The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - - Part 28

[Grabes30]

Shadowboxer, a lot of your points remind me of some of my own experiences. I was on eharmony for a while, and it seemed to match me up with a lot of African American women....like the kind with some junk in the trunk and allll that, haha. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm like you guys, I have nothing at all against interracial dating either. But.... I'm a 135 pound white guy, and that's not quite what I'm looking for. I went to school for 4 years, but decided that I'd ultimately want to work for myself anyway, so I never gave a thought to a graduate degree or anything. A good deal of these girls are looking for a guy that makes at least 80 grand and/or have a graduate degree or doctorate. I don't know how many 30 year olds there are that are at that point. I doubt there are too many.

I have a job while I'm trying to start my own thing, and I've kept it even though I hate it. I have my own place, pay all my own bills, and in the process can't seem to save any money because I have nobody to split the bills with. I'm neat, organized, nice (as long as people are nice to me). I'm a Christian too, but not a "Jesus freak" that's going to shove it in your face. I have my nerd tendencies (why else would I be on here), but don't list them on my Match profile. I'm thin, sort of built like a runner, so I'm not ripped or anything, but I'm probably at least a 7 or 8. Some girls I've emailed or "liked" on Match don't write me back, even though they have a LOT of the same interests. Maybe they're talking to somebody, maybe they want a doctor, maybe they just don't like my beard. I don't know.

The last several girls I've talked to, or tried to, have gone like this:

2 years ago:
*Girl one year below me in high school (14 years ago), artist and hockey nut like myself. She sent friend request on Facebook and liked a lot of my pictures/comments. I emailed her. That lasted a week and she stopped writing back. No explanation. I never even formally asked her out.
* A friend's daughter. I never met her, but was the exact same deal as above. Stopped writing me with no explanation. I found out she was talking to somebody else, but never said anything, even though she said we'd go out sometime.
*Girl at store I talked to a few times: Finally asked her out, she stood there and looked at me. Said absolutely nothing....just stood there and looked at me. I walked away.

Last year:
*Old friend from high school who I hadn't seen or talked to since then. Went out once, didn't think it was a date, but then she stood there and let me pay for lunch, and then ice cream later. When I brought it up a few weeks later, after still talking to her some, it got weird and she stopped writing me back. I found out through some detective work she was talking to a guy that lived the whole way across the country. The whole time.
*Match: Several girls never reciprocated, or emailed me back. The most recent emailed me, then proceeded to not answer after I emailed her back the next day, even though she said she hadn't had good luck. A week later her profile was turned off.

So... I guess the reason for typing all that is..... even if you have most of your **** put together, sometimes people are people..... and people are freaking weird most of the time. Like we established a few posts up, I think it really is dumb luck. Unless you're a rich actor/athlete, you almost have to ask out 10 girls to get one to say yes. Maybe, at some point..... the right one just shows up one day. So.....hang in there. I'm not there yet either.

 

[terry78]

The issue with dating sites is that it's a buyer's market, meaning the women. They get hit up like every few seconds more than likely.

 

[ShadowBoxer]

Shadowboxer, a lot of your points remind me of some of my own experiences. I was on eharmony for a while, and it seemed to match me up with a lot of African American women....like the kind with some junk in the trunk and allll that, haha. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm like you guys, I have nothing at all against interracial dating either. But.... I'm a 135 pound white guy, and that's not quite what I'm looking for. I went to school for 4 years, but decided that I'd ultimately want to work for myself anyway, so I never gave a thought to a graduate degree or anything. A good deal of these girls are looking for a guy that makes at least 80 grand and/or have a graduate degree or doctorate. I don't know how many 30 year olds there are that are at that point. I doubt there are too many.

I have a job while I'm trying to start my own thing, and I've kept it even though I hate it. I have my own place, pay all my own bills, and in the process can't seem to save any money because I have nobody to split the bills with. I'm neat, organized, nice (as long as people are nice to me). I'm a Christian too, but not a "Jesus freak" that's going to shove it in your face. I have my nerd tendencies (why else would I be on here), but don't list them on my Match profile. I'm thin, sort of built like a runner, so I'm not ripped or anything, but I'm probably at least a 7 or 8. Some girls I've emailed or "liked" on Match don't write me back, even though they have a LOT of the same interests. Maybe they're talking to somebody, maybe they want a doctor, maybe they just don't like my beard. I don't know.

The last several girls I've talked to, or tried to, have gone like this:

2 years ago:
*Girl one year below me in high school (14 years ago), artist and hockey nut like myself. She sent friend request on Facebook and liked a lot of my pictures/comments. I emailed her. That lasted a week and she stopped writing back. No explanation. I never even formally asked her out.
* A friend's daughter. I never met her, but was the exact same deal as above. Stopped writing me with no explanation. I found out she was talking to somebody else, but never said anything, even though she said we'd go out sometime.
*Girl at store I talked to a few times: Finally asked her out, she stood there and looked at me. Said absolutely nothing....just stood there and looked at me. I walked away.

Last year:
*Old friend from high school who I hadn't seen or talked to since then. Went out once, didn't think it was a date, but then she stood there and let me pay for lunch, and then ice cream later. When I brought it up a few weeks later, after still talking to her some, it got weird and she stopped writing me back. I found out through some detective work she was talking to a guy that lived the whole way across the country. The whole time.
*Match: Several girls never reciprocated, or emailed me back. The most recent emailed me, then proceeded to not answer after I emailed her back the next day, even though she said she hadn't had good luck. A week later her profile was turned off.

So... I guess the reason for typing all that is..... even if you have most of your **** put together, sometimes people are people..... and people are freaking weird most of the time. Like we established a few posts up, I think it really is dumb luck. Unless you're a rich actor/athlete, you almost have to ask out 10 girls to get one to say yes. Maybe, at some point..... the right one just shows up one day. So.....hang in there. I'm not there yet either.

Ha wow our dating life situation is nearly identical. Yea hopefully this is the year.

 

[ShadowBoxer]

As a woman who has used online dating you make some interesting points:
1. I find it weird how people can judge a potential partner based on race. There are cute guys from all races!
2. I suppose religion may be important to some as your belief system can influence many aspects of your life.
3. You have to be honest about your hobbies. One guy I chatted to loved to go mountain climbling and wanted me to go with him - no thanks! Got to have stuff in common.
4. Income is where women get shallow. Men (jerks) go for the blonde with big boobs, and women (golddiggers) go for the guy with money. If this matters to a woman more than your qualities you are better off avoiding her altogether.
5. I bet you are being really horrible to yourself! 7/10 isn't bad and you may not appreciate that you look better than you think?
6. As someone who is shy, I get this. But rejection/disappointment is temporary, while regret for never asking is permanent I have become braver as I get older!

Hope 2015 is the year for everyone to find their special someone t:

Thanks for the input Spitfire! You make some very good points I didn't think about.

 

[Erzengel]

We had a poster here who would post stuff like you guys did. Instances of each girl and what went wrong.

Graves said it, some people will always have it easier.

The trick is to keep asking and plug away until you find someone. It may not be easy but you should try every avenue. Join a social club, join a community or church group, online, etc.

You should meet someone somewhere.

 

[Anita18]

How long into a relationship can one fart in front of a partner without massacring the relationship?

You can use it as a relationship test. You aren't comfortably settled in a relationship until you can fart or burp disgustingly in front of each other. Some people take longer than others.

Shadowboxer, a lot of your points remind me of some of my own experiences. I was on eharmony for a while, and it seemed to match me up with a lot of African American women....like the kind with some junk in the trunk and allll that, haha. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm like you guys, I have nothing at all against interracial dating either. But.... I'm a 135 pound white guy, and that's not quite what I'm looking for. I went to school for 4 years, but decided that I'd ultimately want to work for myself anyway, so I never gave a thought to a graduate degree or anything. A good deal of these girls are looking for a guy that makes at least 80 grand and/or have a graduate degree or doctorate. I don't know how many 30 year olds there are that are at that point. I doubt there are too many.

I have a job while I'm trying to start my own thing, and I've kept it even though I hate it. I have my own place, pay all my own bills, and in the process can't seem to save any money because I have nobody to split the bills with. I'm neat, organized, nice (as long as people are nice to me). I'm a Christian too, but not a "Jesus freak" that's going to shove it in your face. I have my nerd tendencies (why else would I be on here), but don't list them on my Match profile. I'm thin, sort of built like a runner, so I'm not ripped or anything, but I'm probably at least a 7 or 8. Some girls I've emailed or "liked" on Match don't write me back, even though they have a LOT of the same interests. Maybe they're talking to somebody, maybe they want a doctor, maybe they just don't like my beard. I don't know.

So... I guess the reason for typing all that is..... even if you have most of your **** put together, sometimes people are people..... and people are freaking weird most of the time. Like we established a few posts up, I think it really is dumb luck. Unless you're a rich actor/athlete, you almost have to ask out 10 girls to get one to say yes. Maybe, at some point..... the right one just shows up one day. So.....hang in there. I'm not there yet either.

Well feelings are irrational. When you ask people what they want, they can only tell you what occurs to them, but feelings are very intangible. Sometimes you can't explain why you are attracted to one person over another.

I cannot tell you how my husband and I worked out, when our experience meeting was exactly the same as the 9 other guys I went on first-dates with and nothing worked out, and our online chats weren't memorable among the hundreds of guys I chatted with. It just....worked out, for whatever reason.

I will say that having your s*** together is good for you as a person, first of all, and does get you in the starting gate for most women. It doesn't mean you can have your pick, because of those intangible things that we can't help. So it's really no use trying to figure it out, because you won't. And if you do, you'll have to pretend for the rest of your life to keep that woman who only knows the fake you, which is a lot of effort. (And you might be missing out on the woman who would accept the real you as well!)

It's just better to be yourself - just a more open-minded and social version of yourself, so you can meet those women in the first place.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Shadowboxer, a lot of your points remind me of some of my own experiences. I was on eharmony for a while, and it seemed to match me up with a lot of African American women....like the kind with some junk in the trunk and allll that, haha. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm like you guys, I have nothing at all against interracial dating either. But.... I'm a 135 pound white guy, and that's not quite what I'm looking for. I went to school for 4 years, but decided that I'd ultimately want to work for myself anyway, so I never gave a thought to a graduate degree or anything. A good deal of these girls are looking for a guy that makes at least 80 grand and/or have a graduate degree or doctorate. I don't know how many 30 year olds there are that are at that point. I doubt there are too many.

I have a job while I'm trying to start my own thing, and I've kept it even though I hate it. I have my own place, pay all my own bills, and in the process can't seem to save any money because I have nobody to split the bills with. I'm neat, organized, nice (as long as people are nice to me). I'm a Christian too, but not a "Jesus freak" that's going to shove it in your face. I have my nerd tendencies (why else would I be on here), but don't list them on my Match profile. I'm thin, sort of built like a runner, so I'm not ripped or anything, but I'm probably at least a 7 or 8. Some girls I've emailed or "liked" on Match don't write me back, even though they have a LOT of the same interests. Maybe they're talking to somebody, maybe they want a doctor, maybe they just don't like my beard. I don't know.

The last several girls I've talked to, or tried to, have gone like this:

2 years ago:
*Girl one year below me in high school (14 years ago), artist and hockey nut like myself. She sent friend request on Facebook and liked a lot of my pictures/comments. I emailed her. That lasted a week and she stopped writing back. No explanation. I never even formally asked her out.
* A friend's daughter. I never met her, but was the exact same deal as above. Stopped writing me with no explanation. I found out she was talking to somebody else, but never said anything, even though she said we'd go out sometime.
*Girl at store I talked to a few times: Finally asked her out, she stood there and looked at me. Said absolutely nothing....just stood there and looked at me. I walked away.

Last year:
*Old friend from high school who I hadn't seen or talked to since then. Went out once, didn't think it was a date, but then she stood there and let me pay for lunch, and then ice cream later. When I brought it up a few weeks later, after still talking to her some, it got weird and she stopped writing me back. I found out through some detective work she was talking to a guy that lived the whole way across the country. The whole time.
*Match: Several girls never reciprocated, or emailed me back. The most recent emailed me, then proceeded to not answer after I emailed her back the next day, even though she said she hadn't had good luck. A week later her profile was turned off.

So... I guess the reason for typing all that is..... even if you have most of your **** put together, sometimes people are people..... and people are freaking weird most of the time. Like we established a few posts up, I think it really is dumb luck. Unless you're a rich actor/athlete, you almost have to ask out 10 girls to get one to say yes. Maybe, at some point..... the right one just shows up one day. So.....hang in there. I'm not there yet either.

Well, for the first two examples, Facebook is not a dating site. Those girls may have just thought you wanted to reconnect, you may have started getting flirty and they may have backed off because they didn't see you in that way. These girls have a very small connection to you, best advice I could give there, don't see Facebook as a dating site.

With Match or eHarmony or any dating site, you've got to cast a huge net and realize you may only get a response to 1 in 10/20/50 of the emails you send. It took me a spring and summer of bad dates from eHarmony, before I found my wife and I've known other people that it took longer.

 

[LEVITIKUZ]

Let me ask some of you guys this because I talked to my little brother about this. Depending on the situation and in more cases with mine, I think I'm right about this.

There is anything wrong with going up to a girl in like a public place, in my case college, talking to her and maybe after ask for her number? I say there isn't but my brother says you should try to be friends with the girl first. I can understand that if you already are but if you see a girl in public you don't know, there is nothing wrong with I said and plus IMO from the POV of the girl, I doubt she's thinking he wants to just be friends with me? Random stranger come up to you of the opposite sex and wants to just be friends?

Especially the ask for her number part at the end and I only ask because there have been some girls I've approached where all I know is there first name and I haven't seen them around campus since I talked to them.

 

[Grabes30]

I never said I was using Facebook as a dating site.

 

[Erzengel]

Let me ask some of you guys this because I talked to my little brother about this. Depending on the situation and in more cases with mine, I think I'm right about this.

There is anything wrong with going up to a girl in like a public place, in my case college, talking to her and maybe after ask for her number? I say there isn't but my brother says you should try to be friends with the girl first. I can understand that if you already are but if you see a girl in public you don't know, there is nothing wrong with I said and plus IMO from the POV of the girl, I doubt she's thinking he wants to just be friends with me? Random stranger come up to you of the opposite sex and wants to just be friends?

Especially the ask for her number part at the end and I only ask because there have been some girls I've approached where all I know is there first name and I haven't seen them around campus since I talked to them.

There's no right way to do things. It might work for some people, it may not work for others.

You can totally go up to a girl, cold and score her telephone number.

If he means that he should at least be not a stranger, it's probably easier. I'm sure lot of people would feel more comfortable in that situation.

 

[Anita18]

There's no right way to do things. It might work for some people, it may not work for others.

You can totally go up to a girl, cold and score her telephone number.

If he means that he should at least be not a stranger, it's probably easier. I'm sure lot of people would feel more comfortable in that situation.

I, as a woman who got approached maybe twice in my life for contact info right away and turned the guy down each time, would be MUCH more comfortable if we had actually at least had a conversation first. Like, 10 minutes or something.

I hand my business card out quite liberally if we've talked a little bit about something interesting. Happens all the time in networking events. I'm comfortable doing that, even for men.

But if you just come up to me randomly and tell me how pretty I am and then ask for my digits, hell no I'm not giving you my number. I have no idea if you're a creepy stalker, I haven't had even 10 seconds of interaction with you. My intuition is good, but it ain't THAT good.

I have a fairly attractive friend who thinks any guy who comes up to her cold and asks her out is a creeper. She's never been in a serious relationship, but is far too paranoid to just say yes to some guy to just comes up and asks for her number. In fact, she bemoans she needs plastic surgery since the "only guys" who talk to her are "creepers." No one's bothered to have a proper conversation with her before asking for her contact info or on a date.

There are serious repercussions for women if our first impression of a guy is wrong. I don't think a 5-10 minute conversation is too much to ask to get us a little more relaxed around you before asking for our numbers.

 

[webhead9707]

Haven't posted in a while, still single. Somehow managed to get a new best friend, also gorgeous, also fell for her, and again she didn't reciprocate. But there's a girl I'm kinda interested in but I don't feel as strongly for her as I do for best friend, and don't think she's as attractive. Should I date her, or no?

 

[Anita18]

Haven't posted in a while, still single. Somehow managed to get a new best friend, also gorgeous, also fell for her, and again she didn't reciprocate. But there's a girl I'm kinda interested in but I don't feel as strongly for her as I do for best friend, and don't think she's as attractive. Should I date her, or no?

Might as well give it a try.

You don't actually have to be in love with someone to ask them on a first date.

 

[webhead9707]

Might as well give it a try.

You don't actually have to be in love with someone to ask them on a first date.

Yeah yeah. We just go to church together so I don't want things to be awkward if it doesn't work out. On a separate note I'm starting to be worried about my recurring theme of being that guy who girls just see as a best friend. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah yeah. We just go to church together so I don't want things to be awkward if it doesn't work out. On a separate note I'm starting to be worried about my recurring theme of being that guy who girls just see as a best friend. I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

There's nothing "wrong" with who you are or what you're doing as long as you're being respectful and kind. it's just a vibe some people give off. You either have sexual charisma or you don't. I mean, it happens with women too. I'm apparently the most unsexy tomboy ever, friendly with every dude but no guy ever wanted to sleep with, until I met my husband. It only takes one.

Being popular with the girls won't solve all your problems either. My husband has dated more than me, sometimes with women literally throwing themselves at him. But they were all certifiably nuts and he'd break up with them a month or two in. He was actually starting to worry that he was incapable of being in a relationship longer than that until he met me.

We all have our crosses to bear. The only thing to do is to keep going, and being kind along the way.

 

[webhead9707]

There's nothing "wrong" with who you are or what you're doing as long as you're being respectful and kind. it's just a vibe some people give off. You either have sexual charisma or you don't. I mean, it happens with women too. I'm apparently the most unsexy tomboy ever, friendly with every dude but no guy ever wanted to sleep with, until I met my husband. It only takes one.

Being popular with the girls won't solve all your problems either. My husband has dated more than me, sometimes with women literally throwing themselves at him. But they were all certifiably nuts and he'd break up with them a month or two in. He was actually starting to worry that he was incapable of being in a relationship longer than that until he met me.

We all have our crosses to bear. The only thing to do is to keep going, and being kind along the way.

I suppose, but I have abs and I play guitar and sing(and I'm actually good at it), aside from my acne, I should be oozing sexiness.

 

[Anita18]

I suppose, but I have abs and I play guitar and sing(and I'm actually good at it), aside from my acne, I should be oozing sexiness.

Hah, sometimes you just can't explain it. The only thing objectively unsexy about me is my lack of boobs and my weird eyes (I have uneven Asian monolids), but apparently that's all it takes to be unsexy? I don't think guys are THAT picky. It's just a vibe I've giving off. Maybe it's a "I'm too smart for you" vibe.

I really feel the need to shake other women by the shoulders when they tell me they wish they were as skinny as me. Uhhh, from personal experience, simply being skinny doesn't get you guys!

 

[webhead9707]

Hah, sometimes you just can't explain it. The only thing objectively unsexy about me is my lack of boobs and my weird eyes (I have uneven Asian monolids), but apparently that's all it takes to be unsexy? I don't think guys are THAT picky. It's just a vibe I've giving off. Maybe it's a "I'm too smart for you" vibe.

I really feel the need to shake other women by the shoulders when they tell me they wish they were as skinny as me. Uhhh, from personal experience, simply being skinny doesn't get you guys!

Hmm, maybe it's because we're the kind of people that discuss relationships on a superhero forum. Is that a vibe?

 

[Erzengel]

I, as a woman who got approached maybe twice in my life for contact info right away and turned the guy down each time, would be MUCH more comfortable if we had actually at least had a conversation first. Like, 10 minutes or something.

I hand my business card out quite liberally if we've talked a little bit about something interesting. Happens all the time in networking events. I'm comfortable doing that, even for men.

But if you just come up to me randomly and tell me how pretty I am and then ask for my digits, hell no I'm not giving you my number. I have no idea if you're a creepy stalker, I haven't had even 10 seconds of interaction with you. My intuition is good, but it ain't THAT good.

I have a fairly attractive friend who thinks any guy who comes up to her cold and asks her out is a creeper. She's never been in a serious relationship, but is far too paranoid to just say yes to some guy to just comes up and asks for her number. In fact, she bemoans she needs plastic surgery since the "only guys" who talk to her are "creepers." No one's bothered to have a proper conversation with her before asking for her contact info or on a date.

There are serious repercussions for women if our first impression of a guy is wrong. I don't think a 5-10 minute conversation is too much to ask to get us a little more relaxed around you before asking for our numbers.

That's what I thought he was inferring?

Walking up to a girl and having a conversation and then asking her out.

Not, hi my name is Erz, will you go out with me?

What I thought his brother was suggesting that there had to be some sort of friendship first which would severely limit oneself.

 

[Grabes30]

I tend to avoid the "walking up to a girl and asking for her number", mostly because I don't want to come off as desperate, and....well, 17 year-olds can look a lot like 25 year-olds these days

There's this girl on the online dating thing that I saw almost 3 months ago and liked 1 or 2 of her pictures, and she never reciprocated or anything. Well, the last month she's looked at me at least once a week, and I'm ready to write her and be like "either you found something you like, or you're sitting around with your friends sipping wine and making fun of me" Cute 24 year-old (I'm 32). I don't know, that seems just a titch too young, but I can't decide.

But yeah, I don't think I've ever just said "Hey, can I have your number." I think in my mind that makes me no better than any other desperate guy out there, and I don't like that feeling, ha.

 

[warhorse78]

So, I have an interesting dilemma. At my job, we have hired this college kid for the summer. He was stuck with me so he can learn the ropes, and through that, we became pretty good friends. It turned from a friendship to outright flirting now, which I don't mind, but he's pressing to go further. He wants to go on a real dinner date, and now I have so many nagging thoughts. For starters, he's my manager's nephew, he's a 19 year old turning 20 this year, and I am a woman that's going to be turning 37 myself. Part of me is like, no, lets keep this relationship purely platonic, but my other half is like, screw it, you live only once, you have incredible chemistry with this guy, go for it.

Now the other people peering in. Surprisingly, his aunt, my boss, actually doesn't mind, and thinks a more mature woman would be better for him than some 20 year old half wit, plus, our co-workers and friends seemed to not care either way. But then I do have a cousin who thinks I am wrong for this, and should stick with guys at least within my own decade. Should I keep it platonic, or just go for it since I do only live once.

Granted, watching J-Lo's The Boy Next Door has me raising my eyebrows about this, since relationships where the guy is much younger than the woman tends to be frowned upon with society.

 

[Erzengel]

As long as you don't think it'll effect your work, if you're attracted go for it.

 

[Anita18]

I tend to avoid the "walking up to a girl and asking for her number", mostly because I don't want to come off as desperate, and....well, 17 year-olds can look a lot like 25 year-olds these days

There's this girl on the online dating thing that I saw almost 3 months ago and liked 1 or 2 of her pictures, and she never reciprocated or anything. Well, the last month she's looked at me at least once a week, and I'm ready to write her and be like "either you found something you like, or you're sitting around with your friends sipping wine and making fun of me" Cute 24 year-old (I'm 32). I don't know, that seems just a titch too young, but I can't decide.

My sister dated someone 8 years older than her. They were together for 5 years, and she finally broke up with him because he was too emotionally immature and self-centered for her.

I think once someone hits their mid-20s, the age gap isn't really that big of a deal.

My parents have an 8 year age gap, and I think my mom has always been more emotionally mature than my dad. Maybe it's the hardcore nerd thing.

So, I have an interesting dilemma. At my job, we have hired this college kid for the summer. He was stuck with me so he can learn the ropes, and through that, we became pretty good friends. It turned from a friendship to outright flirting now, which I don't mind, but he's pressing to go further. He wants to go on a real dinner date, and now I have so many nagging thoughts. For starters, he's my manager's nephew, he's a 19 year old turning 20 this year, and I am a woman that's going to be turning 37 myself. Part of me is like, no, lets keep this relationship purely platonic, but my other half is like, screw it, you live only once, you have incredible chemistry with this guy, go for it.

Now the other people peering in. Surprisingly, his aunt, my boss, actually doesn't mind, and thinks a more mature woman would be better for him than some 20 year old half wit, plus, our co-workers and friends seemed to not care either way. But then I do have a cousin who thinks I am wrong for this, and should stick with guys at least within my own decade. Should I keep it platonic, or just go for it since I do only live once.

Granted, watching J-Lo's The Boy Next Door has me raising my eyebrows about this, since relationships where the guy is much younger than the woman tends to be frowned upon with society.

Who cares what the world thinks. I mean, if you think relatives and coworkers would be super-meddling, that might give you pause (drama with relatives can be THE WORST), but if everyone's cool, then why not.

 

[Matt Mortem]

How long into a relationship can one fart in front of a partner without massacring the relationship?

I was a couple months in. Holding them in was hurtin' my guts. I fart a lot, so I finally just started flying with it. Girlfriend doesn't mind as long as they don't stink.

 

[Anita18]

I was a couple months in. Holding them in was hurtin' my guts. I fart a lot, so I finally just started flying with it. Girlfriend doesn't mind as long as they don't stink.

It gets even better when you're married. I always go to bed later than my husband, and once recently I snuggled in next to him and went, "Mm, smells like farts!" and he sleepily went, "...sorry...."

That's when you know it's true luff.