The Relationship Thread and the Kingdom of the Crystal Advice

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm simply explaining why I did what I did. I haven't decided on my next course of action and I'm very tempted to drop the pussyfooting nonsense and get to the point with her. It's also difficult to really read her reaction since she's so difficult to do stuff with even when my friend she's close with asks her.

You won't though, every step of the way with this girl so far has been pussyfooting around. You made this big plan to do this group hangout session over break, so you didn't have to actually ask her out. That didn't work in any way. Now you're making another eloborate plan to have her be your tour guide on a college visit, already planning on bringing friends around again so you can make sure she knows it's not a date. How do you think that's going to play out? I'll tell you how, exactly as the hang out session this past weekend. Rejection sucks, but what you're doing is actually worse, you're stringing yourself along. The only thing that will change things and help you is to ask her out directly, she's probably going to say no, but hey at least you tried and know for sure the romantic interest isn't mutual.

 

[DV8]

This is a continuation from the Lounge thread, but can anyone tell me the thought process of rich, married, white women and me? I've been accused of cheating and/or trying to trap their married husbands whom I've never explicitly had any purposeful engagements with at all. I'm thinking they must have me mixed up with my younger sister, who looks an awful lot like me. I have reason to suspect she may have had a dalliance with at least one of the women's mates based upon little word play hints she's dropped in my presence, but not that she's come out and named names though. But seriously, why am I the one to be getting all the death threats from these women because of things my sister might have done? And just why is one nutbar telling me she's going to drowned the guy I'm interested and put me in a coma? Really, what is wrong with these people? Do they just come into my laundromat and say all these things to amuse themselves? I have consciously done nothing, nothing to these people at all. If plain, little, ordinary me is a threat to their fragile little worlds, then they live in some pretty desperate situations because I personally don't think I warrant this sort of malevolent attention. I'm just a regular girl working a part time job and trying to scrape what little I can to live on.

maybe your sister told people she was you . . . PS would it kill you to separate your posts into separate paragraphs?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

that's EXACTLY what you need to do . . . you should also be chatting up other chicks though . . . a lot of chicks at the same time until one bites . . . people don't go fishing in a pond that only has one fish

PS so this chick is flaky huh?? yeah, most chicks are that's why you have to strike quickly with women

Yup. Until you're committed to someone, play the field. Tis not a bad thing. I was asking other girls out still when I met and started dating my girlfriend. I knocked that off quick, because it became apparent early that our relationship was gonna progress, but yea. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. You're not attached to anyone. It also takes the pressure off of you because you're not so caught up in the results of one girl because there are other options for you if one falls through.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

You won't though, every step of the way with this girl so far has been pussyfooting around.

No, I will be doing something. I'm tired of waiting for the opportunity to do something instead of making that opportunity happen myself. Right now, I'm thinking of telling her I'm just going to go to the school on my own sometime this week or weekend and see it myself and afterwards I'd like to get coffee with her. It's time to become a man who makes things happen instead of a boy who waits for them to happen.

 

[Schlosser85]

Frankly Jinouga's posts strike me as overdramatic, self-dramatizing, and blaming all her life's problems on "those evil rich people".

Just my $.02.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

Frankly Jinouga's posts strike me as overdramatic, self-dramatizing, and blaming all her life's problems on "those evil rich people".

Just my $.02.

So you're saying she's kinda like an Occupy Wall-street protest. t:

 

[Schlosser85]

People aren't evil just because they're rich. That's just as wrong as doing the same demonizing to poor people.

 

[Erzengel]

She just needs a blog or a diary.

 

[Anita18]

This is a continuation from the Lounge thread, but can anyone tell me the thought process of rich, married, white women and me? I've been accused of cheating and/or trying to trap their married husbands whom I've never explicitly had any purposeful engagements with at all. I'm thinking they must have me mixed up with my younger sister, who looks an awful lot like me. I have reason to suspect she may have had a dalliance with at least one of the women's mates based upon little word play hints she's dropped in my presence, but not that she's come out and named names though. But seriously, why am I the one to be getting all the death threats from these women because of things my sister might have done? And just why is one nutbar telling me she's going to drowned the guy I'm interested and put me in a coma? Really, what is wrong with these people? Do they just come into my laundromat and say all these things to amuse themselves? I have consciously done nothing, nothing to these people at all. If plain, little, ordinary me is a threat to their fragile little worlds, then they live in some pretty desperate situations because I personally don't think I warrant this sort of malevolent attention. I'm just a regular girl working a part time job and trying to scrape what little I can to live on.

Now I'm thinking people in real life find you just as entertaining to poke as we do.

She just needs a blog or a diary.

She already has one, and posts the same stuff there as here.

 

[Daniel Thompson]

that's EXACTLY what you need to do . . . you should also be chatting up other chicks though . . . a lot of chicks at the same time until one bites . . . people don't go fishing in a pond that only has one fish

PS so this chick is flaky huh?? yeah, most chicks are that's why you have to strike quickly with women

Sometimes you might not be in the position to strike quickly with them.

 

[DV8]

Sometimes you might not be in the position to strike quickly with them.

you are always in the position to strike quickly . . . thought not always in the position to strike smoothly or as ideally as you'd like

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Sometimes you might not be in the position to strike quickly with them.

That's just making excuses for yourself. I asked out a girl, then destroyed my achilles tendon, putting my right leg in a cast for six weeks. I had to rearrange the entire plan for going out with her, but still did it.

 

[Anubis]

Not a good idea to hit on a person if you've got a case of the bubble guts.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Sometimes you might not be in the position to strike quickly with them.

You are always in position to "strike quickly". The only reason why one can't "strike quickly" is because for whatever reason, they are psyching themselves out of doing it. I know. I was the king of that ****. Hell, I still am - I psyched myself out every step of the way when I first met my girlfriend, and I -knew- what her answer would be every step of the way, but I still worked myself out about it like a jackass.

Striking quickly is easy - "Would you like to go out sometime? "Would you like to grab a drink this weekend?" Ï'd like to take you out sometime, how about Saturday night?"

Bam. Done and done.

No elaborate plots. No justifying why you want to see her. Just a display of interest on your part. If she returns the interest, she says yes. If she doesn't return the interest, she says no, and you move on to the next girl.

Most of the advice asked for in this thread can all be boiled down to one song:

[YT]WM1RChZk1EU[/YT]

Ï'm on to the next one, on to the next one...

Unfortunately, the most accurate representation of this thread:

[YT]vx8sPzacvG0[/YT]

When I dream of fairytales I think of me and shelly
See shes my type of hype and I cant stand when brothers tell me
That I should quit chasin and look for something better
But the smile that she shows makes me a go-getter
I havent gone as far as asking if I could get with her
I just play it by ear and hope she gets the picture
Im shootin for her heart, got my finger on the trigger
She could be my broad, and I could be her (bleep)

And I must voice my opinion of not even pretending she didnt have me strung like a chicken, chase my tail like a doggie
She was kind of like a star, thinking I was like a fan
Dude, she looked good, down side: she had a man
He was a rooty-toot, a nincompoop
She told me soon your little birdies gonna fly the coop
She was a flake like corn, and I was born not to understand
By lettin her pass I had proved to be a better man

Now there she goes again, the dopest ethiopian
And now the world around me be gets movin in slow motion
When-ever she happens to walk by - why does the apple of my eye
Overlook and disregard my feelings no matter how much I try?
Wait, no, I did not really pursue my little princess with persistance;
And I was so low-key that she was unaware of my existance
From a distance I desired, secretly admired her;
Wired her a letter to get her, and it went:
My dear, my dear, my dear, you do not know me but I know you very well
Now let me tell you about the feelings I have for you
When I try, or make some sort of attempt, I symp
Damn I wish I wasnt such a wimp!
cause then I would let you know that I love you so
And if I was your man then I would be true
The only lying I would do is in the bed with you
Then I signed sincerely the one who loves you dearly, ps love me tender
The letter came back three days later: return to sender
Damn!

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Trust me. I know. I'm the king of doing all that dumb ****.

 

[DV8]

That's just making excuses for yourself. I asked out a girl, then destroyed my achilles tendon, putting my right leg in a cast for six weeks. I had to rearrange the entire plan for going out with her, but still did it.

LOL!! Amazingfantasy is a goddamn BEAST

 

[SuperMike335!!]

I'm not saying I'm expierencing this. Was watching Venture Brothers and the episode where Hank bangs his best friends older sister, only to find out she's actually his mom, and that his father knocked her up when she was 14 and was president of the Rusty Venture fan club. So Hank had a freak out and got his mind wiped. I couldn't help but feel that was a bit.....extreme. Like I said, they aren't related......but then maybe my moral compass is a bit off center to begin with.

And yeah, it's serious odiphal complex s**t if you know about it going in.....so to speak. Nothing says f**k you old man like bird dogging his new lady.

Go team Venture!

 

[DV8]

You are always in position to "strike quickly". The only reason why one can't "strike quickly" is because for whatever reason, they are psyching themselves out of doing it. I know. I was the king of that ****. Hell, I still am - I psyched myself out every step of the way when I first met my girlfriend, and I -knew- what her answer would be every step of the way, but I still worked myself out about it like a jackass.

are you Black Nell2ThaIzzay? just wondering . . .

 

[steintym]

Speaking of relationships, it's Steak and a BJ Day.

Yes!

Apparently some wives, mine included, don't believe this beautiful day exists. She thinks I made it up.

 

[steintym]

maybe your sister told people she was you . . . PS would it kill you to separate your posts into separate paragraphs?

Haha ... I usually don't make it through a sentence or two.

I have good intentions, start reading, the stream of thoughts/sentences start bleeding together ... and I'm out.

 

[DV8]

Haha ... I usually don't make it through a sentence or two.

I have good intentions, start reading, the stream of thoughts/sentences start bleeding together ... and I'm out.

yeah I took the initiative to really, really concentrate this time and I made it through . . . but now my brain hurts

 

[SuperMike335!!]

Yes!

Apparently some wives, mine included, don't believe this beautiful day exists. She thinks I made it up.

Wow, I had the opposite thing happen.

I didn't know about it until my girl told me about it.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

are you Black Nell2ThaIzzay? just wondering . . .

Nah, but I always joke with my friends that im black in spirit, because I listen to rap, r & b, and soul / Motown music, and I grew up with a father who loved listening to blues music and jazz music (duke Ellington style jazz, not Kenny g style jazz), and I honestly probably related more to black people and black culture than I do white people and white culture (but I mean, im a nerd on a comic boom forum, im still a whitey too lol)

Why do you ask?

 

[Hound55]

I'm not saying I'm expierencing this. Was watching Venture Brothers and the episode where Hank bangs his best friends older sister, only to find out she's actually his mom, and that his father knocked her up when she was 14 and was president of the Rusty Venture fan club. So Hank had a freak out and got his mind wiped. I couldn't help but feel that was a bit.....extreme. Like I said, they aren't related......but then maybe my moral compass is a bit off center to begin with.

And yeah, it's serious odiphal complex s**t if you know about it going in.....so to speak. Nothing says f**k you old man like bird dogging his new lady.

What's a Rusty Venture..?

 

[The Guard]

Yes!

Apparently some wives, mine included, don't believe this beautiful day exists. She thinks I made it up

It's a shame how many people don't know it exists. I found about it because someone else's wife told me about it and offered to help me celebrate. It seems to be something that women are supposed to tell men about.

 

[DV8]

Nah, but I always joke with my friends that im black in spirit, because I listen to rap, r & b, and soul / Motown music, and I grew up with a father who loved listening to blues music and jazz music (duke Ellington style jazz, not Kenny g style jazz), and I honestly probably related more to black people and black culture than I do white people and white culture (but I mean, im a nerd on a comic boom forum, im still a whitey too lol)

Why do you ask?

oh ok . . . pretty much like me Lol . . . I was just wondering