The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - Part 30

[DA_Champion]

Yeah, but that's also Ashley Madison. I dunno, maybe they are, but the places like OKC can afford not to.

I never saw fakeness on OkC. They also allow you to *not* search users who have not logged in for more than 30 days or whatever. They show you the last login date of the user, which is useful to know.

 

[Alex Murphy]

It's a pretty common sitcom storyline... Two of the main characters get together and before long there will be an episode where they're both arguing over who has had more sexual partners.

A new study has revealed that apparently the most dangerous answer to the question 'How many people have you slept with?' is... two. And that two includes your spouse.

How many previous sexual partners have you had? Study reveals the worst possible answer

 

[Anita18]

How many previous sexual partners have you had? Study reveals the worst possible answer

Well um, that's kind of effed up. People and their egos, man.

My husband's previous gf worked as a stripper for a time. I actually laugh about it, because he ditched a stripper for a virginal nerd, and is more adventurous with said virginal nerd in bed now.

 

[the last son]

My ex is white and through Google stalking I found out she was republican. She says of course I am. I explained why it was an issue for me. I only bring this up because she moved out of state, but see each other every few months and talk often. Is this worth cutting off ties?

 

[Golgo-13]

How many previous sexual partners have you had? Study reveals the worst possible answer

Who actually keeps a log of how many sexual partners they've had? I'm 41, and can't remember how many i've had…..

 

[Erzengel]

My ex is white and through Google stalking I found out she was republican. She says of course I am. I explained why it was an issue for me. I only bring this up because she moved out of state, but see each other every few months and talk often. Is this worth cutting off ties?

Only if it's a deal breaker for you.

People are together even though they are different ethnicities, religion and political beliefs all the time.

It's up to you if it's that important.

 

[Tilapia]

I don't see any reason to dismiss someone based on party affiliation. Unless there are specific issues that you simply can't reconcile, like recent Trump proposals that a supporter may espouse for example. But dismissing someone for being "Republican" or "Democrat", "left" or "right", would be more of an indictment on the person severing those ties than anyone else.

 

[Anita18]

Mary Matalin and James Carville have made it work, somehow. Bless them.

People align with parties for different reasons. I'm friends with several Republicans who agree with the party's stance on defense and the economy, but are personally socially liberal. (And nobody I know likes Trump. ) We have the same general values, we just disagree on how to get there.

Although, I COULD NOT be friends with someone who tried to enforce traditional attitudes about women and marriage onto other people. And I honestly would have trouble dating someone who actively voted Republican, because their party rhetoric about women and women's healthy is still so backwards. But I can be friends with them.

 

[DA_Champion]

Well um, that's kind of effed up. People and their egos, man.

My husband's previous gf worked as a stripper for a time. I actually laugh about it, because he ditched a stripper for a virginal nerd, and is more adventurous with said virginal nerd in bed now.

Anybody who applies these coarse statistical results to individual prospective dates deserves to be miserable.

If you look at the link, it's a modest correlation.

 

[spiderman2]

Man oh man find some one has got to be the hardest thing ever! I am taking a summer class right now and there is a cute girl in my class but of course the age isn't right. I am 27 and she is only 19. Its almost impossible to even fine some one around my age that is not either married, engaged or has a BF already. If I cant even find some one that is single around my age how can I meat the one? I always hear that people are getting married later yet its like ever one I know around my age has gotten married at like 22-27 age. If it is so hard to meat some one my age that is even single in the first place how likely is it that I can meat some one that is not only single but I cute has while and that has things in common with me to. So many things.

1. Ever one around my age is taken already
2. Out of like the 1% of my age that is not taken how likely is it that we are going to have things in common?
3. Not ever one is going to fell the same way about you.
4. How many of those single people around my age am I going to find attractive?
5. Out of those like 1% that are not taken how likely is it that I am going to meat the one that falls under 2, 3,4?
6. Final thing I am a shy guy don't have a lot of friends. So the chance of me finding some one threw a friend is slim and also being shy and from some stuff in the past combined with the shyness I have a big time fear of creepy out women and I have a big fear of if they don't fell the same way creepying them out has a result.

 

[spiderman2]

Who actually keeps a log of how many sexual partners they've had? I'm 41, and can't remember how many i've had…..

I am 27 have no zero experience with women and I don't even mean just sex wise but I have been single my whole life and never even kissed a women. Shy guy and only have a few friends who are all guys but I also don't believe in have sex before marriage. Reason being a Christian and also don't fell like you should rush into things. Also believe that sex should come with love and with love should come marriage. With that said though yeah I don't think people really no how many people they have had sex with in less its just like 1 or 2 or something.

 

[the last son]

online dating spiderman

 

[Tilapia]

Unfortunately, there are many in Spider-Man's situation. There is simply not enough economic incentive to get married or even date seriously for many in their early to mid 20's. More than likely you are still renting, your salary has been stagnant, and you have no home equity of your own. Dating is time consuming and expensive. If it's important to you, then you need to invest the time and money and stop taking short cuts in the approach.

Unless you have physical sex appeal, stay off the Tinders and POFs of the world. You are three times more likely to find a relationship on Match. Pay for that stuff, change the way you dress, work out, be assertive in the office not with the intent of dating co-workers but perhaps friends of co-workers. Try lock and key events and prepare like it's an interview. Comes down to technique and preparation.

 

[Erzengel]

I am 27 have no zero experience with women and I don't even mean just sex wise but I have been single my whole life and never even kissed a women. Shy guy and only have a few friends who are all guys but I also don't believe in have sex before marriage. Reason being a Christian and also don't fell like you should rush into things. Also believe that sex should come with love and with love should come marriage. With that said though yeah I don't think people really no how many people they have had sex with in less its just like 1 or 2 or something.

If you go to church, maybe you should try through there.

 

[SpideyVille]

The church thing definitely makes it tricky. I was in a Christian church for 3 years during my early 20's, and I went to about 4 weddings in that time period. The pastors there all felt that relationships were the biggest cause of stress for youths, so they were really anxious to get people married fast, before they "sinned" and had pre-marital sex. So a lot of my friends were married by the time they were 25.

 

[Anita18]

The church thing definitely makes it tricky. I was in a Christian church for 3 years during my early 20's, and I went to about 4 weddings in that time period. The pastors there all felt that relationships were the biggest cause of stress for youths, so they were really anxious to get people married fast, before they "sinned" and had pre-marital sex. So a lot of my friends were married by the time they were 25.

They're also a huge cause of stress for adults, if you marry someone you don't get along with.

And spiderman2, you really never know. My husband was literally the only guy who kept asking me out. (He met me when he was 28, and I was 25.) We don't have a ton of things in common besides a general interest in technology, but we have similar values so it worked out. IMO, similar values is far more important than similar interests.

 

[DA_Champion]

In relationbship news, I'm finding tinder a lot more efficient thus far than okcupid, plentyoffish, or eharmony ever were.

Unfortunately, my cell phone is broken, I can't buy a new one until September, and I'm having trouble fixing it. I have like 7 or 8 matches I could be making plans with but I can't type **** without aggravating myself.

I have decent hope it works better for me when I move in September to Baltimore. With that said, it's a lot of work.

I'm also losing weight and trying to take pictures on a regular basis to get more good photos. IMO, online dating is mostly about looks, at least for first dates. Personality has very little importance prior to meeting people, and zero importance if people find you unattractive.

 

[SpideyVille]

They're also a huge cause of stress for adults, if you marry someone you don't get along with.

And spiderman2, you really never know. My husband was literally the only guy who kept asking me out. (He met me when he was 28, and I was 25.) We don't have a ton of things in common besides a general interest in technology, but we have similar values so it worked out. IMO, similar values is far more important than similar interests.

That's why I look back and think, what were they thinking! LOL

It also doesn't help that they don't really believe/accept the idea of Divorce.

 

[spiderman2]

online dating spiderman

I have tried it but like 99% of women dont respond at all and i am bad at spelling so that dosnt help.

Unfortunately, there are many in Spider-Man's situation. There is simply not enough economic incentive to get married or even date seriously for many in their early to mid 20's. More than likely you are still renting, your salary has been stagnant, and you have no home equity of your own. Dating is time consuming and expensive. If it's important to you, then you need to invest the time and money and stop taking short cuts in the approach.

Unless you have physical sex appeal, stay off the Tinders and POFs of the world. You are three times more likely to find a relationship on Match. Pay for that stuff, change the way you dress, work out, be assertive in the office not with the intent of dating co-workers but perhaps friends of co-workers. Try lock and key events and prepare like it's an interview. Comes down to technique and preparation.

While i dont have a lot of money but its the fact that it fells like it is hard to meat some one period around my age that is single that scares me so darn much becuase it is so hard to even meat some one my age that is not taken then finding some one that has the right chemistry with you and ever thing like i said just fells even more impossable. I mean say you now 100 people and they are single around you age just thoughing a number out there but my point is not all 100 are going to be the right person for you. Say 20 of those people out there may have nothing in common with you. Another 20 you may not fell physical attractive to. Another 20 may not be someone that has the fight persanality for you. 10 of them maybe you have some sort of interest in them but they dont fell the same way. Or 10 like you but you dont fell the same way about the ect. I have heard people say that POF works but i have tried it with out luck. I try to not think about it but when you are 27 and it fells like ever one you now between like 22-32 is married and or dating or engaged. I have a hard time not comparing my self becuase of that and i have a hard time felling lonely.

I only have a few friends so that dosnt help with felling longley to. It is to the point where if i even now someone or see someone around my age not with some guy i am surprised. I joke that i am just going to have to want in till i am like 45 and ever one my age is getting divorced lol. But at the same time i dont really want to have to deal with kids that are not mine and if i am single at 45 most women my age are going to have kids most likley. It fells like even if i where to meat some girl some where around my age and even if we where compatable most likely it wouldnt matter becuase she would just be married or something any way. When it come to working out i hate working out in less i am playing basketball or something. I did lose some weight a while back but i have been around the same for a while now. I am still trying to lose some weight. I am still about 20lbs or so over what i should be but it was like 50lbs a while back.

 

[spiderman2]

If you go to church, maybe you should try through there.

I dont get to go to church much normally have to work but i go to a college age chruch group. I am kind of hoping i can at some point meet some one there but if not oh well i guess. I love the group and have a lot of fun any way and while i still have my ups and downs i have gotten closer to god the last year or so.

The church thing definitely makes it tricky. I was in a Christian church for 3 years during my early 20's, and I went to about 4 weddings in that time period. The pastors there all felt that relationships were the biggest cause of stress for youths, so they were really anxious to get people married fast, before they "sinned" and had pre-marital sex. So a lot of my friends were married by the time they were 25.

I do stress out a lot about the wanting to meat some one thing but i also stress out a lot about work and money. If i could just get like any new job has i hate my job and one that makes more money my stress would be like 50% less and then the other 50% is being single.

 

[DA_Champion]

I have tried it but like 99% of women dont respond at all

I feel your pain.

 

[Anita18]

I feel your pain.

There was one time I posted a witty/nerdy Craigslist ad where I didn't show my face (only from the side) and over half of the guys who responded didn't reply once I'd sent them a face pic. That's kind of painful too, for a woman, when you realize you're the butterface.

 

[STARMAN]

That's pretty brutal. The fact that you have a sense of humor about it shows that it was their loss.

 

[Mysteryman]

There was one time I posted a witty/nerdy Craigslist ad where I didn't show my face (only from the side) and over half of the guys who responded didn't reply once I'd sent them a face pic. That's kind of painful too, for a woman, when you realize you're the butterface.

Their loss,your husbands gain.

 

[Anita18]

That's pretty brutal. The fact that you have a sense of humor about it shows that it was their loss.

It was more like, "Huh, well I'm glad I didn't choose to make money off my looks! I guess I'll need to approach dating another way!"

I'm forever grateful to my parents for teaching me that my value as a person isn't dependent on the way I look or whether I'm desired by another. It's rough when that's your worldview.

Their loss,your husbands gain.

Yeah, he's got the face and I've got the body between the two of us. I'm not as pretty as he is, but everyone says we're cute together.