The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[RetrogradeOrbit]

That isn't even what I meant, I meant being nice alone (to get physical with someone). But sure I'll play along, yeah I wanna find a jerk to hook up with. There is no way you actually thought I meant that.

Well this is a message board and it is not always apparent if someone is being serious or not without the appropriate emoticon.

It is just that I have known some girls that would only date pillocks, because it was more exciting. Hence my comment.

No offense meant to you... If I did offend, apology is offered.

 

[Anita18]

How about, nice and hot?

Okay, I'm intrigued now...

Lets say we are talking about the possibility of an initial date with someone.

Apart from their physical characteristics and a surface indication of what their personality is.
What other assets are readily discernible to base a dating decision upon?

I'd date someone because he was nice. The fact that my husband is so kind to me is one of the reasons why I him so much.

But people don't like being told what to do, so there would be some pushback if all these folks were telling me to date someone. The fact that they are makes it feel arranged, like she has no say in the matter.

And they're using the "he's nice" card so she'll look like a b**** if she turns him down.

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

Sometimes things just get so convoluted....

I'm never listening to anyone ever again!

 

[Ms. Marvel]

I'd date someone because he was nice. The fact that my husband is so kind to me is one of the reasons why I him so much.

But people don't like being told what to do, so there would be some pushback if all these folks were telling me to date someone. The fact that they are makes it feel arranged, like she has no say in the matter.

And they're using the "he's nice" card so she'll look like a b**** if she turns him down.

Pretty much, yep. Other things are important as well like being funny. That's really attractive.

 

[Anita18]

Pretty much, yep. Other things are important as well like being funny. That's really attractive.

Yeah, we women know.

The hubs didn't start being funny until we'd been dating a while and he got comfortable around me. He was so nervous at first, all his jokes fell flat.

 

[knowsbleed]

Yeah, we women know.

The hubs didn't start being funny until we'd been dating a while and he got comfortable around me. He was so nervous at first, all his jokes fell flat.

I'm the opposite, on a blind date I usually get trigger happy with the jokes like a cheap stand-up-comedian. My last date said, "Oh thank you so much... I haven't laughed that hard and long in quite a while"... then she went home and I didn't get laid... and she never called back. Funny guys don't always get some.

 

[webhead9707]

Yeah, we women know.

The hubs didn't start being funny until we'd been dating a while and he got comfortable around me. He was so nervous at first, all his jokes fell flat.

I'm the opposite, on a blind date I usually get trigger happy with the jokes like a cheap stand-up-comedian. My last date said, "Oh thank you so much... I haven't laughed that hard and long in quite a while"... then she went home and I didn't get laid... and she never called back. Funny guys don't always get some.

I appear to have the perfect balance of humor, when I first meet girls, we have good conversations with the occasional joke thrown in.. Problem is, while 50% of my jokes are clever and witty, the other 50% are cheesy slapstick Jim Carrey type jokes... I should probably stop making those jokes shouldn't I?

 

[moviedoors]

It's official. I'm gonna get married and I'm gonna be a daddy. What a crazy year. 2013 started as the worst year of my life, and it's become the best.

 

[Warhammer]

Congratulations.

 

[Erzengel]

 

[knowsbleed]

 

[Duke]

 

[webhead9707]

It's official. I'm gonna get married and I'm gonna be a daddy. What a crazy year. 2013 started as the worst year of my life, and it's become the best.

Congratulations.

What they said.

 

[Anubis]

Are you getting married because she's knocked up or were you getting married then found out she was knocked up?

 

[Anita18]

It's official. I'm gonna get married and I'm gonna be a daddy. What a crazy year. 2013 started as the worst year of my life, and it's become the best.

Crazy year, but next year is gonna be crazier.

Good luck, you crazy kids!

 

[moviedoors]

Are you getting married because she's knocked up or were you getting married then found out she was knocked up?

Basically the former, but we're gonna wait until after the kid is born to get married. And we're not getting married just because she got knocked up. Under any other circumstances, I would be worried and torn up about this, but this feels so right. We'd already decided to move in together and were gearing up to do so, and I wasn't going to make it the remainder of the year without proposing to her. This is one hell of a nudge, and we both had an incredibly stressful week trying to decide if we were going to keep it or not. We decided yesterday we were going to keep it and as soon as I spoke the words "I want to have this baby with you" I was flooded with relief and a kind of shocked euphoria topped with happy tears. I instantly went from not having a clue what to do and having no notable desire to have kids to being absolutely committed to raising this child with her. Saying the words aloud flipped some evolutionary parental switch inside me.

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Thanks for all the thumbs up everybody!

 

[Anita18]

Basically the former, but we're gonna wait until after the kid is born to get married. Under any other circumstances, I would be worried and torn up about this, but this feels so right. We'd already decided to move in together and were gearing up to do so, and I wasn't going to make it the remainder of the year without proposing to her. This is one hell of a nudge, and we both had an incredibly stressful week trying to decide if we were going to keep it or not. We decided yesterday we were going to keep it and as soon as I spoke the words "I want to have this baby with you" I was flooded with relief and a kind of shocked euphoria topped with happy tears. I instantly went from not having a clue what to do and having no notable desire to have kids to being absolutely committed to raising this child with her. Saying the words aloud flipped some evolutionary parental switch inside me.

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Thanks for all the thumbs up everybody!

So glad to hear you had that conversation, and so honest too.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

The girls in my house are advising me to get with a boy they know because he's a nice guy. Since when was that a good reason to do someone?

Why -isn't- it a good reason to go on a date with someone??

It might take more than that, but that's certainly a good start, wouldn't you think??

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Why -isn't- it a good reason to go on a date with someone??

It might take more than that, but that's certainly a good start, wouldn't you think??

I wasn't talking about going on a date. That's not what they meant by "get with". I did mention "doing someone" in my post.

 

[jaymes_e06]

Congratulations.

What they said.

I like to be oppositional. But seriously congrats!

 

[Anubis]

Why -isn't- it a good reason to go on a date with someone??

It might take more than that, but that's certainly a good start, wouldn't you think??

Cuz you could be the kinda guy who gives a kidney to a homeless person you just met, but if you look like the Toxic Avenger crossed with Beetlejuice, Who gives a s**t?

 

[Grievous]

I wasn't talking about going on a date. That's not what they meant by "get with". I did mention "doing someone" in my post.

Sounds like you would rather date then "get with" if you don't even know the guy then that's pretty extreme to give your friends the green light to try to set you guys up.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I wasn't talking about going on a date. That's not what they meant by "get with". I did mention "doing someone" in my post.

I read "do" as "date" for some reason.

In terms of "doing" someone, then yes I agree being "nice" isnt enough reason to just hop in the sack and bang someone.

 

[Grievous]

I read "do" as "date" for some reason.

In terms of "doing" someone, then yes I agree being "nice" isnt enough reason to just hop in the sack and bang someone.

Well she also said "hot and nice" wasn't good enough, if that's the case you shouldn't be agreeing to have sex with someone you don't even know. Because I feel if all the two of you are after is sex then do other traits about someone even matter besides being nice or attractive? But since she isn't comfortable with just being told he is nice sounds to me like she isn't alright with the idea period. Like I said if you like to know someone before just jumping in the bed then you sound better off agreeing to go on an date, not go to the bedroom.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Sounds like you would rather date then "get with" if you don't even know the guy then that's pretty extreme to give your friends the green light to try to set you guys up.

I didn't give them the green light I didn't show any interest in anyone but they are randomly bringing him up because he's interested in me despite barely knowing me. And I can't say "no way" without coming off like a b****, especially when his friends are there and after the "he's a nice guy" comment. I avoid the topic like a plague.