Now you're trying to have it both ways. You can't say on one hand "they don't deserve it" but then a like a dozen words later say "better be prepared to take it." It's either okay or it's not.
And not everyone is going to celebrate you for okaying **** shaming.
So you can keep score.
That may be so, but not everyone is "typical" and putting a generality onto everyone who's slept with an arbitrary number of people is doing a disservice.
Sometimes just knowing in you're heart is enough
Exactly.
Okay, i've slept with around 30 people. I was a virgin until I was 20, lost it to someone I was in love with, he cheated on me and I stopped seeing sex and love as so tightly associated after that I guess.
There are definitely sexual encounters I regret, but I don't think my number is an extreme amount as I spent the majority of my life single... and I am a hedonistic creature who likes to enjoy all the pleasurable things in life. It works out to about 4 people a year... it's hardly orgies on a weekly basis
I am now in a committed relationship and have been for almost a year. I believe 100% in being faithful and have never cheated. I am not a selfish person... in fact, by all accounts I am a very giving and loving person.
And as for the 'comparing partners' thing... I think that's revealing your own paranoia...
Do you worry that the more men she's had the less chance you have of impressing her? Do you think there is nothing you could do to please her sexually because she's had it all before?
I understand that's it's all your perspective and your opinion... but maybe try opening your mind up a bit.
You hold a respect for sex as an action of love, and I think that's great. But I also think trying to understand that there are other ways of thinking about sex that aren't necessarily negative would be a good thing.
Well, it would be the first time there's been any action in that bed.
Seriously though, no it's never 'okay'. It's icky (so many bodily fluids) and it's generally disrespectful of someone's personal space.
in a row?
You could always use your own bedsheets.
Yeah but what if it soaks through to the mattress...?
Besides, I think some people are just irked by the idea that someone was doing it in their bed. It's just... one of those things that gives you the heebie jeebies, you know?
Not everyone's the same, but as a general rule of thumb i'd go with no.
Yeah but what if it soaks through to the mattress...?
Besides, I think some people are just irked by the idea that someone was doing it in their bed. It's just... one of those things that gives you the heebie jeebies, you know?
Not everyone's the same, but as a general rule of thumb i'd go with no.
Who the eff carries their own bedsheets, let alone a mattress protector with them?
I carry a lot of stuff in my car, just in case, but extra bedsheets isn't on that list.
Dude... just take her home!
Which just makes me feel great! I don't know my fiance's number. Never asked. Don't need to. But I know it dwarfs mine. And yet, she picked me. I'm the one she wants. That's awesome.
Well, if their not married, they can move on. Nothing at all wrong with a short term relationship. Is it a long term committed relationship? You can see a couple's therapist, you can try new things in the bedroom to spice things up, you could do something a little more daring and make things monogamish, you could talk to each other. Or move on. It happens. No matter what the circumstance, virgins or non-virgins, religious or secular, there are never any guarantees in long term relationships.
Of course they can!
Not exclusive to non-virgins.
Not exclusive to non-virgins.
