The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - - - - - - - - - Part 29

[Anita18]

No one at school likes me, they all go for the popular kids and even the ones who are geeks like me I don't like because they can be really annoying.

If high school was bad for you, college should be a lot better. Hopefully college is part of your plan....

 

[DA_Champion]

No one at school likes me, they all go for the popular kids and even the ones who are geeks like me I don't like because they can be really annoying.

It my not be obvious to you right now, in fact it probably isn't, but high school is a very small and very specific place. It's not your whole, there is plenty of potential for improvement, a lot of people out there hated high school and saw improvement later on.

But I feel sorry for you, because I've been there and many of my friends has. So I'm going to try and be a minor help, though really there is little anybody can do from across the internet.

How old are you Sanchez? What are three things about the world you enjoy? What do you do reasonably well?

 

[SuperSanchez]

It my not be obvious to you right now, in fact it probably isn't, but high school is a very small and very specific place. It's not your whole, there is plenty of potential for improvement, a lot of people out there hated high school and saw improvement later on.

But I feel sorry for you, because I've been there and many of my friends has. So I'm going to try and be a minor help, though really there is little anybody can do from across the internet.

How old are you Sanchez? What are three things about the world you enjoy? What do you do reasonably well?

My name is Anthony
Im 16
Im obsessed with Marvel and superheroes! And when I'm older I want to be a filmmaker!
3 thing I love about this world are
1. MARVEL and Superheroes
2. Friends and Family
3. my girlfriend (if i had one)
Not sure what else I really love in this world

 

[DA_Champion]

My name is Anthony
Im 16
Im obsessed with Marvel and superheroes! And when I'm older I want to be a filmmaker!
3 thing I love about this world are
1. MARVEL and Superheroes
2. Friends and Family
3. my girlfriend (if i had one)
Not sure what else I really love in this world

If you like Marvel and you don't like DC, you can get the f'ck out.

J/K ;-)

I'm sure there are other things you love. Do you have one or a few favourite foods? Would you rather have an ice cream or a warm apple pie slice for dessert? pepperoni or olives on your pizza?

You don't need to love these things to write them down. Like is enough. List a few other things. Spend a few hours thinking about it.

 

[SuperSanchez]

If you like Marvel and you don't like DC, you can get the f'ck out.

J/K ;-)

I'm sure there are other things you love. Do you have one or a few favourite foods? Would you rather have an ice cream or a warm apple pie slice for dessert? pepperoni or olives on your pizza?

You don't need to love these things to write them down. Like is enough. List a few other things. Spend a few hours thinking about it.

I like both Marvel and DC
I like Cheeseburgers and Fries with cheese sauce
I like going to IMAX
I like going to collectible and comic shops!
I like cuddling (only if it's with a girl I love)
I like cooking
I like being noticed
I like grilled cheese
I like girls with cheekbones and thin noses and kinda big eyes
I like being a geek
I like religion
I like lego
I like action figures
I like marvel t-shirts
I like being italian
I like pizza
I like New York
I like cuddling while watching superhero movies

 

[Tilapia]

Okay, I am texting this girl Sunday morning (after our date Friday) and its just small talk. I tell her what movie I'm watching, send out an audio joke, and its radio silence for the rest of the day from her. I figure she is motioning to break it off after a decent first date. I text her tonight asking for some feedback, she tells me she had a family Bday and was busy all day. Claims that she mentioned this while I was sipping on two fat glasses of bourbon the other night. Then she was like, "I figured you weren't interested." Even if I had remembered about her Sunday engagements (whether she told me directly or not), how the heck am I at fault when my last three texts go unreplied? I don't get it.... it's crazy.

 

[Enriquespy]

I like both Marvel and DC
I like Cheeseburgers and Fries with cheese sauce
I like going to IMAX
I like going to collectible and comic shops!
I like cuddling (only if it's with a girl I love)
I like cooking
I like being noticed
I like grilled cheese
I like girls with cheekbones and thin noses and kinda big eyes
I like being a geek
I like religion
I like lego
I like action figures
I like marvel t-shirts
I like being italian
I like pizza
I like New York
I like cuddling while watching superhero movies

Yes, but do you like Piña Colada? Or getting caught in the rain?
J/K

 

[SuperSanchez]

Yes, but do you like Piña Colada? Or getting caught in the rain?
J/K

I'm not much into health foods
I am into champaigne

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Okay, I am texting this girl Sunday morning (after our date Friday) and its just small talk. I tell her what movie I'm watching, send out an audio joke, and its radio silence for the rest of the day from her. I figure she is motioning to break it off after a decent first date. I text her tonight asking for some feedback, she tells me she had a family Bday and was busy all day. Claims that she mentioned this while I was sipping on two fat glasses of bourbon the other night. Then she was like, "I figured you weren't interested." Even if I had remembered about her Sunday engagements (whether she told me directly or not), how the heck am I at fault when my last three texts go unreplied? I don't get it.... it's crazy.

You're at fault because you didn't listen/remember to what she said, strike one. Also sounds like you might've gotten a little drunk on the first date, strike two. Continue texting without a reply could send out a desperate vibe, we'll call that a foul ball.

 

[DarthDorranceBane]

Okay, I am texting this girl Sunday morning (after our date Friday) and its just small talk. I tell her what movie I'm watching, send out an audio joke, and its radio silence for the rest of the day from her. I figure she is motioning to break it off after a decent first date. I text her tonight asking for some feedback, she tells me she had a family Bday and was busy all day. Claims that she mentioned this while I was sipping on two fat glasses of bourbon the other night. Then she was like, "I figured you weren't interested." Even if I had remembered about her Sunday engagements (whether she told me directly or not), how the heck am I at fault when my last three texts go unreplied? I don't get it.... it's crazy.

Smells fishy.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Okay, I am texting this girl Sunday morning (after our date Friday) and its just small talk. I tell her what movie I'm watching, send out an audio joke, and its radio silence for the rest of the day from her. I figure she is motioning to break it off after a decent first date. I text her tonight asking for some feedback, she tells me she had a family Bday and was busy all day. Claims that she mentioned this while I was sipping on two fat glasses of bourbon the other night. Then she was like, "I figured you weren't interested." Even if I had remembered about her Sunday engagements (whether she told me directly or not), how the heck am I at fault when my last three texts go unreplied? I don't get it.... it's crazy.

And why does having a family birthday mean you can't use your phone all day?

Total nonsense. She obviously just didn't enjoy the date.

What did you do? What did you talk about? Did she smile/laugh much?

 

[Spider-Fan83]

three day rule, bro
http://postimg.org/image/ejtrvi4aj/

 

[Tilapia]

And why does having a family birthday mean you can't use your phone all day?

Total nonsense. She obviously just didn't enjoy the date.

What did you do? What did you talk about? Did she smile/laugh much?

Quite the opposite of everyone's presumptions of what it all means. We got dinner last night. Apparently she was upset that I haven't taken more interest with her. Haven't been more sexual. She doesn't think I like her "in that way." I wanted to take things slow. She's obviously had some bad history with men. But I don't know, maybe she's right. Maybe the kid gives me apprehensions. Not ready to commit all that time and money. Just guess it's going to take some time. As far as sexual attraction, she isn't my type per say, but she's attractive. Just haven't been fawning over her like I thought I'd be.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Quite the opposite of everyone's presumptions of what it all means. We got dinner last night. Apparently she was upset that I haven't taken more interest with her. Haven't been more sexual. She doesn't think I like her "in that way." I wanted to take things slow. She's obviously had some bad history with men. But I don't know, maybe she's right. Maybe the kid gives me apprehensions. Not ready to commit all that time and money. Just guess it's going to take some time. As far as sexual attraction, she isn't my type per say, but she's attractive. Just haven't been fawning over her like I thought I'd be.

Again I say, she obviously didn't enjoy the date.

If a girl is feeling disinterest or a lack of enthusiasm from you, she's not likely to be enjoying herself.

 

[Tilapia]

Again I say, she obviously didn't enjoy the date.

If a girl is feeling disinterest or a lack of enthusiasm from you, she's not likely to be enjoying herself.

You just love twisting the knife when the opportunity "commencth", going Brutus on every guy here. Shame on you.

 

[Anita18]

Quite the opposite of everyone's presumptions of what it all means. We got dinner last night. Apparently she was upset that I haven't taken more interest with her. Haven't been more sexual. She doesn't think I like her "in that way." I wanted to take things slow. She's obviously had some bad history with men. But I don't know, maybe she's right. Maybe the kid gives me apprehensions. Not ready to commit all that time and money. Just guess it's going to take some time. As far as sexual attraction, she isn't my type per say, but she's attractive. Just haven't been fawning over her like I thought I'd be.

Sounds like your run-of-the-mill compatibility issues. It isn't anyone's fault and no one's to blame.

Best to not think too hard about this and just move on.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

You just love twisting the knife when the opportunity "commencth", going Brutus on every guy here. Shame on you.

I'm just a bit confused. I can't figure out if you're actually into her because it doesn't sound like it. Can't help but wonder if your initial upset she hadn't responded to your texts was more of an ego thing than you actually being gutted about the girl.

 

[Mysteryman]

HopefulDreamer , Why did you hate Noah so much?
i haven't seen it but, I have heard good things.

 

[Anita18]

I'm just a bit confused. I can't figure out if you're actually into her because it doesn't sound like it. Can't help but wonder if your initial upset she hadn't responded to your texts was more of an ego thing than you actually being gutted about the girl.

To be honest, it sounds a little like that to me too.

 

[DJ_KiDDvIcIOUs]

Update for me and my lady friend. I've decided to just be friends with her for now due to her being in early sobriety. I'm not going to say anything about liking her so she doesn't get the wrong idea. She is an awesome person and I'm lucky to have her as a friend and maybe one day down the road when she has more time under her belt something could happen if it was meant to be. Either way though I'm cool with it

 

[hopefuldreamer]

HopefulDreamer , Why did you hate Noah so much?
i haven't seen it but, I have heard good things.

I just thought Noah was such a horrible human being. And that made the whole film so depressing to me, because it seemed to be about this horrible man forcing his family to do these hideous things and then... well by the films end I just really hoped they'd kill him so they'd be free of his insane tyranny!

 

[hopefuldreamer]

This made me lol

 

[MrSharigan]

No one at school likes me, they all go for the popular kids and even the ones who are geeks like me I don't like because they can be really annoying.

You know what's funny...
This will most likely change when you head into 'adult life'

The popular kids will probably not be so popular, the ugly girls will not be so ugly, The hot girls will no longer be so hot...

If I could go back to school I'd make a connection with the 'uncool' girls for future investment

 

[Tilapia]

Okay guys, so the MILF texted me last night. It was on life support. I thought it was over based on how the texts went. Then at the eleventh hour, and my phone rings and its my good friend. Basically tells me to shut all the emotions and feelings down, forget about the baggage of this chick, and just go for the hit and run. I texted her afterward and said I was sorry, and was scared to pursue a chick with a kid and be serious with a woman who wanted more kids, exactly what my friend told me to say. She was pretty receptive and I think we still may be on for next weekend. It's good to have friends in the clutch for these situations.

Anyway, the last thing I want to do is take advantage of anyone. Hopefully we get some good bonding time and see if something serious can develop, if it doesn't fall through between now and then. I don't think I'll be going for the hit and run under any circumstances, but I do want to see if something is there with her before we call it.

 

[DA_Champion]

I like both Marvel and DC
I like Cheeseburgers and Fries with cheese sauce
I like going to IMAX
I like going to collectible and comic shops!
I like cuddling (only if it's with a girl I love)
I like cooking
I like being noticed
I like grilled cheese
I like girls with cheekbones and thin noses and kinda big eyes
I like being a geek
I like religion
I like lego
I like action figures
I like marvel t-shirts
I like being italian
I like pizza
I like New York
I like cuddling while watching superhero movies

I'm sorry it took a week for me to respond to this. I've mostly been busy.

The point of this exercise was to convince you that you do have a personality. You are not somebody who loves only Marvel. You like other comics, you like places, you like your cultural background, you like building things (LEGO), and you have several foods you like.

The foods, in particular, demonstrate that you have a sensuality, which is not the same thing as sexuality. Sensuality refers to any preferences (or hates!) relating to any of the senses. A depressed person, in contrast, might have lost theirs, they might have no likes, etc, which will inhibit personality development.

So to backtrack, there is more to you than just Marvel. I don't mean that as anything against Marvel btw, lots of wonderful people enjoy Marvel, but it shouldn't be your sole love as one of your prior posts implied. All of these aspects, and some other parts of your personality that you don't know you have, will be developed over time.

My recommendation to you is to see a counsellor. Do you have access to counselling on either your parents' health care plan, or your school? Does New York State offer it as a public service?

But feel free to post further comments in the meantime.