The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - Part 27

[enterthemadness]

Because you didn't feel anything? It's a little premature considering you only went out once. If you're doing because of some sort of insecurity then I don't know what you are looking for.

It was a nice date, but we didn't really connect, I guess. I just kinda feel she isn't into me. Who knows, maybe we do go out again, but I don't feel like asking her a second time when is good for her.

 

[Erzengel]

Think it's a little unrealistic to be expecting fireworks and something out of a John Hughes movie on the first date.

You admitted she was nervous. She might need time to warm up.

Honestly, did you put your very best foot forward because you said you were nervous too?

 

[enterthemadness]

Think it's a little unrealistic to be expecting fireworks and something out of a John Hughes movie on the first date.

You admitted she was nervous. She might need time to warm up.

Honestly, did you put your very best foot forward because you said you were nervous too?

I guess? . Look, I don't want to bug someone to go out with me again.

 

[Erzengel]

Asking someone twice at least shows effort on your part. Giving up after asking her for a second date once, seems like you just want things to be easy.

 

[enterthemadness]

Asking someone twice at least shows effort on your part. Giving up after asking her for a second date once, seems like you just want things to be easy.

Maybe I want something easy with how my work is. Hell, I don't even want to go in today...I don't. I did do tow apps over the weekend. Ruby Tuesday and Petsmart.

 

[Charlie Boy]

The best advice I can give someone who gets a handshake at the end of a date: Cut both your hands off. You'll never have to worry about a date ending that way ever again.

 

[enterthemadness]

The best advice I can give someone who gets a handshake at the end of a date: Cut both your hands off. You'll never have to worry about a date ending that way ever again.

Omfprh, poor Nell.

 

[Erzengel]

Listen ETM, nothing is guaranteed to ever be easy. Everything you want you're going to have to go get. That means women, that means a better job. It really feels like you think things should just magically happen.

 

[enterthemadness]

Listen ETM, nothing is guaranteed to ever be easy. Everything you want you're going to have to go get. That means women, that means a better job. It really feels like you think things should just magically happen.

Oh no, if that were the case, I'd still believe in the Easter Bunny and Santa Clause.

 

[Erzengel]

Then let me ask you this. Ruby Tuesday and Petsmart, what position did you apply for?

 

[enterthemadness]

Then let me ask you this. Ruby Tuesday and Petsmart, what position did you apply for?

Busser and Dish Washer for Ruby's. Stocker for Petsmart with full availability and willing to work overnight, overtime and everything. Probably should had put in for Cashier as well at Petsmart.

 

[Anita18]

The best advice I can give someone who gets a handshake at the end of a date: Cut both your hands off. You'll never have to worry about a date ending that way ever again.

The only time I got or was given a handshake at the end of a date, I really didn't want to see the guy again anyway, so I think I got the point across.

 

[enterthemadness]

The only time I got or was given a handshake at the end of a date, I really didn't want to see the guy again anyway, so I think I got the point across.

poor Nell.

 

[Erzengel]

Dish Washers make around minimum wage.

Bussers probably make at least minimum wage at most some minimal salary plus 1.5% from each waiter's shift.

Average cashiers make about $minimum wage -$11 an hour depending on the area.

The reason I bring these up is I know you have goals of getting a new car, moving out, etc. Having a minimum wage job puts you at minimum a few years living at home. And with places like Ruby Tuesday, are you looking to go from busser to waiter because at least those pay a little better there's not much in terms of advancement.

And you've been working at TJ Maxx for how long, you don't seem to want to advance though not sure if you were ever offered anything there.

You do seem a little directionless, and seem to be just spinning your wheels on the job front.

The same thing kinda applies to the way you ask out women.

 

[the last son]

I have a meet in about an hour with this really hot chick. Hopefully all goes well. Just have to be myself and let the chips fall where they may.

 

[enterthemadness]

Let me ask this. Should I put in for Prep cook at places?

 

[Erzengel]

I think you should sit down and think really hard where'd you like to be in 5 years. How much you would need to make, see what jobs could pay that and see what you would need to get there.

 

[Charlie Boy]

And stay away from women.

 

[Anita18]

Listen ETM, nothing is guaranteed to ever be easy. Everything you want you're going to have to go get. That means women, that means a better job. It really feels like you think things should just magically happen.

Yup. I'm a woman and I still had to go out and get what I wanted. I messaged my husband first.

Dish Washers make around minimum wage.

Bussers probably make at least minimum wage at most some minimal salary plus 1.5% from each waiter's shift.

Average cashiers make about $minimum wage -$11 an hour depending on the area.

The reason I bring these up is I know you have goals of getting a new car, moving out, etc. Having a minimum wage job puts you at minimum a few years living at home. And with places like Ruby Tuesday, are you looking to go from busser to waiter because at least those pay a little better there's not much in terms of advancement.

And you've been working at TJ Maxx for how long, you don't seem to want to advance though not sure if you were ever offered anything there.

You do seem a little directionless, and seem to be just spinning your wheels on the job front.

The same thing kinda applies to the way you ask out women.

Well, I think being directionless on the job front is a bit more problematic than being directionless about dates. Most people get by just fine being single, but it's a much bigger problem if you're stuck living at home barely able to save money, because you don't have the motivation to go for more than minimum wage jobs.

ETM - like Erz said, worthwhile things DO take work. Going back to school to be qualified for a higher paying job takes work, and you won't enjoy every second of it. And sometimes it will be a slog and it will be hard. (I was a biology major, I KNOW. Chemistry and physics were the bane of my life, and I had to take them for 2 friggin' years.) But ETM, it doesn't seem like you've ever had a long-term goal and stuck to it. That's the mark of true maturity - if you're able to tamp down your impulsive nature and stick to a goal, even if it's hard at that moment. That's how worthwhile things ever come anyone's way.

 

[enterthemadness]

Well, my coworker is moving to a earlier shift......

 

[Erzengel]

Yup. I'm a woman and I still had to go out and get what I wanted. I messaged my husband first.


Well, I think being directionless on the job front is a bit more problematic than being directionless about dates. Most people get by just fine being single, but it's a much bigger problem if you're stuck living at home barely able to save money, because you don't have the motivation to go for more than minimum wage jobs.

ETM - like Erz said, worthwhile things DO take work. Going back to school to be qualified for a higher paying job takes work, and you won't enjoy every second of it. And sometimes it will be a slog and it will be hard. (I was a biology major, I KNOW. Chemistry and physics were the bane of my life, and I had to take them for 2 friggin' years.) But ETM, it doesn't seem like you've ever had a long-term goal and stuck to it. That's the mark of true maturity - if you're able to tamp down your impulsive nature and stick to a goal, even if it's hard at that moment. That's how worthwhile things ever come anyone's way.

Judging from the above post, he's either not interested in discussing it, or he doesn't see it as an issue.

 

[Anita18]

Judging from the above post, he's either not interested in discussing it, or he doesn't see it as an issue.

Well, you can't help people who don't want to be helped.

But seriously, not attending school because he admitted he gets too horny? That's far too immature even for someone in their 20s.

Everyone reaps what they sow.

 

[enterthemadness]

Well, you can't help people who don't want to be helped.

But seriously, not attending school because he admitted he gets too horny? That's far too immature even for someone in their 20s.

Everyone reaps what they sow.

I actually like community college, me throwing my emotions into it IS me being immature, you are right.

 

[enterthemadness]

Just read your post, I do need to get my emotions into check. One thing I need to do is get out of my current job.

 

[Anita18]

Just read your post, I do need to get my emotions into check. One thing I need to do is get out of my current job.

Sure, but do you have any long-term plans? Bouncing from minimum-wage job to minimum-wage job isn't very sustainable.