The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Biology?

Seriously?

Let's say I'm "uninformed of biology"... please do inform me of the distinctive biological differences in Asian women that you find attractive over women from other races.

You're telling me that different races don't have different physical features?

You're telling me that Asians don't have slanted eyes? Blacks don't have larger noses and lips?

Not every member of a particular race holds the same physical traits, no. And certain physical traits are not exclusive to a particular race, no. But are you seriously going to sit here and deny that different races do have different physical features?

Have you never seen a human being in the flesh before?

 

[knowsbleed]

You're telling me that different races don't have different physical features?

You're telling me that Asians don't have slanted eyes? Blacks don't have larger noses and lips?

Not every member of a particular race holds the same physical traits, no. And certain physical traits are not exclusive to a particular race, no. But are you seriously going to sit here and deny that different races do have different physical features?

Have you never seen a human being in the flesh before?

Exactly... you are attracted to the physical stereotypes of Asian women. There are many non-Asian women who have slanted eyes... and many Asian women whose eyes are not slanted... but since that's what you chose to point out, I can only assume that that's what you're attracted to.

Haha, I'm sure I've seen more human beings in the flesh than you know... and I don't go around pointing out racial stereotypes to back my argument about my infatuation with a race of human beings.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Exactly... you are attracted to the physical stereotypes of Asian women. There are many non-Asian women who have slanted eyes... and many Asian women whose eyes are not slanted... but since that's what you chose to point out, I can only assume that that's what you're attracted to.

Haha, I'm sure I've seen more human beings in the flesh than you know... and I don't go around pointing out racial stereotypes to back my argument about my infatuation with a race of human beings.

Actually, what I am particularly attracted to with Asian women is the petite and slender figure, and as was pointed out earlier their lighter complexion skin tone. Yes, it is a general view of Asians that not all Asian girls share, and it is an appearance that many women of other races can share as well, but what I find attractive physically in women I have found that Asians "do it best" so to speak.

But for some reason, you seem to have this huge problem with someone being more particularly physically drawn to certain races more so than others. I'm sorry, I really don't know what to tell you.

 

[knowsbleed]

I just think the idea of "I'm attracted to *insert race here* women" is antiquated and ignorant... I chalk it up to basically either a lack of understanding of what a person is truly looking for in the opposite sex or denial of a purely lustful motive.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Then I don't know what to tell you, because my physical preferences are none of the above, and what a person is attracted to isn't an act of "ignorance"

 

[knowsbleed]

Haha, I never said what you said I said. Here's what I said:

I just think the idea of "I'm attracted to *insert race here* women" is antiquated and ignorant...

I've bolded and italicized the key words.

Also, your physical preferences are none of the above? What is the above? Because here is what I said... again:

I chalk it up to basically either a lack of understanding of what a person is truly looking for in the opposite sex or denial of a purely lustful motive.

So to break it down further... if a person generalizes "I like an entire race of women"... when they really mean "I like slender, light skinned women with slanty eyes"... then they either don't understand what they truly prefer because they prefer to imagine that the majority of the women in that race perpetuate the stereotype, they prefer to generalize for the sake of laziness to clarify, or they just have yellow fever and want to get with every single Asian woman, regardless of their personality or attraction. I might be missing a few other categories... but I think I summed it up pretty well.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Haha, I never said what you said I said. Here's what I said:



I've bolded and italicized the key words.

Also, your physical preferences are none of the above? What is the above? Because here is what I said... again:



So to break it down further... if a person generalizes "I like an entire race of women"... when they really mean "I like slender, light skinned women with slanty eyes"... then they either don't understand what they truly prefer because they prefer to imagine that the majority of the women in that race perpetuate the stereotype, they prefer to generalize for the sake of laziness to clarify, or they just have yellow fever and want to get with every single Asian woman, regardless of their personality or attraction. I might be missing a few other categories... but I think I summed it up pretty well.

No, you didn't actually. Not "pretty well" at all.

But I think I'm done with this conversation, because you don't understand, and you obviously don't want to understand, you've just determined to demonize people who are attracted more to particular races than others for whatever reasons you've decided to do so.

 

[Grievous]

I just think the idea of "I'm attracted to *insert race here* women" is antiquated and ignorant... I chalk it up to basically either a lack of understanding of what a person is truly looking for in the opposite sex or denial of a purely lustful motive.

If being lustful is liking features not everyone has then I'm pretty sure everyone is guilty of it. I also have a understanding of what I want. I wouldn't take a cute Asian if me and her couldn't get alone at all because I'm looking for more than sex. You wouldn't ask someone out if you wasn't attracted to them, so I really can't see how liking some physical features of a race makes you ignorant or lost on what relationships are all about.

Anyway I'm done with this debate and if I write anything else in here it won't be about this, cause I feel I've already said all I need to say. I'll end by saying if by chance I was to marry a Asian it would be based on her personality and my feelings for her. Not the fact she is Asian, I wouldn't even mention the race of her to someone unless they flat out asked. So when I say I think Asians are cute or attractive it has nothing to do with some sex fantasy. If people didn't have things they liked about the opposite sex then we wouldn't know where to start in the first place.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

If being lustful is liking features not everyone has then I'm pretty sure everyone is guilty of it. I also have a understanding of what I want. I wouldn't take a cute Asian if me and her couldn't get alone at all because I'm looking for more than sex. You wouldn't ask someone out if you wasn't attracted to them, so I really can't see how liking some physical features of a race makes you ignorant or lost on what relationships are all about.

Anyway I'm done with this debate and if I write anything else in here it won't be about this, cause I feel I've already said all I need to say. I'll end by saying if by chance I was to marry a Asian it would be based on her personality and my feelings for her. Not the fact she is Asian, I wouldn't even mention the race of her to someone unless they flat out asked. So when I say I think Asians are cute or attractive it has nothing to do with some sex fantasy. If people didn't have things they liked about the opposite sex then we wouldn't know where to start in the first place.

 

[Boy Scout]

That's probably exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks man I always try to be friends with my exs but she was the first person I ever fell in love with so I cab see why trying to do that would be problematic in this situation.

You're welcome, man. Just don't over think things and you'll be fine.

 

[Matt Mortem]

So my girlfriend treats me differently when we're on campus around our fellow classmates than she does when we're hanging out alone. Is that anything to worry about? When we're alone she's all over me, hanging on me and holding hands. Typical PDA stuff. When we're around our fellow film students though she's kinda distant and reserved and won't so much as hug me. I don't know if I should worry about things or just let it slide.

 

[webhead9707]

So my girlfriend treats me differently when we're on campus around our fellow classmates than she does when we're hanging out alone. Is that anything to worry about? When we're alone she's all over me, hanging on me and holding hands. Typical PDA stuff. When we're around our fellow film students though she's kinda distant and reserved and won't so much as hug me. I don't know if I should worry about things or just let it slide.

It seems reasonable that she just doesn't like PDA around other people. If it really concerns you, just talk to her about it.

 

[Anubis]

Or accept the fact that some people don't like hands all on their assess when they're out in public.

Hard to fathom, I know, effin' prudes, but, what chu gonna do?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Or accept the fact that some people don't like hands all on their assess when they're out in public.

Hard to fathom, I know, effin' prudes, but, what chu gonna do?

But I could put my hands all over your asses in public, right?

 

[Anubis]

I don't know, show me what you look like in a wig and lipstick and we'll talk.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

 

[Anubis]

Now that's a sweet Transvestite from transsexual Transylvania.

Nubsy Approves.

 

[Anita18]

Actually, what I am particularly attracted to with Asian women is the petite and slender figure, and as was pointed out earlier their lighter complexion skin tone. Yes, it is a general view of Asians that not all Asian girls share, and it is an appearance that many women of other races can share as well, but what I find attractive physically in women I have found that Asians "do it best" so to speak.

But for some reason, you seem to have this huge problem with someone being more particularly physically drawn to certain races more so than others. I'm sorry, I really don't know what to tell you.

Then say you like petite and slender girls. No need to denote race here.

Besides, it's all relative. You just met me - I'm sure you'd say I was petite and slender, compared to you. In Taiwan, where my parents are from, I wore size large pants, and that was before I started weightlifting.

When a typically "pretty" girl of your race is 5'0" and 95 lbs, you think of yourself as frigging huge when you are 5'5" and almost 120.

And I seriously have met a black girl who wore shirts I couldn't fit my shoulders in. So specifying race when you actually prefer a physical body type doesn't really work.

So my girlfriend treats me differently when we're on campus around our fellow classmates than she does when we're hanging out alone. Is that anything to worry about? When we're alone she's all over me, hanging on me and holding hands. Typical PDA stuff. When we're around our fellow film students though she's kinda distant and reserved and won't so much as hug me. I don't know if I should worry about things or just let it slide.

My husband's like that. He doesn't like PDA. I have to make the effort to hold his hand in public, but he'll grab my hand when I crawl into bed, even when he's half asleep.

So it sounds normal to me. If she is honest about stuff with you, you should be okay. When the hubs and I were dating, he was very quiet and again, not into PDA. But I figured if he had an issue, he'd let me know. He's a big boy.

 

[knowsbleed]

No, you didn't actually. Not "pretty well" at all.

But I think I'm done with this conversation, because you don't understand, and you obviously don't want to understand, you've just determined to demonize people who are attracted more to particular races than others for whatever reasons you've decided to do so.

I do understand... it's you who refuse to understand and break down exactly what you mean when you say "I am attracted to Asian women" then go and say "I like them because they are slender and light skinned"... that describes a lot of women

Oh... and once again, you take what I say and twist it. I'm not demonizing others... I said that the idea of being attracted to an entire race of people because of their stereotypical physical features is antiquated and ignorant... that's EXACTLY what I said. If you read into that more than what I said... then that's a personal issue.

If being lustful is liking features not everyone has then I'm pretty sure everyone is guilty of it. I also have a understanding of what I want. I wouldn't take a cute Asian if me and her couldn't get alone at all because I'm looking for more than sex. You wouldn't ask someone out if you wasn't attracted to them, so I really can't see how liking some physical features of a race makes you ignorant or lost on what relationships are all about.

Anyway I'm done with this debate and if I write anything else in here it won't be about this, cause I feel I've already said all I need to say. I'll end by saying if by chance I was to marry a Asian it would be based on her personality and my feelings for her. Not the fact she is Asian, I wouldn't even mention the race of her to someone unless they flat out asked. So when I say I think Asians are cute or attractive it has nothing to do with some sex fantasy. If people didn't have things they liked about the opposite sex then we wouldn't know where to start in the first place.

If it was such a non-issue and it was about attraction and moreso personality, then why even point out that you're attracted to Asian women?

What I'm saying is that if you're attracted to specific physical features, then that's fine. Having brown hair is a physical feature and is perfectly understandable to say, "I'm attracted to brown haired women".

When you say, "I'm attracted to Asian women"... well, there's a **** ton of Asian women with all different features... it's like saying, "I like running shoes"... different shapes, sizes and colors with different features. It's too broad of a statement and if you can't understand that and refuse to try to understand, then I guess ignorance is bliss.

 

[Grievous]

I shouldn't but I am going to say this. There is also a **** ton of women with brown hair too with different features and personalities so it really isn't no different then saying I'm attracted to a race. I guess I should from now on say I like strawberry icecream because just saying I like icecream is too broad. Seriously your argument I feel is almost laughable. If you had been actually reading my post you would of known I said not all Asian women are attractive. But your saying I didn't go into details. I've never seen someone make a big deal out of someone saying they liked women from a race. I like some not all of the facial and skin tone of Asians. No two people are just the same. I could find a girl from every race who had features I liked. But alright here let me fix my statement for you ''I would like to date a Asian if she had the features I like in a woman.'' If that doesn't please you then at this point I feel your nit picking.

 

[Anita18]

I dunno, it kinda bothers me that you say you'd be more likely to flirt with an Asian girl because we're novelties where you live. We're people, we're not some limited edition DVD box set or whatever.

It's different from flirting with a girl because you think she's pretty, as an individual. The general objectification is the thing that bugs.

Like I said, 90% of the time, I forget I'm Asian. I'm just me.

 

[Grievous]

I dunno, it kinda bothers me that you say you'd be more likely to flirt with an Asian girl because we're novelties where you live. We're people, we're not some limited edition DVD box set or whatever.

It's different from flirting with a girl because you think she's pretty, as an individual. The general objectification is the thing that bugs.

Like I said, 90% of the time, I forget I'm Asian. I'm just me.

Alright I'll admit I was wrong in that regard. I don't let the extent of the race living in my area play a factor in who I date.


But when I say I like Asian women, I'm looking for features in them just how I would any other girl. Like I said if I enter a room full of pretty girls and none of them are Asian the thought wouldn't even cross my mind. But if I see one that fits my bill of things I want in a woman then sure I would like to date her. I simply hope I find those features in a Asian because I like some of the features that make Asians well Asian.

 

[knowsbleed]

Alright I'll admit I was wrong in that regard. I don't let the extent of the race living in my area play a factor in who I date.


But when I say I like Asian women, I'm looking for features in them just how I would any other girl. Like I said if I enter a room full of pretty girls and none of them are Asian the thought wouldn't even cross my mind. But if I see one that fits my bill of things I want in a woman then sure I would like to date her. I simply hope I find those features in a Asian because I like some of the features that make Asians well Asian.

Haha, you take a step forward and then take two steps backward... you hope to find an Asian woman who has features that you like because you like Asian features and you want to find them in an Asian... I know that you don't realize how backwards that sounds but trust me, it does.

 

[Grievous]

Haha, you take a step forward and then take two steps backward... you hope to find an Asian woman who has features that you like because you like Asian features and you want to find them in an Asian... I know that you don't realize how backwards that sounds but trust me, it does.

Just what exactly is wrong in saying you like certain features a race has that makes them stand out? These features are why the word race exist. If there was no features how could you tell races apart? Your trying to put a bad label on people that notice things about races. I've already said I wouldn't date someone just because they are Asian so don't come back at me by saying I'm only caring about the racial features and not the actual woman features.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Then say you like petite and slender girls. No need to denote race here.

Besides, it's all relative. You just met me - I'm sure you'd say I was petite and slender, compared to you. In Taiwan, where my parents are from, I wore size large pants, and that was before I started weightlifting.

When a typically "pretty" girl of your race is 5'0" and 95 lbs, you think of yourself as frigging huge when you are 5'5" and almost 120.

And I seriously have met a black girl who wore shirts I couldn't fit my shoulders in. So specifying race when you actually prefer a physical body type doesn't really work.


My husband's like that. He doesn't like PDA. I have to make the effort to hold his hand in public, but he'll grab my hand when I crawl into bed, even when he's half asleep.

So it sounds normal to me. If she is honest about stuff with you, you should be okay. When the hubs and I were dating, he was very quiet and again, not into PDA. But I figured if he had an issue, he'd let me know. He's a big boy.

Yes, a lot of women of other races are also slender and petite. And not every woman that is slender and petite is someone I'm attracted to, and not ever girl I'm attracted to is slender and petite. And many girls that aren't Asian have the same features that I am attracted to Asians for, and many Asian girls don't have the same features that I am attracted to.

But why is it so wrong to say that I'm attracted to Asians when, by my experiences, Asians are most likely to have the physical traits and qualities that I am attracted to, and I haven't had the same level of attraction towards girls of other races as I have had towards Asians?

It doesn't mean I am only attracted to Asian girls. It doesn't mean that girls of other races can't, and don't, have the same features that I look for, and it doesn't mean that every Asian girl I meet I'm going to be attracted to. Buuutttt... again, in my experiences, in general I still find Asian girls to be more attractive than girls of other races, even if I were to take girls of all races that have the same features that I am attracted to, I'd probably find myself most attracted to the Asian woman. I don't see why that's such a bad thing to say...

And yes, I did just meet you, and yes I would call you petite and slender, and despite you always saying that you're not the type of girl that attracts much male attention, if you were some girl I had bumped into in my day to day activity and not a message board buddy from the internet that I knew was married, you're the type I'd most likely be interested in asking out, sooo...

I do understand... it's you who refuse to understand and break down exactly what you mean when you say "I am attracted to Asian women" then go and say "I like them because they are slender and light skinned"... that describes a lot of women

Oh... and once again, you take what I say and twist it. I'm not demonizing others... I said that the idea of being attracted to an entire race of people because of their stereotypical physical features is antiquated and ignorant... that's EXACTLY what I said. If you read into that more than what I said... then that's a personal issue.



If it was such a non-issue and it was about attraction and moreso personality, then why even point out that you're attracted to Asian women?

What I'm saying is that if you're attracted to specific physical features, then that's fine. Having brown hair is a physical feature and is perfectly understandable to say, "I'm attracted to brown haired women".

When you say, "I'm attracted to Asian women"... well, there's a **** ton of Asian women with all different features... it's like saying, "I like running shoes"... different shapes, sizes and colors with different features. It's too broad of a statement and if you can't understand that and refuse to try to understand, then I guess ignorance is bliss.

Wait, so calling someone "ignorant" isn't demonizing them?

You're basically talking down on someone for having certain preferences, calling them ignorant, calling it "lust". You're demonizing.