The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[Grievous]

Is it really like that? I mean you see someone that you find attractive you talk to them. You don't wake up and say, I'm going to find myself a white person today. It's probably more subconscious than anything.

Some girl at a college I go to is white and I heard she would only date Mexicans. Also of course you have the people who won't date outside of their own race.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm probably arguing semantics.

I guess I'm referring as just interaction. Not along the lines of "planning".

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Of course the guys could have been trying to creep me out. It worked.

 

[Anita18]

I find it weird when people plan to get with a particular race. Like in the club the other night I walked past a bunch of guys and I heard one of them say "I wanna f*** a black girl."

Also, I'm at a medicine-related conference this week. Today, one of the speakers was a sponsored patient telling us about his experience getting his mysterious illness diagnosed. He would experience pain so bad his hands would be near-paralyzed. For a week. He started to log his symptoms, and realized it would always happen after sex. (He didn't find out until he got married to his wife, but that's neither here nor there. He's Mormon.)

It turns out, he was allergic to sex. And yes, he did make jokes about how we now knew probably too much about him.

He's mostly fine now, but you can imagine, it stumped the doctors majorly. He had to crowdsource various homemade remedies from online communities, which is how he's mostly fine. Got-multiple-kids kind of fine, haha.

But for some reason I thought of you guys and how you'd all be if you found out you were allergic to sex.

 

[knowsbleed]

A lot of people date within their own race. But I gotta admit if a table was filled with about 4 white girls and 1 Asian. I'd be very tempted to focus my flirting on the Asian.

I'd probably say my preferences are:

-Asians
-White
-Hispanic
-Black

In about that order. But of course, it's a case by case basis based on each individual girl. I prefer brunettes but my ex was blonde, and so was the 18 year old I fooled around with.

Yellow fever, rising to epidemic proportions.

I think Grievous's post is particularly funny because I knew this white guy who only "dated" Asian women... he didn't care if they were ugly as ****... they were all "exotic" to him... even the ones who were born and raised in Iowa (where he was from). Pitiful... but it made him happy and who am I to knock an individual's pursuit of happiness?

I've never dated within my own race.

Have you even met another Germanipino?

 

[Anita18]

Yellow fever, rising to epidemic proportions.

I think Grievous's post is particularly funny because I knew this white guy who only "dated" Asian women... he didn't care if they were ugly as ****... they were all "exotic" to him... even the ones who were born and raised in Iowa (where he was from). Pitiful... but it made him happy and who am I to knock an individual's pursuit of happiness?

I think it's also funny because I can categorize exactly two types of non-Asian guys who "like" Asian girls. One is the guy who thinks Asian girls are exotic and delicate and demure and all of the things that my relatives and I are 100% not. They make me LOL, because they would not touch me or my sister or cousin with a 10-ft pole. (So to say.) Such guys also usually have a disconcerting fetish with Asian culture in general.

The other type is the guy who's unintimidated by (or are even attracted to) the intelligence and ambition of many Asian women, which is why my sister, my cousin, and I ended up with Caucasian husbands/long-term boyfriends. None of which have strange obsessions with Asian culture, because it actually isn't a fetish.

 

[Anubis]

I was in to Asian trannys for awhile.

 

[knowsbleed]

I think it's also funny because I can categorize exactly two types of non-Asian guys who "like" Asian girls. One is the guy who thinks Asian girls are exotic and delicate and demure and all of the things that my relatives and I are 100% not. They make me LOL, because they would not touch me or my sister or cousin with a 10-ft pole. (So to say.) Such guys also usually have a disconcerting fetish with Asian culture in general.

The other type is the guy who's unintimidated by (or are even attracted to) the intelligence and ambition of many Asian women, which is why my sister, my cousin, and I ended up with Caucasian husbands/long-term boyfriends. None of which have strange obsessions with Asian culture, because it actually isn't a fetish.

Your current... he falls into your latter description? Does he "like" only Asian women or was he into tasting the rainbow? I'm only asking because I don't really understand people who limit their relationships to just one race/ethnicity...

... well, I guess I can relate on some levels. I will not mess with women in my profession (military)... so I slightly empathize with guys who do not want to date their own race (a brow-furrowing inducing empathy)... so if I turn that around and try to date ONLY military women, then I would be an idiot. I have just hurt my brain.

I was in to Asian trannys for awhile.

Everyone goes through that phase.

 

[Anita18]

Your current... he falls into your latter description? Does he "like" only Asian women or was he into tasting the rainbow? I'm only asking because I don't really understand people who limit their relationships to just one race/ethnicity..

Of course. No guy with an Asian culture fetish would date me. I'm pretty "whitewashed."

I believe the hubby's ex was Hispanic. He doesn't have a preference for girls, aside from liking girls who like him back.

 

[Erzengel]

Have you even met another Germanipino?

Nope.

When I was younger, I always thought I'd be with someone with dark hair, light eyes and porcelain skin. I ended up with someone who's bi-racial . So in the end, I feel I wasn't enclosed by a preference.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Is it really like that? I mean you see someone that you find attractive you talk to them. You don't wake up and say, I'm going to find myself a white person today. It's probably more subconscious than anything.

Yes it really is like that. I have totally seen guys saying "I'm gonna go hook up with an Asian girl / white girl / <insert specific race here> girl" plenty of times.

I think it's also funny because I can categorize exactly two types of non-Asian guys who "like" Asian girls. One is the guy who thinks Asian girls are exotic and delicate and demure and all of the things that my relatives and I are 100% not. They make me LOL, because they would not touch me or my sister or cousin with a 10-ft pole. (So to say.) Such guys also usually have a disconcerting fetish with Asian culture in general.

The other type is the guy who's unintimidated by (or are even attracted to) the intelligence and ambition of many Asian women, which is why my sister, my cousin, and I ended up with Caucasian husbands/long-term boyfriends. None of which have strange obsessions with Asian culture, because it actually isn't a fetish.

What about those of us that just like the femininity and features of attractive Asian girls? For me it has nothing to do with some culture fetish and everything to do with the fact that Asian girls often times have the types of physical features and feminine qualities that I'm attracted to.

 

[Matt Mortem]

So I have this nagging fear in the back of my head that everything with my relationship is going to fall apart. I'm head over heels for her and I know she feels the same, but I have this pit in my stomach that's make me feeling like it's all gonna go to ****. I'm not sure what to do about it.

 

[jaymes_e06]

So lately I've been in a severe depression due to everything reminding me of my ex... I have so many prospects to move on and I just don't take them becuase I'm so very hung up on someone else.

Feeling really meh right now.

 

[knowsbleed]

Yes it really is like that. I have totally seen guys saying "I'm gonna go hook up with an Asian girl / white girl / <insert specific race here> girl" plenty of times.



What about those of us that just like the femininity and features of attractive Asian girls? For me it has nothing to do with some culture fetish and everything to do with the fact that Asian girls often times have the types of physical features and feminine qualities that I'm attracted to.

Yellow fever dude... you got it.

 

[webhead9707]

Also, I'm at a medicine-related conference this week. Today, one of the speakers was a sponsored patient telling us about his experience getting his mysterious illness diagnosed. He would experience pain so bad his hands would be near-paralyzed. For a week. He started to log his symptoms, and realized it would always happen after sex. (He didn't find out until he got married to his wife, but that's neither here nor there. He's Mormon.)

It turns out, he was allergic to sex. And yes, he did make jokes about how we now knew probably too much about him.

He's mostly fine now, but you can imagine, it stumped the doctors majorly. He had to crowdsource various homemade remedies from online communities, which is how he's mostly fine. Got-multiple-kids kind of fine, haha.

But for some reason I thought of you guys and how you'd all be if you found out you were allergic to sex.

That's terrifying..

 

[Boy Scout]

So I have this nagging fear in the back of my head that everything with my relationship is going to fall apart. I'm head over heels for her and I know she feels the same, but I have this pit in my stomach that's make me feeling like it's all gonna go to ****. I'm not sure what to do about it.

I think you're just afraid of losing her. Is this the first time you've felt like this about someone? It's perfectly natural to be terrified of losing someone you have such intense feelings for.

My advice? Try not to think about it too much and just enjoy spending time with her.

So lately I've been in a severe depression due to everything reminding me of my ex... I have so many prospects to move on and I just don't take them becuase I'm so very hung up on someone else.

Feeling really meh right now.

It's good that you're not hooking up with others when you know you're still hung up on your ex. Doing the opposite probably wouldn't end well for you.

I think you just need to give yourself time to move on. Move at your own pace and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. Unfollow/unfriend her on all social media, delete your messages, delete her number, and just give yourself time to move on from her.

 

[the last son]

Blew another opportunity today. At gym woman started stretching and bending over infront of me. After two minutes of it, she turns around and I just look at the TV ahead. Then later we're jogging a treadmill apart and I break and watch tv, she comes right behind me, close enough for conversation. Then her and some old guy talk. I eventually walk away and go back on treadmill she goes on hers a space away. I blew it there by the TV, but couldn't think of anything and was not in the mood for talking. I know eventually I will have to start trying to break out and start trying to be friendlier and taking chances if I want to find someone.

 

[Boy Scout]

Talk to her next time you see her. Do you know if she's a regular at your gym?

 

[the last son]

I don't know if she is. I'm there only on weekends. I could not think of any type of opener. I was going to comment on the game we were watching. I was going to say, so you're a fan of the team that was on, but I thought isn't it obvious, she's watching it. I guess it would have been better than nothing though, just ignoring her existence, when she's right there next to me.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

That's terrifying..

Why because it could happen to you?

 

[Anita18]

What about those of us that just like the femininity and features of attractive Asian girls? For me it has nothing to do with some culture fetish and everything to do with the fact that Asian girls often times have the types of physical features and feminine qualities that I'm attracted to.

Well not ALL Asian girls look the same. I've seen some black girls who are tinier and shyer than me, and Asians are "supposed" to be the super-petite, quiet girls.

It's fine to prefer certain physical characteristics, but to attach them to a race as a whole is dumb.

 

[Anita18]

So I have this nagging fear in the back of my head that everything with my relationship is going to fall apart. I'm head over heels for her and I know she feels the same, but I have this pit in my stomach that's make me feeling like it's all gonna go to ****. I'm not sure what to do about it.

You could talk about it. Relationships usually fall apart from communication issues, keep that in mind.

 

[Anita18]

I don't know if she is. I'm there only on weekends. I could not think of any type of opener. I was going to comment on the game we were watching. I was going to say, so you're a fan of the team that was on, but I thought isn't it obvious, she's watching it. I guess it would have been better than nothing though, just ignoring her existence, when she's right there next to me.

True, it's better than nothing. You could ask her how long she's been a fan.

It gets easier with practice. I've just done some really awesome networking at an academic conference, and I've found out you get the best response if you ask another attendee, "So what have you been working on?"

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well not ALL Asian girls look the same. I've seen some black girls who are tinier and shyer than me, and Asians are "supposed" to be the super-petite, quiet girls.

It's fine to prefer certain physical characteristics, but to attach them to a race as a whole is dumb.

Well obviously not everyone of a particular race looks the same, but certain races do have certain features that define them physically moreso than others. It doesn't mean that other races can't have those features, or that everyone of the race all have the same features.

That's why I said earlier than in general, I have my list of preferences, but it really depends on a person by person basis.

 

[webhead9707]

Why because it could happen to you?

Holy crap! That's the downfall of abstinence! What if I'm allergic to my wife's sexyparts and don't know it til after we get married?!