The Riddler
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improve yourself -- get into better shape and try to get your life in a position where you're happy. if you're happy with where you are (physically, mentally, financially), you'll also be more desirable by women.I have been trying dating apps for years and years messaged I dont even know how many woman and have had like 2 message me back, and it was 1 and done message. POF seems like half the profiles are fake or something. The reason I say that is I have had a lot of people message me and they want me to like go onto some other site or something or I will see a profile get delected shortly after I tried to message them meaning must be a fake and most of the time is not something you could tell from the profile at all. I was also in a really really bad spot for a long time extreme depression has a result of hating my job and not being able to find a new job no matter how much I tried to apply at places. People say places are looking for people to work but in my experience if you dont have like 5 years of experience and like a masters degree people dont care. I was finally able to get out of the job and into a much better job back in like middle July because of a friend other wise like 9 years of job hunting would have likely kept going on for longer. Fill a lot better now not having a job that sucks my sole away ever day and I also for the first time in 14 years post high school dont have to work on big holidays and deal with people, and I now get to sit down meaning just about zero back pain has standing all day was killing my back and sitting dont bother my back like at all.
I am trying to forget about woman and focus on my self because from experience I fill like woman hate me, and like all I do is creep them out and end up hurt and like I just cant be my self at all. Because of my stress level I had gotten into a really bad habit of eating junk food because I just didnt know how to deal with the stress and depression. I need to lose weight and eat better but having trouble getting back into a good habit of eating better because I was stress eating for so long that now I have just gotten addictive to like sugar really bad. I also need to get back to getting sleep have not gotten sleep for a long time because of my stress from work from my last job I just couldn't sleep and lack of sleep has really killed my memory have like no memory now scares me hope it comes back if I get sleep. Trying to get back into a sleep routine is hard to because after living like that for so long its just created bad insomnia to where I have a hard time not waking up like ever 2 hours or so. Got to like retrain my body in a lot of ways.
Sorry didnt mean to get long with that answer and get kind of off topic but yeah no luck with online dating want to meet someone but afraid to try and also dont see a lot of options has I have a small social circle so chance of meeting someone threw a friend is slim, and I would say like 99% of the time I see a cute even Simi cute woman they are with another guy. So fill like my best options are to forget woman and focus on my self but its hard has I do fill lonely a lot of times.
with respect to actually dating (or even just talked to women on apps or in general), you want to keep things fun and light, particularly when you're getting to know someone. based on your post in which you word vomited and overshared, you need to self edit and make sure you're presenting yourself in the best light. this is part and parcel with getting yourself right physically, mentally and financially as well.