The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - - - Part 29

[Lord DeathMan]

Ooh yeah, living in a small town does make it harder, even online. I live in Los Angeles, am a thin Asian woman and it STILL took me 2.5 years to find a single boyfriend, and he lived an hour away at the time. It's very possible you need to widen your search if that's the case.

Starting conversations with new people takes practice. I'm still somewhat shy, but I've gotten better at job networking when I'm at meetups. It really does take practice.

Yeah, I've been broadened my search to almost 100 miles travel distance. That's the farthest I'd be willing to drive and it broadens my search to include Columbus and Cincinnati, far more populous cities. Just gonna be patient, try to get out more and go from there.

 

[Erzengel]

Buddy it's over and don't I need to be the bigger person to know we both have to move on? She's 500 miles away.

There's nothing wrong with telling her you miss her to.

It's not like you're turning down other people because of it.

Just don't see the harm.

 

[Lord DeathMan]

Or you could tell her that you think it'd be better to move on because you don't want to do a long distance relationship?

 

[Erzengel]

They weren't in that long of a relationship, and neither seemed to be interested in a LDR. But I'm not telling him to try and make it work just being honest.

 

[Dark Raven]

Serious question here: why do women seem to close their eyes during kissing? I notice this in many pictures and movies, and I suppose in real life. Is it something purely instinctive or a deliberate choice?

 

[ThePhantasm]

if a woman doesn't stare cross-eyed at my nose when we kiss, I consider our relationship over

 

[Anita18]

Cause what else are you supposed to look at?

In mainstream culture here it's actually considered rude or shady if you have your eyes open when you kiss, man or woman.

 

[Dark Raven]

I don't know. You could look into each other's eyes. I don't know what the etiquette is on kissing.

 

[DeadPresident]

Have you ever made eye contact with someone for longer than ten seconds? Now imagine that, except your eyes are an inch away from one another.

 

[Dark Raven]

Have you ever made eye contact with someone for longer than ten seconds? Now imagine that, except your eyes are an inch away from one another.

But presumably people avoid eye contact or look away when they know each other less, but two people who are very intimate should be able to stare into each other's eyes for hours without beginning to feel uncomfortable.

 

[Erzengel]

All those songs, tv shows and movies that state, I love to watch you when you're sleeping is effing creepy not romantic.

 

[Dark Raven]

All those songs, tv shows and movies that state, I love to watch you when you're sleeping is effing creepy not romantic.

I guess you don't like the words of this song then, particularly the line "I watch you when you are sleeping":

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Also the opening lyrics should say "Open your eyes" instead of "Close your eyes".

 

[Anita18]

...what sort of kissing are you doing if you can actually look into someone's eyes while you're doing it?

 

[Anita18]

Also, my husband thinks it's weird if I look at him too long. (My defense: "Am I not allowed to gaze lovingly at my husband?" ) He's probably a little on the autism spectrum (he's also very sensitive to noise) and doesn't do eye contact, at all. He shows his love for me in other ways. There's no hard and fast rules that apply to everyone.

 

[Anita18]

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https://www.relationup.com/sign-up/

 

[Erzengel]

I think I speak for most of the kissing population, just close your eyes when you're kissing, it actually is pretty unconscious act.

 

[moviedoors]

You can't see clearly that close up anyway, so what's the big deal? Unless you have a blur fetish...

 

[RetrogradeOrbit]

I'm definitely "On the market again" thing is, I'm finding this last girl a tough act to follow. And I reckon I'll be comparing her to them right from the start. I'm beginning to wonder if it's actually worth bothering at all.

At least for the time being. Perhaps I need time to not mind being alone again. That's the thing I really miss. We communicated for hours at a time.

It's also foremost on my mind that I might allow myself to settle for anything that comes along next to make myself feel better.
And I don't want to do that to myself or someone else.

It really sucks having feelings sometimes...

 

[Blind_Lawyer]

No offense, but I'm glad I'm married. Reading through this thread...man, I'm so glad I'm not doing the whole dating thing.

But yeah, free time...

 

[spiderman2]

I'm definitely "On the market again" thing is, I'm finding this last girl a tough act to follow. And I reckon I'll be comparing her to them right from the start. I'm beginning to wonder if it's actually worth bothering at all.

At least for the time being. Perhaps I need time to not mind being alone again. That's the thing I really miss. We communicated for hours at a time.

It's also foremost on my mind that I might allow myself to settle for anything that comes along next to make myself feel better.
And I don't want to do that to myself or someone else.

It really sucks having feelings sometimes...

Yes it dose suck having feelings some time expectioly when it creeps out women and makes you fell like you cant be your self and you have to worry that any girl you start to like you may just creep out. But with what you are going though it sounds like you may just need time to your self to kind of forget and really move on so you don't compare has much.

 

[Dark Raven]

If you are house sitting for a friend or relative, is it inappropriate to invite a potential date there for a romantic dinner? And if not, where would it cross the line?

 

[Erzengel]

It's fine. Just don't bang anywhere inappropriate.

 

[Dark Raven]

Where would be considered inappropriate?

 

[Erzengel]

Probably their beds unless they have a guest room.

Dining room table.

 

[Dark Raven]

Probably their beds unless they have a guest room.

Dining room table.

In general, is having sex in someone else's bed considered in really poor taste? Not that I am planning that, but just wondered.