Another approach could be to build a foundation of friendship first before getting all sexed out. I tend to find things last longer this way.
Definitely. That usually works best before jumping into a relationship, starting off as friends that is.
I’m not sure
building a friendship is the right term here, cause surely that implies you want
sexy time with them at a later date? To befriend someone would imply a platonic relationship.
It’s one thing to start off as friends with a natural development, it’s another thing entirely to befriend someone with the long (or short) term goal of jumping into bed with them.
I haven’t had an excessive number of dates to compare here, but of those I have had, it’s difficult to imagine a true friendship forming from one.
People go on dates with a goal (usually), that being something at the end of the night, or something that develops. People don’t go on dates to
make friends. In my experience the whole friendship card is just a nicer way for them to turn you down.
I don't believe in a friendzone. It's either they are attracted to you or they aren't.
Pretty much this.
I think "making friends" is easier when one is younger, in school or at a job that's not necessarily your career. It's a lot harder to make new friends once you're out of school, unless you work at a pretty big outfit or you're part of some sort of social club, etc.
On this I’d also agree and expand upon that by saying that, as adults, that’s where you’re going to lose touch with a lot of your friends. Jobs, Relationships, Kids, Relocation; there’s a whole heap of obstacles.
Yeah, when it comes to dating apps it's definitely about being more than just friends to start off. I should have clarified that I meant when you meet someone in your social circle as it might expand.
I think you need to clarify what you’re clarifying.
Befriending (and then later dating) someone from a social circle is very different from going on a date through Tinder or Match (etc). Ones initial intentions are completely different and guided for a start!
Basically if it's someone you hang out with casually with other friends and start to like them more and more. My initial post was way too basic and not detailed about the scenario enough. That was my bad.
I see
@MissMarvelous87 has already told you off about that! I’ll refrain from doing so too..
Personally, that'll be hard for me still. I think the only way I can make friends with someone is if I kinda knew that we weren't compatible or if I was otherwise involved. If I was single, I'd still be measuring someone up if I was introduced to them, especially if I found them attractive. But that's me.
I think most people do this subconsciously anyway don’t we?
I mean (assuming you’re heterosexual) if you were introduced to a scruffy guy with a wonky eye and a few missing teeth, your first reaction would most likely be along the lines of not wanting much, if anything to do with him, yet he could be a real good guy and a potentially great friend.
But statistically speaking, men tend to lose interest rather fast once they get laid without any effort.
I think that’s cultural. Monogamy isn’t what it once was.