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Well the other excuse at the time was that he didn't see us working out and it was filling him with anxiety and stress to be in a real relationship.
Maybe it was your sarcasm that was stressing him out?Well the other excuse at the time was that he didn't see us working out and it was filling him with anxiety and stress to be in a real relationship.
Social Media is a funny thing, some people like to splash their lives around, and others don't. Your ex girlfriend seems like the latter; if she's closed her Facebook off, then for whatever reason, she's a very personal and secretive/private person - I commend her for that if anything.I read too much into things. My first serious girlfriend is on Facebook, you can't add her as a friend due to whatever setting she installed. She would have to request you, etc. So about 4 years ago, I sent her a message saying "hey stranger, long time, ....blah blah....friend request". Never heard anything back. She was my first love, heartbreak etc. and I wasn't really looking to reignite anything, as I'm Facebook friends with quite a few girls that I've either dated, crushed on, etc. Maybe it got buried, maybe she saw it and was like nope. If it's the latter, which gets to my point, I think maybe we all see something different in a past relationship that the other person didn't.
You're inferring that I haven't moved on. LOL Since we dated, we've both gotten married. As an aside, back when Myspace was a thing, she did accept that friend request and again, wasn't looking for anything there. Sent her a few Happy Birthday but never bothered her with anything more than that. She never responded in kind. The whole facebook thing wasn't necessarily surprising and honestly, like the topic earlier about closure and staying friends, etc. I mentioned how in hindsight how people saw the same relationship differently. I think the relationship meant more to me than it did to her, and that's cool.In your situation, it's more than likely that she simply doesn't feel the need to reinitiate contact with you, regardless of whether your intentions were merely friendly. As far as she (may be) concerned, she's moved on with a different chapter of her life, and doesn't wish to look backwards. Can't really be faulted for that. Your other exes simply might not view their Facebook Friends as anything of particular worth; I've got a very small friends list (under 100), some of which I barely even know. Most of my friends list is family members, friends and colleagues, then again I don't really use Facebook aside from keeping up to date with specific tv series or science-related articles.
Sorry, I assumed this was [somewhat] recent. In any case, she obviously isn't interested in reminiscing with you. I wouldn't look or think too much into that.You're inferring that I haven't moved on. LOL Since we dated, we've both gotten married. As an aside, back when Myspace was a thing, she did accept that friend request and again, wasn't looking for anything there. Sent her a few Happy Birthday but never bothered her with anything more than that. She never responded in kind. The whole facebook thing wasn't necessarily surprising and honestly, like the topic earlier about closure and staying friends, etc. I mentioned how in hindsight how people saw the same relationship differently. I think the relationship meant more to me than it did to her, and that's cool.
Sorry. Time to move on.So a small update my situation, she changed her mind on going to lunch the otherday and never suggested another day to go. I haven't really talked to her since then. Needless to say, its not looking good at the moment.
So a small update my situation, she changed her mind on going to lunch the otherday and never suggested another day to go. I haven't really talked to her since then. Needless to say, its not looking good at the moment.
Sorry to hear this @Chris B , but yeah, the signs are there that this isn't one to peruse. Now comes to struggle to get her out of your mind and continue on with your life. If she's interested, she'll contact you - don't go chasing her cause that'll just seem needy, and (if anything) you'll push her further away if she doesn't decide to simply block your number.Sorry. Time to move on.
Sorry to hear this @Chris B , but yeah, the signs are there that this isn't one to peruse. Now comes to struggle to get her out of your mind and continue on with your life. If she's interested, she'll contact you - don't go chasing her cause that'll just seem needy, and (if anything) you'll push her further away if she doesn't decide to simply block your number.
Onwards and Upwards, focus on something else. It sucks. We know. You can overcome it though. The only variant is in how invested with her you became as to how long it'll take you to overcome your thoughts.
Thanks. I'm just going to leave her alone for now and see what happens. Granted, I don't expect anything to change at this point since I've been in this situation plenty of times before unfortunately.
She may have a lower sexual libido than you, but that doesn't necessarily mean she won't have sex or necessarily doesn't enjoy sex.
It's up to you, if that's an issue or not.
I'm assuming that happened before you 2 started dating?
Just because she's not big into sex, doesn't mean she doesn't have sex. She may still get in the mood, it might be not as frequent and maybe during one of those times was when she had sex with him.
About the pic in general, on one hand why anyone would have that "laying around" is beyond me when you are dating, on the other hand, I remember one of my exes sent me "covered' nude photography that is on one of my hard drives from an older computer. But if it was on my current computer/phone/iPad, I'd make sure that wasn't so out in the open.
You've only been dating a month, this is when you are still feeling someone out. See how you guys connect.
All too relatable I'm afraid. I don't know how much of this thread you've read over the last month or two, but back in August I went on a date (three days talking - and joking on Tinder, then a date arranged); we met up, got on really well (easily the best first date I've ever been on) and after a solid five hours of eating pizza, laughing, joking etc, I walked her home, got a peck on the cheek and a nice warm hug to wrap the evening up. It was kinda' perfect.But anyway, as an update she ended things with me the night before last (Tuesday) saying we had no chemistry and she just wanted to be friends. I am very confused right now as literally a week ago we were making plans weeks and months in advance, even going into next year, all prompted by her. We went on a date the night before and all seemed fine and as I say a week ago she was full on with me almost like we were already in a relationship without actually saying we were. I just don’t get how things could change so quickly, and I can’t help think there is another involved as the night before she ended things we were fine, she even gave me a big kiss and hug at the end of the night.
All you can really do in that situation is wish them the best and go your own way I guess. If she genuinely wishes to maintain a friendship, she'll remain in touch, though friendship works two ways, and friendships are different for people; some need continual communication and interaction, whilst others need only be in contact.Technically with this girl I had about 9/10 dates if you include walks, coffees, etc, (I don't tend to include those but I know others do) so it just seems strange that things were going so well and at the drop of a hat it was over, it was a shock and I said as much, but wished her nothing but the best of luck in the future.
She did say she still wants to be friends which I agreed to, but I don't see that working out. We don't live close and mix in very different circles.
I will not make contact with her but if she contacts me I won't ignore her and will be happy to have a conversation with her, but there has been no contact so far.