hopefuldreamer
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Okay, so I somehow went down a rabbit hole of reading old posts on these forums again (can't even remember what started it
).
Wow... Reading through my old posts in the relationship thread was a wild ride!
Anyway, I thought id post an update on where I'm at, because for most of the time I frequented these forums, my love life (and life in general) was a mess... but im happy to report, life has changed enormously for me!
For years I posted here about my terrible relationship dalliances. Then the last I can see, I was posting in 2014 about the guy who moved in with me in my tiny bedsit after not long together. It was an overwhelming time, with lots of early issues to navigate, and this forum helped a lot (big thank you to anyone still here!)
Well... we are still together
we are engaged in fact! And life has been such an upwards trajectory for us both since we met.
About 2 years into our relationship, I finally recognised I had a drink problem that wasn't going away on its own, and I got help to get sober. Honestly, I don't think that would have happened without him. He was so supportive and was just there for me consistently while I went through the hardest parts of my recovery.
I was just reading an old post in which I said 'hopefully we can support each other and grow together' and that's 100% what happened. We both found our way into different professions we love. He worked his way up in maintenance jobs and is now a maintenance manager in a nice hotel. After 5 long years of training, i'm now a therapist (making some of my old advice in these threads even more hilarious
). Perhaps more importantly, we've grown a strong relationship, with good communication, respect and emotional maturity.
Anyway, there was a long time back there in the early 2010s where I thought I would be a single hot mess forever. I'd kind of made my peace with that, in a sad and self defeated way... so I guess my message to anyone feeling the same is - you never know when life might surprise you!

Wow... Reading through my old posts in the relationship thread was a wild ride!
Anyway, I thought id post an update on where I'm at, because for most of the time I frequented these forums, my love life (and life in general) was a mess... but im happy to report, life has changed enormously for me!
For years I posted here about my terrible relationship dalliances. Then the last I can see, I was posting in 2014 about the guy who moved in with me in my tiny bedsit after not long together. It was an overwhelming time, with lots of early issues to navigate, and this forum helped a lot (big thank you to anyone still here!)
Well... we are still together

About 2 years into our relationship, I finally recognised I had a drink problem that wasn't going away on its own, and I got help to get sober. Honestly, I don't think that would have happened without him. He was so supportive and was just there for me consistently while I went through the hardest parts of my recovery.
I was just reading an old post in which I said 'hopefully we can support each other and grow together' and that's 100% what happened. We both found our way into different professions we love. He worked his way up in maintenance jobs and is now a maintenance manager in a nice hotel. After 5 long years of training, i'm now a therapist (making some of my old advice in these threads even more hilarious

Anyway, there was a long time back there in the early 2010s where I thought I would be a single hot mess forever. I'd kind of made my peace with that, in a sad and self defeated way... so I guess my message to anyone feeling the same is - you never know when life might surprise you!
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