Attack of the *Official* Relationship Advice Thread

[SpideyVille]

So when one gets a girl into gaming, is it more of the hardcore games Like Batman or God of war, or are they easier game like Wii Sports or something?

 

[twylight]

So when one gets a girl into gaming, is it more of the hardcore games Like Batman or God of war, or are they easier game like Wii Sports or something?

Depends on the girl. I prefer racing games, or anything with zombies, but who can resist Little Big Planet? I mean really. It's so cute

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

They obviously know nothing about theatre students. All my friends in Theatre/Drama are like the wildest, craziest people I know. When I want a good time I hang out with them. My first boyfriend (and now friend) is a media/performing arts major and he parties so hard he has to hang onto the floor most nights.

I know right?

The funnest, most outgoing people I know are the people I've met doing theatre. The theatre parties are the best parties I've ever been to. Being around theatre people has broken me out of my own shell and made me tons more outgoing than I ever was. I don't know where this notion comes from.

 

[SpideyVille]

I know right?

The funnest, most outgoing people I know are the people I've met doing theatre. The theatre parties are the best parties I've ever been to. Being around theatre people has broken me out of my own shell and made me tons more outgoing than I ever was. I don't know where this notion comes from.

I'm taking an acting class now and there are a lot of theatre majors there and they've really been fun to be around. The class as a whole feels a lot like a family only not as dysfunctional.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I'm taking an acting class now and there are a lot of theatre majors there and they've really been fun to be around. The class as a whole feels a lot like a family only not as dysfunctional.

My department is like a big old family. But we're pretty dysfunctional, lol.

 

[AndThePickles]

Women be shoppin'.

I know, right? You can't STOP a woman from shoppin!

 

[Erzengel]

Not without some sort of restraining device, no.

 

[Poeman]

So when one gets a girl into gaming, is it more of the hardcore games Like Batman or God of war, or are they easier game like Wii Sports or something?

Would be hard pressed to find a girl who is into Batman Arkham City

Although I have played girls before on Call of Duty

 

[steintym]

Those examples aren't methods of ignoring for everyone.

No, I agree. I was implying the girl has no interest in those things and is being ignored.

 

[Cuyan]

Would be hard pressed to find a girl who is into Batman Arkham City

I do consider myself lucky.

 

[AndThePickles]

Would be hard pressed to find a girl who is into Batman Arkham City

Why? It looks badass, I'm excited to play it.

 

[Anita18]

Would be hard pressed to find a girl who is into Batman Arkham City

Although I have played girls before on Call of Duty

There's already a few on this thread. Another SHH girl I know on Facebook reported that she was the first in line for it at her local Gamestop.

The walkthroughs are bringing meaning to my life. One of these days I'll get the game for sure, it looks like SO much fun!

 

[Godzilla2000]

So when one gets a girl into gaming, is it more of the hardcore games Like Batman or God of war, or are they easier game like Wii Sports or something?

I really like to play the Monster Hunter games as well as a lot of old school games like Ninja Turtles IV: Turtles In Time, which I have very fond memories playing with friends, especially if you get 3 others to play all the turtles. I will play Wii Sports Resort or the Sims 3 too.

And here's a Nugget of Opinion from yours truly for any of you guys if you find yourself in the unenviabley difficult position of getting divorced: At least with Alimony you know how much money you are giving your ex-wife as opposed to still being married and coming home to a "surprise" where you're saying to yourself or to her out loud, "You paid how much for that!? "

 

[alexissuperman]

The only *official* relationship advice in my eyes, is don't get in one!!

 

[Godzilla2000]

Well, I'm officially discouraged when it comes to relationships so it's this much closer to not wanting to be in one. It always seems to me like 99.9% of the men in this world could care less about how I'm feeling and just want to sex me up and exploit me when all I really want is to be treated with patience, grace, genuine, nonsexual love, respect and dignity. Unfair opinion or not but this is just how I feel. I just don't think the male contingent gets it at all, I don't do things to turn on legions of men, I just want to turn on one man. When I'm in a relationship I have a laser pointer approach in that the man I'm with is the only one deserving of any sort of intimate behavior whatsoever. With me intimacy is a totally private thing between just me and the man I'm in love with. I don't share any sort of information on what I do with the man I love with anybody because it's nobody's business. But most of the intruders on the outside don't seem to get it. Nor will all their flippant noise convince me otherwise that I should be overtly explicit when it comes to my body. The only man who is priveleged enough to see the sexual side of me is the man that I love and that's it. All other men can just suffer and be envious of that man I'm with because I'm not interested in pleasing them at all. So don't go expecting any Playboy spreads from me because I have more class than that.

 

[Anita18]

Well, I'm officially discouraged when it comes to relationships so it's this much closer to not wanting to be in one. It always seems to me like 99.9% of the men in this world could care less about how I'm feeling and just want to sex me up and exploit me when all I really want is to be treated with patience, grace, genuine, nonsexual love, respect and dignity. Unfair opinion or not but this is just how I feel. I just don't think the male contingent gets it at all, I don't do things to turn on legions of men, I just want to turn on one man. When I'm in a relationship I have a laser pointer approach in that the man I'm with is the only one deserving of any sort of intimate behavior whatsoever. With me intimacy is a totally private thing between just me and the man I'm in love with. I don't share any sort of information on what I do with the man I love with anybody because it's nobody's business. But most of the intruders on the outside don't seem to get it. Nor will all their flippant noise convince me otherwise that I should be overtly explicit when it comes to my body. The only man who is priveleged enough to see the sexual side of me is the man that I love and that's it. All other men can just suffer and be envious of that man I'm with because I'm not interested in pleasing them at all. So don't go expecting any Playboy spreads from me because I have more class than that.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you say that you lived in a small town? And you're saying 99.99% of men in the entire world just want sex with no strings?

You need to get out of there if you're going to find a good man, judging by your reports. I also think I need to avoid wherever you are right now, if all your local men are like that.

 

[Godzilla2000]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you say that you lived in a small town? And you're saying 99.99% of men in the entire world just want sex with no strings?

You need to get out of there if you're going to find a good man, judging by your reports. I also think I need to avoid wherever you are right now, if all your local men are like that.

Well, where I live is a pretty strange community anyways with houses up for sale because people can't afford them, no jobs, and very little to do so you'd probably not want to come here. Well, maybe you'd like to visit in the Summer time when it's nice out and you can see one of our dazzling sunsets and sunrises.

Anyways, that whole sex with no strings sort of a thing is mostly just my instinctive approach to guys. You see, I am a very distrusting sort of person in that based upon past experiences with people I tend to keep everyone, even members of my own family, at arms length. I need to see with my own eyes through actions, not words that someone has my best interests and my happiness as a priority. Of course I do always think that I'm being tricked and lied to as well so it's more or less a double edged sword. I've just been screwed over literally and figuratively too many times to be so blindly trusting of a man I'm interested in unless I see some genuine, real actions to protect my dignity and esteem.

 

[Anita18]

Well, where I live is a pretty strange community anyways with houses up for sale because people can't afford them, no jobs, and very little to do so you'd probably not want to come here. Well, maybe you'd like to visit in the Summer time when it's nice out and you can see one of our dazzling sunsets and sunrises.

Anyways, that whole sex with no strings sort of a thing is mostly just my instinctive approach to guys. You see, I am a very distrusting sort of person in that based upon past experiences with people I tend to keep everyone, even members of my own family, at arms length. I need to see with my own eyes through actions, not words that someone has my best interests and my happiness as a priority. Of course I do always think that I'm being tricked and lied to as well so it's more or less a double edged sword. I've just been screwed over literally and figuratively too many times to be so blindly trusting of a man I'm interested in unless I see some genuine, real actions to protect my dignity and esteem.

The real estate situation sounds just like where my parents live. Luckily they're retired and not looking to sell so the falling home prices doesn't really affect them...

So...you say that your mindset is due to your "instinctive approach" to guys? Talk about completely unproven assumptions! I think you have a lot to work out in your own mind before being ready for a relationship, ESPECIALLY if your automatic reaction is to distrust everybody before they can even get a chance to show you who they are. I mean, I'm a fairly trusting and lenient person, but I can just as easily concoct scenarios where my friends' typical actions means they're out to get me and the most innocuous look means that every guy wants to get in my pants. I just choose not to interpret such things so maliciously, and I think I'm more accurate in that assessment...

 

[Godzilla2000]

So...you say that your mindset is due to your "instinctive approach" to guys? Talk about completely unproven assumptions! I think you have a lot to work out in your own mind before being ready for a relationship, ESPECIALLY if your automatic reaction is to distrust everybody before they can even get a chance to show you who they are. I mean, I'm a fairly trusting and lenient person, but I can just as easily concoct scenarios where my friends' typical actions means they're out to get me and the most innocuous look means that every guy wants to get in my pants. I just choose not to interpret such things so maliciously, and I think I'm more accurate in that assessment...

Well, the thing is that I demand that people prove themselves to me before I'm willing to trust them. If I don't see physical results that I am protected then I will just stand there in silence and not give in one way or the other. Basically this is a test of character and many have failed it because philosophically and intellectually they aren't what I'd consider on my level. I'm looking for my equal in every physical and mental aspect. Anything less than someone I can relate to is just wasting my time. Whether or not this is an unfair assessment is irrelevant because this is just how I feel.

 

[Erzengel]

What's been your longest relationship?

 

[LOBO3315a]

My X wife had much of the same attitude when we first got together. She eventually turned into the type of person she despised, and hooked up with a younger guy.

Be careful that you aren't projecting yourself onto other people.

 

[Godzilla2000]

What's been your longest relationship?

I don't remember past relationships at all. I file anything that didn't last into the great paper shredder of my subconscious. It's easier for me to just forget them all as opposed to remembering something that was a lost cause. It's pretty funny what the mind will choose to remember or forget.

 

[SpideyVille]

I don't remember past relationships at all. I file anything that didn't last into the great paper shredder of my subconscious. It's easier for me to just forget them all as opposed to remembering something that was a lost cause. It's pretty funny what the mind will choose to remember or forget.

I understand why you may feel the need to be weary of trusting people right away because nobody likes to be hurt repeatedly in the same way and its only natural to put up some walls at some point.

But at the same time, I think you're a little too judgmental and have extremely high expectations from people. I mean, have you ever though about what "the man you're in love with" will feel or think about the baggage you carry around (because honestly, it seems like you only focus on preventing the bad when it comes to relationships, as opposed to also embracing the good). I mean not every guy is looking just for sex, but you make it seem like a guy has to go through a whole process to prove his worthiness to you, and honestly, that's pretty selfish. He could be a great guy but if he doesn't fit your ideal vision, it seems like you're not even giving him a chance and consider him to be just like the rest, when that could not even be the case.

As for remembering past relationships, you seem to remember the outcome pretty well since you don't have fond memories, but even in a lost cause, there are things worth remembering for future reference.

 

[Godzilla2000]

I understand why you may feel the need to be weary of trusting people right away because nobody likes to be hurt repeatedly in the same way and its only natural to put up some walls at some point.

But at the same time, I think you're a little too judgmental and have extremely high expectations from people. I mean, have you ever though about what "the man you're in love with" will feel or think about the baggage you carry around (because honestly, it seems like you only focus on preventing the bad when it comes to relationships, as opposed to also embracing the good). I mean not every guy is looking just for sex, but you make it seem like a guy has to go through a whole process to prove his worthiness to you, and honestly, that's pretty selfish. He could be a great guy but if he doesn't fit your ideal vision, it seems like you're not even giving him a chance and consider him to be just like the rest, when that could not even be the case.

As for remembering past relationships, you seem to remember the outcome pretty well since you don't have fond memories, but even in a lost cause, there are things worth remembering for future reference.

It's not that hard to make me fall for a man if they can keep me intellectually stimulated with intelligent conversation and manners. If a guy can look me in the eyes for an extended period of time while I'm talking instead of on other areas of my body which are rather obvious then I instantly feel more comfortable around him. I mean I do expect an initial sizing up of course because if I am interested in a man I will do the same to if I'm physically attracted to him. But I have to have more than just a physical attraction, I need to see what the man I fancy is really like up inside of his brain. I expect some of the more common manly things but I'm also interested in his intelligence and if he can speak intelligently without reminding me of a club wielding caveman. Most of the guys I've had brief encounters with were the macho types who'd let me crash into the door instead of open it for me. Basically the gene pool here is pretty much devoid of class and I don't even know what the word pampered by a man is. I just want a man who is on my relative level of intelligence, who can stimulate my brain as well as my body. And more importantly I want a man who can make me feel like I'm wanted because of the intangibles as well as the very tangible. I'm looking for a well rounded man who knows how to treat a lady and who genuinely respects me as a woman and an equal.

 

[Erzengel]

^
What you just said is not unreasonable.

However, several other posts you made makes it seem you have unrealistic expectations of men especially around where you live.

And your "inability" to remember past relationships, means you are either side stepping the question or haven't been that long lasting.