely treat her like dirt, that’s extrapolating what I have said, or assuming it in further degree than meant to. I'm not Uruk hai.

So, if you "did the opposite of SuperMike", be more specific as to what you did.

Otherwise someone will think that means wait forever to ask a girl out and try to cozy up to her as a Friend first, then give her a 3 page essay confession of undying love, telling her you could never get another girl like her, and texting and calling her non-stop.

If you did those things, and THAT worked for you, we’re still all ears (or eyes as we’re reading) you have the floor.

In a nutshell:

-Waited to make any type of physical move on her until about the 3rd date. No attempts at romantic physical contact before that.
-Liberally pull out my wallet to offer to spend money on her - I'm lucky enough that she's not an expensive date, thus I haven't had to spend a lot of money on her, but the wallet has come out, and often - a SuperMike no no.
-Directly did the opposite of something you specifically advised me on for a particular occasion - you advised me to completely ignore Valentine's Day with this girl and not even so much as call her, and I texted her and took her out.
-While the term "love" hasn't been used (I do not feel as though I am at a point of "love" with her, nor to I feel we should be so early into our relationship), I am regularly "offering" words and displays of affection, and doing them more often than her, and they are not coming from a place of insecurity, but rather because they are what I am wanting to do at the moment. These "offers" of affection range from me telling her nice things and complimenting her, to getting her gifts for no other reason than because I want to.
-Some might say I made myself "too available" to her, by initiating probably 95% of contact with her (and even that's probably a bit conservative), not playing games to distance myself from her to "make her want me more", and always making myself available to her to see her or take her on a date.

 

[Anita18]

Uh oh, if you want to make sure you're doing it the complete opposite of what I suggest, you better go spend a lot of money on her right away.

What are the details of your "opposite way"?

I mean, what is that exactly? I’ve said lots of things, and you already got one contradiction going on the spending money, as accident or not, that fits well with my advice.

If you think that means you did not disrespect her and completely treat her like dirt, that’s extrapolating what I have said, or assuming it in further degree than meant to. I'm not Uruk hai.

So, if you "did the opposite of SuperMike", be more specific as to what you did.

Otherwise someone will think that means wait forever to ask a girl out and try to cozy up to her as a Friend first, then give her a 3 page essay confession of undying love, telling her you could never get another girl like her, and texting and calling her non-stop.

If you did those things, and THAT worked for you, we’re still all ears (or eyes as we’re reading) you have the floor.

Dude it's Nell, not Nave Torment.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

There's a good reason for me asking that question and it's based on the type of advice I give...

First off I want to clarify that this doesn't have as much to do about actual race as it does environment and social circles...u can b Black and "act White" and vice versa...

I am not Black, but just about all of my friends r...I date Black women, I hang out in "the hood", at Black bars and clubs.. I am usually the only non-Black person everywhere I hang out....

Where am I going with all this? Well the type of women I date don't date the average "White boy", there is a different type of "game" u have to use in your approach towards inner city Black and Hispanic (or even White girls in that circle and that is the type of woman my advice caters to...

Oh well **** your advice could help me. I'm black and chicks I try and pull are black chicks, alot of them from the hood. But also interested in how as a white guy you have to have different game to pull black chicks for yourself?

 

[DV8]

Oh well **** your advice could help me. I'm black and chicks I try and pull are black chicks, alot of them from the hood. But also interested in how as a white guy you have to have different game to pull black chicks for yourself?

yeah, basically you just need to make sure that you are more assertive in your demeanor in general with these types of women; that's not to say too aggressive or downright mean; but you will be tested more by these women naturally than a "White girl from the valley" . . . while I recommend all men to be assertive and embrace your inherent alpha male traits, this is especially when dealing with women who are from a more urban environment . . .

 

[Erzengel]

I'm too Suburban for an Urban.

 

[DV8]

I'm too Suburban for an Urban.

and while I get along and can effectively communicate with people from every social background, I just "fit it" better with urban folks Lol . . . your advice in here is probably the most universally acceptable though, Erz . . . I mentioned that a couple pages back

 

[Daniel Thompson]

yeah, basically you just need to make sure that you are more assertive in your demeanor in general with these types of women; that's not to say too aggressive or downright mean; but you will be tested more by these women naturally than a "White girl from the valley" . . . while I recommend all men to be assertive and embrace your inherent alpha male traits, this is especially when dealing with women who are from a more urban environment . . .

Yeah man good stuff, I'm going to be coming to you for advice from now on. Because these are the chicks I be trying to date. What tests do they put you through that you expierenced?

 

[lixdexia]

Hopefully not a grammar test, for your sake.

 

[DV8]

Yeah man good stuff, I'm going to be coming to you for advice from now on. Because these are the chicks I be trying to date. What tests do they put you through that you expierenced?

I don't want you to think about it in specific terms regarding "tests", but more specifically little **** they might do to push your buttons . . . testing your limits emotionally; seeing what pisses you off; or even trying to get you to buy them **** or run errands and **** like that for them; be wary of messin with chicks that do this too much, they will end up trying to use you

while it's cool to buy your GIRL gifts and stuff like that after you're exclusive, the average hoodrat will try to get whatever they can out of you LOL you have to make sure you are not "trickin off" on them . . . people that don't grow up struggling or around people with less money and don't understand that this is not an intentional behavior; it's something that is the result of adapting to urban circumstances; I'm going to inbox you some helpful links bro

 

[Daniel Thompson]

I don't want you to think about it in specific terms regarding "tests", but more specifically little **** they might do to push your buttons . . . testing your limits emotionally; seeing what pisses you off; or even trying to get you to buy them **** or run errands and **** like that for them; be wary of messin with chicks that do this too much, they will end up trying to use you

while it's cool to buy your GIRL gifts and stuff like that after you're exclusive, the average hoodrat will try to get whatever they can out of you LOL you have to make sure you are not "trickin off" on them . . . people that don't grow up struggling or around people with less money and don't understand that this is not an intentional behavior; it's something that is the result of adapting to urban circumstances; I'm going to inbox you some helpful links bro

So you think every chick that lives in the hood regardless if they are ****es or not are hoodrats?

 

[DV8]

So you think every chick that lives in the hood regardless if they are ****es or not are hoodrats?

No, definitely not...

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Not only is it possible for a girl from the "hood" to not be a hood rat at all, it is also possible for a girl who was raised hundreds of miles from any hood to become a hood rat.

This is an example of the "imported" Hood Rat.. Yeah, she's a white girl, sorta. This is a photo of her before she puts on her 6 layers of fake tan turning herself into the Orange Goblin.

Anyway, she is from rural Minnesota. She leaves her son with her family so she can spend most of her time in Chicago. "Cuz teh Brotha’s there B havin Swagggg"

Edit: BTW I am in no way affiliated nor ever have been with the above Orange Goblin. Just a "friend" of a friend. I would not hit that with someone else' ****.

 

[Anubis]

To be fair, Minnesota sucks.

 

[Erzengel]

The "Brothas" can have her.

 

[SuperMike335!!]

To be fair, Minnesota sucks.

Yeah. If my son did not live here I'd be somewhere with a beach that is warm year round.

 

[DV8]

Not only is it possible for a girl from the "hood" to not be a hood rat at all, it is also possible for a girl who was raised hundreds of miles from any hood to become a hood rat.

This is an example of the "imported" Hood Rat.. Yeah, she's a white girl, sorta. This is a photo of her before she puts on her 6 layers of fake tan turning herself into the Orange Goblin.

Anyway, she is from rural Minnesota. She leaves her son with her family so she can spend most of her time in Chicago. "Cuz teh Brotha’s there B havin Swagggg"

 

[DV8]

SuperMike has further proven that hoodrat is not merely a condition of environment or race; it is a mentality . . . or mental illness

 

[terry78]

Trust me there are plenty of white ghetto chicks out there who look rougher than the roughest looking black chick.

 

[DV8]

Trust me there are plenty of white ghetto chicks out there who look rougher than the roughest looking black chick.

don't tempt me . . . I will post pages upon pages of photos of them; the confused white hoodrats are THEE WORST; especially because most of them are so close-minded, they reject their own race; they will ONLY date Black men . . . it's ****ing ******ed; I mean, it's ok to prefer to date Black men or Mexicans, or whatever but to be so confused that you blindly reject anyone else is just . . . I don't even know what to call it

 

[terry78]

Well, some dudes and chicks only date a certain race as opposed to their own because they want acceptance or whatever. That's just how they are.

 

[Anubis]

Then there's that whole huge penis thing.

 

[Kane52630]

Trust me there are plenty of white ghetto chicks out there who look rougher than the roughest looking black chick.

I can back you on this. lol
I've seen my share of those white chicks.

 

[DV8]

a white hoodrat's dream is a black guy with a huge penis and a black hoodrat's dream is a white guy with a huge bank account; do not date either of these types of women whoever and wherever you happen to be