The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[hopefuldreamer]

How has a girl as cool as you never been bought flowers?

How has a girl like me never had a real boyfriend?

I did have this one weird guy buy me jewellrey, but I never took it.

Basically it was a guy I kissed at a club, and I thought he was sweet and good looking. We went back to mine and just did a lot of groping but cause I actually kind of liked him I didn't sleep with him (yeah, I'm backwards like that).

He lived out of town, but he called me the next day and wanted to arrange to come and visit me the next weekend. I told him it was my bday and I'd be spending some of it with family, so he wouldn't be able to stay with me, but he could come out with me and my friends on the sat night if he was up for staying in a hotel.

He was enthusiastic about it, and for a bit I fell kinda nice about it.

Then he called me every single day that week, which at first I found flattering but it did get a bit odd and my housemate kept taking the calls and was like 'this guys a bit keen'.

So then I'm at work on the friday and my housemate calls me cause he's just shown up at mine a day early 'to surprise me'. I call him up and I'm like 'uh, I told you I was spending time with family, I'm sorry but your gonna have to entertain yourself till tomorrow' but he was insisting I come and see him.

I ended up meeting him and going to the pub just to get him out of my housemates hair, and he was trying to hold my hand a lot and staring lovingly at me and stuff. It was defo starting to get weird.

But my friends were complimenting how nice he seemed and how he was good looking and stuff, so I sort of went with it.

Then it got really odd.

First, he seemed to get really stressed out when some of my friends showed up, and I went out for a cigarette to find him outside fondling something in his pocket.

Turned out to be a knife, and I went ape **** and asked him why the hell he was playing with it right now, or even had it on him. He said it was 'for protection', but I point blank refused to be around him a second longer unless he gave it to me and I'd give it back to him after (which actually, I never did... I ended up keeping it).

Then he started ranting on to people about how he had all this money and it made it so hard to make friends, so they were kind of like 'what the hell is this guy talking about?' Cause he was blatantly weirdly trying to brag.

Finally he started saying that a friend of mine who is this super shy girl who thinks she's unattractive (but isn't at all) was 'obviously one of those arrogant girls who knows how hot she is', and my other friend got really protective and started yelling at him.

At this point, I'd had enough. When he went to get a drink, I grabbed all my friends and we did a runner. He texted and stuff and I told him I just needed to go home cause I had family stuff in the morning, but the next day he was literally standing around outside my house calling me and texting me, saying he wanted to give me this necklace he'd bought me for my bday. I basically just told him I really didn't wanna see him, and he was obviously looking to jump into something serious where I definitely wasn't (plus he was obviously a bit psycho).

He then went to the pub where my housemate worked and sat there all day trying to get him to tell him stuff about me and how he could win me over.

Eventually he sent a bunch of abusive texts and demanded his knife back, but I just ignored him.

So yeah, not really had a good experience of people being 'romantic'

 

[webhead9707]

How has a girl like me never had a real boyfriend?

I did have this one weird guy buy me jewellrey, but I never took it.

Basically it was a guy I kissed at a club, and I thought he was sweet and good looking. We went back to mine and just did a lot of groping but cause I actually kind of liked him I didn't sleep with him (yeah, I'm backwards like that).

He lived out of town, but he called me the next day and wanted to arrange to come and visit me the next weekend. I told him it was my bday and I'd be spending some of it with family, so he wouldn't be able to stay with me, but he could come out with me and my friends on the sat night if he was up for staying in a hotel.

He was enthusiastic about it, and for a bit I fell kinda nice about it.

Then he called me every single day that week, which at first I found flattering but it did get a bit odd and my housemate kept taking the calls and was like 'this guys a bit keen'.

So then I'm at work on the friday and my housemate calls me cause he's just shown up at mine a day early 'to surprise me'. I call him up and I'm like 'uh, I told you I was spending time with family, I'm sorry but your gonna have to entertain yourself till tomorrow' but he was insisting I come and see him.

I ended up meeting him and going to the pub just to get him out of my housemates hair, and he was trying to hold my hand a lot and staring lovingly at me and stuff. It was defo starting to get weird.

But my friends were complimenting how nice he seemed and how he was good looking and stuff, so I sort of went with it.

Then it got really odd.

First, he seemed to get really stressed out when some of my friends showed up, and I went out for a cigarette to find him outside fondling something in his pocket.

Turned out to be a knife, and I went ape **** and asked him why the hell he was playing with it right now, or even had it on him. He said it was 'for protection', but I point blank refused to be around him a second longer unless he gave it to me and I'd give it back to him after (which actually, I never did... I ended up keeping it).

Then he started ranting on to people about how he had all this money and it made it so hard to make friends, so they were kind of like 'what the hell is this guy talking about?' Cause he was blatantly weirdly trying to brag.

Finally he started saying that a friend of mine who is this super shy girl who thinks she's unattractive (but isn't at all) was 'obviously one of those arrogant girls who knows how hot she is', and my other friend got really protective and started yelling at him.

At this point, I'd had enough. When he went to get a drink, I grabbed all my friends and we did a runner. He texted and stuff and I told him I just needed to go home cause I had family stuff in the morning, but the next day he was literally standing around outside my house calling me and texting me, saying he wanted to give me this necklace he'd bought me for my bday. I basically just told him I really didn't wanna see him, and he was obviously looking to jump into something serious where I definitely wasn't (plus he was obviously a bit psycho).

He then went to the pub where my housemate worked and sat there all day trying to get him to tell him stuff about me and how he could win me over.

Eventually he sent a bunch of abusive texts and demanded his knife back, but I just ignored him.

So yeah, not really had a good experience of people being 'romantic'

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You poor thing.. Come here. Your friendly neighborhood Webhead is gonna make it all okay.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

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You poor thing.. Come here. Your friendly neighborhood Webhead is gonna make it all okay.

You're a bit far away from me I think!

 

[Anita18]

Well yea I get that, I'm just saying the stuff that I respond best to is the stuff I'm most afraid to give out myself because I'm afraid of the response.

I'm not talking about sweet caresses on the first encounter lol. If I was, I think I'd have a much clearer picture of why I fail so much in regards to women.

Well, it's fine that you don't give them out. Your love language is just that - YOUR love language. Not your partner's. The hubs doesn't respond to acts of service as much as I do.

But it's harder to not see eye to eye on physical touch. It does kinda take two people for that.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So hopeful, are you telling me I -SHOULDN'T- hang out outside a girl's home, twidling a knife in my pocket?

Cuz I'm all out of ideas and that was my next go.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well, it's fine that you don't give them out. Your love language is just that - YOUR love language. Not your partner's. The hubs doesn't respond to acts of service as much as I do.

But it's harder to not see eye to eye on physical touch. It does kinda take two people for that.

Well yea my language of love that I like to receive is also what I like to give out.

But what I'm saying is... I don't do any of it because it just gets rejected anyways.

So my outgoing language of love is silence.

 

[webhead9707]

You're a bit far away from me I think!

Hahaha, I'm always with you in spirit?
#CreepyThingsToSayOnForums

 

[hopefuldreamer]

So hopeful, are you telling me I -SHOULDN'T- hang out outside a girl's home, twidling a knife in my pocket?

Cuz I'm all out of ideas and that was my next go.

I can't speak for all women. I just know it doesn't work for me

 

[Grievous]

You're both right.. I met a really cool girl today while paying for lunch and talked to her but I didn't really know how to get her information without seeming sleazy so... Here I am.

Yeah it happens. I'm come to the conclusion you gotta decide if you think putting yourself out there and asking for her number, etc is worth maybe coming off as weird or pushy. But if you feel you might not see her again what choice do you really have, also some single girls may find random guys flirting or asking for a number to be sweet. Also it shows confidence and that never hurts so I've been told.

 

[DarthDorranceBane]

Up to what age is it normal for you to have your heart beating faster when you're meeting up with a crush?

 

[knowsbleed]

That sounds like the start of a caption for a random inspirational poster that you'd find on a pic dump. We just need a picture of an old man with his back facing towards us holding flowers and his "crush" (I'm pretty sure there's an age limit for calling someone you want to hump a "crush") is in the background out of focus walking towards him.

 

[Anubis]

Up to what age is it normal for you to have your heart beating faster when you're meeting up with a crush?

1 year after death.

 

[DarthDorranceBane]

Ha! I knew I worded it wrong .

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I can't speak for all women. I just know it doesn't work for me

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[hopefuldreamer]

Last night went so well btw.

I went to an open mic night, I ordered a non alcoholic beer. I meet guys in the smoking area that I struck up conversations with. I danced around to some live music. I left at 11.30pm with my dignity in tact, only having spent £2.00, remembering everything about it, and knowing that I wouldn't be throwing up in the morning!

Epic

 

[webhead9707]

Last night went so well btw.

I went to an open mic night, I ordered a non alcoholic beer. I meet guys in the smoking area that I struck up conversations with. I danced around to some live music. I left at 11.30pm with my dignity in tact, only having spent £2.00, remembering everything about it, and knowing that I wouldn't be throwing up in the morning!

Epic

 

[webhead9707]

Yeah it happens. I'm come to the conclusion you gotta decide if you think putting yourself out there and asking for her number, etc is worth maybe coming off as weird or pushy. But if you feel you might not see her again what choice do you really have, also some single girls may find random guys flirting or asking for a number to be sweet. Also it shows confidence and that never hurts so I've been told.

That makes sense. Thank you!t:

 

[Ant-manic]

How has a girl like me never had a real boyfriend?

I did have this one weird guy buy me jewellrey, but I never took it.

Basically it was a guy I kissed at a club, and I thought he was sweet and good looking. We went back to mine and just did a lot of groping but cause I actually kind of liked him I didn't sleep with him (yeah, I'm backwards like that).

He lived out of town, but he called me the next day and wanted to arrange to come and visit me the next weekend. I told him it was my bday and I'd be spending some of it with family, so he wouldn't be able to stay with me, but he could come out with me and my friends on the sat night if he was up for staying in a hotel.

He was enthusiastic about it, and for a bit I fell kinda nice about it.

Then he called me every single day that week, which at first I found flattering but it did get a bit odd and my housemate kept taking the calls and was like 'this guys a bit keen'.

So then I'm at work on the friday and my housemate calls me cause he's just shown up at mine a day early 'to surprise me'. I call him up and I'm like 'uh, I told you I was spending time with family, I'm sorry but your gonna have to entertain yourself till tomorrow' but he was insisting I come and see him.

I ended up meeting him and going to the pub just to get him out of my housemates hair, and he was trying to hold my hand a lot and staring lovingly at me and stuff. It was defo starting to get weird.

But my friends were complimenting how nice he seemed and how he was good looking and stuff, so I sort of went with it.

Then it got really odd.

First, he seemed to get really stressed out when some of my friends showed up, and I went out for a cigarette to find him outside fondling something in his pocket.

Turned out to be a knife, and I went ape **** and asked him why the hell he was playing with it right now, or even had it on him. He said it was 'for protection', but I point blank refused to be around him a second longer unless he gave it to me and I'd give it back to him after (which actually, I never did... I ended up keeping it).

Then he started ranting on to people about how he had all this money and it made it so hard to make friends, so they were kind of like 'what the hell is this guy talking about?' Cause he was blatantly weirdly trying to brag.

Finally he started saying that a friend of mine who is this super shy girl who thinks she's unattractive (but isn't at all) was 'obviously one of those arrogant girls who knows how hot she is', and my other friend got really protective and started yelling at him.

At this point, I'd had enough. When he went to get a drink, I grabbed all my friends and we did a runner. He texted and stuff and I told him I just needed to go home cause I had family stuff in the morning, but the next day he was literally standing around outside my house calling me and texting me, saying he wanted to give me this necklace he'd bought me for my bday. I basically just told him I really didn't wanna see him, and he was obviously looking to jump into something serious where I definitely wasn't (plus he was obviously a bit psycho).

He then went to the pub where my housemate worked and sat there all day trying to get him to tell him stuff about me and how he could win me over.

Eventually he sent a bunch of abusive texts and demanded his knife back, but I just ignored him.

So yeah, not really had a good experience of people being 'romantic'

i would still like my knife back! i...need it for cutting something.

 

[Erzengel]

 

[webhead9707]

True story, I've never dated a girl that didn't like Star Wars.

Also true story, I've never dated a girl at all though, so that might be why.

 

[Hyde]

A girl in my class today said that she'd never seen Star Wars, and then asked if that was the one with the Daleks in.

 

[webhead9707]

A girl in my class today said that she'd never seen Star Wars, and then asked if that was the one with the Daleks in.

EXTERMINATE!

That makes me think of this picture though:

 

[Warhammer]

A girl in my class today said that she'd never seen Star Wars, and then asked if that was the one with the Daleks in.

She knows what a Dalek is, but was confused about if one was in Star Wars? Holy s***......how does that happen?

That makes me think of this picture though:

 

[Warhammer]

Here is a question. I understand that people have preferences. However, I just can't understand why one person of a certain race limits themselves to only dating someone from a certain race. The majority of us live in the Western world. It's not taboo anymore. There's a whole buffet out there.

 

[Erzengel]

It's all about preferences.

I do find members of every race attractive. I just go for some more than others.