The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - Part 31

I'm thinking about a new thread "Driving Miss Crazy".:yay:
 
So, I'm not sure if I asked this here and I throw it out to @ComicChick and @MissMarvelous as women, you are dating someone and you find out he subscribes to an OnlyFans or Patreon site for a woman. Dealbreaker or not?
 
Erzengel said:
So, I'm not sure if I asked this here and I throw it out to @ComicChick and @MissMarvelous as women, you are dating someone and you find out he subscribes to an OnlyFans or Patreon site for a woman. Dealbreaker or not?
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I basically know that those sites are NSFW - not sure about the extend of OnlyFans, though! Do they have "live" cams and people subscribe to the content of the artists?

At the end of the day, it's just p**n. So, no... it's not a deal breaker for me.

Would I feel jealous? Maybe.
 
MissMarvelous said:
I basically know that those sites are NSFW - not sure about the extend of OnlyFans, though! Do they have "live" cams and people subscribe to the content of the artists?

At the end of the day, it's just p**n. So, no... it's not a deal breaker for me.

Would I feel jealous? Maybe.
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OnlyFans is cutting down on the porn by October which made me think of this. I know couples can be split on porn, some see it as cheating but for the most part it's free. The stuff with Onlyfans or people with a paid Patreon account, you are paying a specific person most of the time? I would think that'd be a little different.
 
Erzengel said:
The stuff with Onlyfans or people with a paid Patreon account, you are paying a specific person most of the time
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Still not a deal breaker but I'd rather not know about it or just the minimum (as in: saw your credit card statement, totally not on purpose, and there it was).

It could also happen that the other person may have any of those accounts, or even a b.o.b. or the equivalent device for male physiology- what would you guys say or do, then? There's a huge difference between a porn artist and a device but they both satisfy the same necessity (as long as there's no contact IRL with the porn artist).
 
MissMarvelous said:
Still not a deal breaker but I'd rather not know about it or just the minimum (as in: saw your credit card statement, totally not on purpose, and there it was).
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You say it wouldn't be a deal-breaker and the less you know, the better, but put it into a different context.

If you were dating a guy, and he frequently went to strip clubs where he watched strippers and got the odd personal dance (lets say his hands were tied, so he couldn't touch but still got to see the goods), you're saying you'd be okay with that? At least the less you knew about it anyway ... but that would ultimately be one heck of a revelation if you were to suddenly find out one day.

I (think - based on the question) that I'm with @Erzengel on this one). Maybe I'm just naive, but if you're with someone that you're deeply in love with or whatever, why would you need an attraction elsewhere? That (to me) would imply an element of unhappiness. It's an area I'm no expert in for sure, but looking into the box from the outside, whilst not cheating, it would raise some questions.
 
Erzengel said:
So, I'm not sure if I asked this here and I throw it out to @ComicChick and @MissMarvelous as women, you are dating someone and you find out he subscribes to an OnlyFans or Patreon site for a woman. Dealbreaker or not?
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Since I don't know what they are and only just read about porn being banned from one of those sites, does it mean I have a chance in another lifetime?;)

This may sound odd....I get that people like sex, but I don't understand subscribing/paying to.....
 
MissMarvelous said:
I basically know that those sites are NSFW - not sure about the extend of OnlyFans, though! Do they have "live" cams and people subscribe to the content of the artists?

At the end of the day, it's just p**n. So, no... it's not a deal breaker for me.

Would I feel jealous? Maybe.
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I would be confused if someone I was involved with was watching a bunch of porn, but, being a complicated guy, I'd probably want to find out what I was doing wrong. :funny:
 
Flash525 said:
You say it wouldn't be a deal-breaker and the less you know, the better, but put it into a different context.

If you were dating a guy, and he frequently went to strip clubs where he watched strippers and got the odd personal dance (lets say his hands were tied, so he couldn't touch but still got to see the goods), you're saying you'd be okay with that? At least the less you knew about it anyway ... but that would ultimately be one heck of a revelation if you were to suddenly find out one day.

I (think - based on the question) that I'm with @Erzengel on this one). Maybe I'm just naive, but if you're with someone that you're deeply in love with or whatever, why would you need an attraction elsewhere? That (to me) would imply an element of unhappiness. It's an area I'm no expert in for sure, but looking into the box from the outside, whilst not cheating, it would raise some questions.
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There are people who have a Patreon account and are just youtubers providing entertainment and you pay to keep them going but it's not them taking off their clothes, it's just them doing comedy skits, doing reviews, doing reaction videos, etc. And I guess if you enjoy what they do, you pay a few bucks a month for early access, full videos and the what not.

But obviously there are people out there that do other stuff videos, pics that are risque and even pornographic in nature. I think some of these even accept gifts as well which go even beyond a subscription.

InCali said:
Since I don't know what they are and only just read about porn being banned from one of those sites, does it mean I have a chance in another lifetime?;)

This may sound odd....I get that people like sex, but I don't understand subscribing/paying to.....
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I said it before, it wouldn't be the betrayal of fawning over someone else that I think some partners would be upset about, it's the money. $10-$15 a month. In a year that could be $180. Not a lot of money but after a while or a few years? Not to mention if you have more than one subscription?
 
Flash525 said:
If you were dating a guy, and he frequently went to strip clubs where he watched strippers and got the odd personal dance (lets say his hands were tied, so he couldn't touch but still got to see the goods), you're saying you'd be okay with that? At least the less you knew about it anyway ... but that would ultimately be one heck of a revelation if you were to suddenly find out one day.
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Thing is that having a subscription to some NSFW online content is not the same as going to a strip club, first of all! And yes, the less I know, the better... why? do I need all the gory details? Nope. The other person is still entitled to have his/her own space and sum 1-on-1 intimacy :P both should have their moments, it's natural, healthy and etc etc.


Flash525 said:
Maybe I'm just naive, but if you're with someone that you're deeply in love with or whatever, why would you need an attraction elsewhere? That (to me) would imply an element of unhappiness.
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You would be in a relationship, not dead. You can still look! If you decide to act on it, again: IN REAL LIFE, that's different. Even when I was in a relationship I'd say to my bf: "oh, look at her! She's fine!" - it's not that I was inviting him to cheat on me, or to have a threesome.

InCali said:
I don't understand subscribing/paying to.....
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Now, it's online but before internet you would pay for the adult content channels. I don't know why people now pretend to get all flustered or ashamed, really.

InCali said:
I would be confused if someone I was involved with was watching a bunch of porn, but, being a complicated guy, I'd probably want to find out what I was doing wrong. :funny:
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Some people may even watch it together. Ask around!

Erzengel said:
I think some of these even accept gifts as well which go even beyond a subscription.
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This is key: if my partner were to send one of those artists, some gifts... that's... that's another thing! Because reality is getting in the way.
 
Oh....a money thing. It never even occurred to me that would be an issue. My wife spends more than that on socks. I briefly saw someone who bought a rather explicit movie over to my house along with a nice bottle of French wine. For the life of me, I can't figure out why. :o
 
InCali said:
Oh....a money thing. It never even occurred to me that would be an issue. My wife spends more than that on socks. I briefly saw someone who bought a rather explicit movie over to my house along with a nice bottle of French wine. For the life of me, I can't figure out why. :o
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I think it's the principle. I'm sure everyone has their "fun money" they can spend their money on. I guess as long as bills are being paid? I'm sure similar complaints can be seen for paying for other hobbies? But I dunno, it depends on the people, I can see people being annoyed because of the optics of paying for pics and videos of someone else.
 
Erzengel said:
So, I'm not sure if I asked this here and I throw it out to @ComicChick and @MissMarvelous as women, you are dating someone and you find out he subscribes to an OnlyFans or Patreon site for a woman. Dealbreaker or not?
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i'm not exactly a fan, ha. you're specifically paying for certain people and their content this way. it's not broad or generalized, it's specific. and it's not free. so i would have more of an issue with this than i would a guy seeking out free porn.
it would definitely warrant a discussion
 
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