The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - Part 31

[Shinobi Shaw]

I once had an ex girlfriend who at the time I’d remained friends with. One of my buddies asked if he could ask her out. I was happy to tell him to go for it. I still liked the girl as a friend and I wanted to see her with someone who I thought would be good to her.


Of course the whole thing came crashing down because it turned out that she wasn’t feeling it at the end of the date and when he went in for a kiss she told him no. Then a side of this friend that I’d never seen before came out and he went psycho and threatened to kill her. After I found out, I talked to her about it. Turned out, he sent her threatening letters afterward. I had to intervene and told him to leave her alone, which he did.

Suffice it to say, it ended the friendship, but I’m really glad that it did.

Jesus, all because she wouldn't kiss him? Some people are unhinged.

 

[theastsunnn]

Am I wrong for denying upgrading our concert seats from a standing room to VIP sitting area for an extra hundred dollars? My gf is pregnant and she wound up getting really sore from standing and we had to leave early. I felt horrible.

 

[GunBlade]

I would've done it.

The economy is tough on everyone's wallets so give yourself some grace.

 

[theastsunnn]

I would've done it.

The economy is tough on everyone's wallets so give yourself some grace.

So are you saying you would’ve paid the money?

 

[GunBlade]

Yeah.

 

[theastsunnn]

Yeah.

Yeah I’m a pretty crappy boyfriend. Learning lesson

 

[InCali]

Jesus, all because she wouldn't kiss him? Some people are unhinged.

Yeah.....S**t like that has nothing to do with not being able to kiss someone. I think it's likely the underlying issue is something along the lines of low self esteem, abandonment, or something like that. Of course, from a clinical perspective, the person might just have been EFFING CRAZY.

Of course there are outliers, but when someone tells me that someone is a jerk, I don't put much stock in it and think people are more complicated than that. People who are relatively "normal" aren't really the same person around different people. It's entirely possible for a person to be nice, considerate, or whatever in one particular relationship and a complete and utter ass**** in another. I certainly have relationships where I'm very a different person. Whether someone is a good person or not rather depends on perspective. Of course, there is a range of personalities that people fall in and some people really are pretty much a waste of plasma.

 

[Babillygunn]

Yeah.....S**t like that has nothing to do with not being able to kiss someone. I think it's likely the underlying issue is something along the lines of low self esteem, abandonment, or something like that. Of course, from a clinical perspective, the person might just have been EFFING CRAZY.

Of course there are outliers, but when someone tells me that someone is a jerk, I don't put much stock in it and think people are more complicated than that. People who are relatively "normal" aren't really the same person around different people. It's entirely possible for a person to be nice, considerate, or whatever in one particular relationship and a complete and utter ass**** in another. I certainly have relationships where I'm very a different person. Whether someone is a good person or not rather depends on perspective. Of course, there is a range of personalities that people fall in and some people really are pretty much a waste of plasma.

I think that you hit the nail on the head with insecurity. When I looked back, he always had a mixture of competitiveness and entitlement issues. I had dated this girl for several months and in our immaturity we probably hadn’t shied away from our excessive pda. I don’t think he could handle having the same girl say no to a kiss.

This guy was a guy that everyone liked, but I guess we should’ve seen this coming. He came from a really rich family and was very spoiled and manipulative. He was basically the caricature of every bad guy in a teen romantic comedy. (Just not as good looking.)

 

[Babillygunn]

Yeah I’m a pretty crappy boyfriend. Learning lesson

Don’t be too hard on yourself. You made a mistake. If you are learning your lesson, then you are not a crappy boyfriend.

What about making compromises? Was there not an option between standing room only and VIP tickets?


Edit:
Congrats on the pregnancy btw. I know that you guys had really been wanting a child.

 

[theastsunnn]

Don’t be too hard on yourself. You made a mistake. If you are learning your lesson, then you are not a crappy boyfriend.

What about making compromises? Was there not an option between standing room only and VIP tickets?


Edit:
Congrats on the pregnancy btw. I know that you guys had really been wanting a child.

Thank you. Yes the journey has been hell to get here, but worth it and my gf deserves all the credit. That’s why I felt so bad. I had the 100 bucks but thought it wasn’t worth it. Then when she got really bad cramps u felt horrible to think what if something horrible happens to her after all that we went thru and I left her standing over 100? And no there was only standing and VIP.

 

[InCali]

I think that you hit the nail on the head with insecurity. When I looked back, he always had a mixture of competitiveness and entitlement issues. I had dated this girl for several months and in our immaturity we probably hadn’t shied away from our excessive pda. I don’t think he could handle having the same girl say no to a kiss.

This guy was a guy that everyone liked, but I guess we should’ve seen this coming. He came from a really rich family and was very spoiled and manipulative. He was basically the caricature of every bad guy in a teen romantic comedy. (Just not as good looking.)

Yeah.....well, you know the old saying that hindsight gives you 20/20 vision.

That's not a very good saying though......I used to (emphasis on "used to" LOL) have 20/12 vision.

 

[InCali]

Yeah I’m a pretty crappy boyfriend. Learning lesson

Not at all. Listen to @Babillygunn . I'm sure you've offered up what is obviously your sincerest of apologies. Time to learn, move on, and make other mistakes.

 

[MissMarvelous]

Not at all. Listen to @Babillygunn . I'm sure you've offered up what is obviously your sincerest of apologies. Time to learn, move on, and make other mistakes.

Oh, please! Don't encourage people.

 

[Babillygunn]

Oh, please! Don't encourage people.

Don’t encourage people to listen to me? Harsh.

Actually you have a point there.

 

[MissMarvelous]

Don’t encourage people to listen to me? Harsh.

Actually you have a point there.

Haha sorry, I meant to @InCali 's last part of the message: make other mistakes.

I should've clarified that before!

 

[InCali]

Haha sorry, I meant to @InCali 's last part of the message: make other mistakes.

I should've clarified that before!

Nah......actually you were probably right on both counts.

 

[Shinobi Shaw]

I think that you hit the nail on the head with insecurity. When I looked back, he always had a mixture of competitiveness and entitlement issues. I had dated this girl for several months and in our immaturity we probably hadn’t shied away from our excessive pda. I don’t think he could handle having the same girl say no to a kiss.

This guy was a guy that everyone liked, but I guess we should’ve seen this coming. He came from a really rich family and was very spoiled and manipulative. He was basically the caricature of every bad guy in a teen romantic comedy. (Just not as good looking.)

I like how you hung out with all the rich kids. Let me find out you were a Southern nepo baby too.