The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - Part 27

[the last son]

If I offended anyone with my comments I'm sorry. I have bad judgement I suppose.

 

[Schlosser85]

You should be more concerned with the real-life consequences of your actions than about offending us by talking about them.

Use protection!

Also don't string girls along that you're not really into. You say she's smitten and is moving too fast, but then you're going on vacation with her? How is that supposed to discourage her?

 

[Erzengel]

You really don't seem to have learned from your past mistakes.

 

[the last son]

To defend myself, I didn't say I wasn't attracted to her. We share a lot of interest from football, movies and other things. Just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship. She initiated the sex and getting physical or it was mutual, but I didn't intend for it to happen.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Protection wasn't used. I was pretty intoxicated. It's her birthday weekend, so she wants to go out of town. She has a lot of qualities I like, but she's a little heavier than I like em. I'll eventually tell her where I stand. I don't really know where I stand. There's another girl I've been dating as well and like more.

To defend myself, I didn't say I wasn't attracted to her. We share a lot of interest from football, movies and other things. Just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship. She initiated the sex and getting physical or it was mutual, but I didn't intend for it to happen.

Is she the one with the good career prospects?

Cause if so, just carry on having unprotected sex with her, and maybe you'll get that stay at home dad wish

 

[PacificBoy]

Is the unprotected sex a one-off in the dates you had?

 

[Erzengel]

To defend myself, I didn't say I wasn't attracted to her. We share a lot of interest from football, movies and other things. Just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship. She initiated the sex and getting physical or it was mutual, but I didn't intend for it to happen.

I think you're focusing on the wrong things. If you want to go around banging women, just use protection. I don't know why using protection after the last girl you got pregnant is still a foreign concept.

And you seem to have a MO, you seem to let sex be a determining factor in your decisions. You sleep with one girl and now feel obliged to go on vacation with her even though you're seeing another girl who you like more.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

To defend myself, I didn't say I wasn't attracted to her. We share a lot of interest from football, movies and other things. Just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship. She initiated the sex and getting physical or it was mutual, but I didn't intend for it to happen.

If you're not ready to be in a relationship and just wanna hook up with a women every now and then, stop going on dates and start picking up women from clubs/bars.

Seriously. What do you expect from a women if you date her?

If she thinks you're into this enough to invite you on a vacation, then you have clearly given her the wrong impression and are choosing to continue to do so.

THAT is what makes it so hard to root for you or even empathize with you in this thread.

 

[DeadPresident]

Dude's got more game than a wildlife reservation!

 

[Feenix]

If you're not ready to be in a relationship and just wanna hook up with a women every now and then, stop going on dates and start picking up women from clubs/bars.

Seriously. What do you expect from a women if you date her?

If she thinks you're into this enough to invite you on a vacation, then you have clearly given her the wrong impression and are choosing to continue to do so.

THAT is what makes it so hard to root for you or even empathize with you in this thread.

QFT

Dude's got more game than a wildlife reservation!

I wouldn't call it game unless he was hitting up clubs and taking home 10s. Having sex with women he finds online isn't exactly difficult, especially because you can specify what you're looking for (ie. sex).

 

[the last son]

After thinking about it, I'm going to date the woman I hooked up with yesterday. Not because I feel I owe her, but because we have a lot in common, she lives close to me and I want to see where this could go. I'm going to tell the other women that I'm involved with someone else.

 

[DeadPresident]

I wouldn't call it game unless he was hitting up clubs and taking home 10s. Having sex with women he finds online isn't exactly difficult, especially because you can specify what you're looking for (ie. sex).

I wasn't aware that was an option. To be fair maybe you girls should ease up, he's not the only dude in the world who might misread signals, I doubt he's intentionally misleading anyone, but he should be clearer about his intentions to avoid confusion.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm in deep crap. Second meet and sex was had. Now she's attached and invited me on vacation this weekend. This is moving too fast for me. She is smitten with me. She came over to my place not like I begged for sex. Oh boy. She's doing the driving, so I guess I'll go this weekend.

Protection wasn't used. I was pretty intoxicated. It's her birthday weekend, so she wants to go out of town. She has a lot of qualities I like, but she's a little heavier than I like em. I'll eventually tell her where I stand. I don't really know where I stand. There's another girl I've been dating as well and like more.

After thinking about it, I'm going to date the woman I hooked up with yesterday. Not because I feel I owe her, but because we have a lot in common, she lives close to me and I want to see where this could go. I'm going to tell the other women that I'm involved with someone else.

You're really all over the place. Either you don't really think about what you want to say or you're just a flake.

 

[PacificBoy]

I'm more concerned about his seemingly cavalier attitude towards unprotected sex than his flakiness. It's like "I just had sex without protection. Okay."

 

[Erzengel]

I mentioned that like 8 posts ago.

 

[PacificBoy]

Saw that (and a few others made mention too). And what's more concerning is that he seems to be avoiding the question or issue.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

He doesn't care what we have to say.

Yet he expects us to care about his problems and react to his flippant statements.

It's getting a bit tiresome to say the least.

 

[the last son]

I informed her that I wasn't thinking clear last night and I'm not looking for a relationship. The least I could do is be honest.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

You really just don't care what any of us just said, do you?

This thread is just a personal sounding board so you can order your thoughts, and we're the suckers trying to take what you say seriously.

 

[the last son]

What did you suggest in regards to what I just posted?

 

[Erzengel]

He doesn't want a critique on his answers. He just wants answers to his questions. C'mon you people.

 

[PacificBoy]

Be (more) concerned about having unprotected sex and the risk you put on yourself and others?

A rhetorical question btw.

 

[the last son]

I made a bad decision not using protection. It was stupid. It won't happen again. I recognize the dangers in my lack of judgement.

 

[DeadPresident]

No offense man, but didn't you say that the first time this happened? It's all fine and well saying that now, but when you're drunk as **** and some girl is trying to get you into bed?

You're going to wish your life was as simple as sitting on SHH asking for advice if that scenario had to happen again except the woman insisted on having the kid. The way the law is structured in most country's you have jack**** rights when it comes to that kid or her wishes, unless she's a meth addict robbing banks on a daily basis, and even then you'll probably still be liable for alimony.

Things are pretty rosy now compared to how out of hand things could get if you repeatedly roll the dice. Eventually the score won't be in your favor.

 

[the last son]

I agree. That was not smart and really stupid. First I have to get my drinking under control to make better decisions.