The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts! - - Part 31

[InCali]

There you go.

So, yes. True.

Yer ALWAYS right babe. That's why we're the perfect couple.

 

[Babillygunn]

My oldest son is 6’4” in personality, but 5’3” on his tip toes in reality. He’s about to graduate high school where he had the nickname “The Rizz-ly Bear.”

One of his ex-girlfriends was 5’8”. lol.

 

[InCali]

My oldest son is 6’4” in personality, but 5’3” on his tip toes in reality. He’s about to graduate high school where he had the nickname “The Rizz-ly Bear.”

One of his ex-girlfriends was 5’8”. lol.

I don't know how this got started, but speaking of odd couples, One of my dorm mates (still friends after all these years) is a short Jewish guy who is about 5'1" with black, curly hair. His wife is a Swedish blonde, who is 5'9". Seeing them standing next to each other was quite the contrast.

The tallest woman I ever dated was 6'1". This created quite the contrast too. Especially on one occasion. She did some modeling up in San Francisco and drug me up there to some party that was being thrown. She also decided to show off and wore these pretty substantial heels......I won't mention where my eyes and nose were when we were standing next to each other except that it was very distracting. When we were getting ready to leave, I walked up to her and said "You know, I feel so...". She interrupted and said "short?" If the truth be told, ithat wasn't exactly what I was thinking, but I suppose it was appropriate and we both got a laugh out of it. She wore this dark, blue, short, sort of sequined dress that fit her quite well. I later told her that the only place that dress looked better than on her was on the floor. That earned me some extra points.

 

[MissMarvelous]

Unpopular (?) traits that makes someone attractive? A messy bun and glasses / THE grey pants (hey! Careful there / oversize clothes / hairy legs? / no hair at all.

 

[Babillygunn]

A messy bun and glasses /… oversize clothes

There is no way that either of those are “unpopular traits” as they are complete turn ons.

 

[InCali]

Unpopular (?) traits that makes someone attractive? A messy bun and glasses / THE grey pants (hey! Careful there / oversize clothes / hairy legs? / no hair at all.

Annie Hall. Quirky, dresses funny, and says things that others don’t.

 

[Babillygunn]

In college, I visited my best friend who was going to another college and we hung out one weekend. He had a date with this very snobby and preppy girl. I ended up taking out her roommate on a double date. The roommate wore corduroy pants, a baseball cap and kept calling me “cowboy.” She was an absolute trip and one of the coolest dates I’d ever been out with. If I hadn’t had a girlfriend, I’d have pursued something with her further, as there was a mutual attraction and her quirkiness/unpopular traits were very endearing.

 

[Lily Adler]

Is Wells Fargo lying to me when they say a dinner for 2 is a $145?

 

[Babillygunn]

Is Wells Fargo lying to me when they say a dinner for 2 is a $145?

I guess it can be. But it’s a lot cheaper if you are like my wife and I, who take advantage of every discount night/app deals/ and coupons you can.

 

[MissMarvelous]

Is Wells Fargo lying to me when they say a dinner for 2 is a $145?

What kind of dinnet would that be? International food? Gourmet? Michelin stars? Renowned?

How many steps? Entrée/main dish/dessert, are drinks included?

 

[Lily Adler]

What kind of dinnet would that be? International food? Gourmet? Michelin stars? Renowned?

How many steps? Entrée/main dish/dessert, are drinks included?

 

[Lily Adler]

Is it normal for people who are dating not to share a bed when staying somewhere?

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Is it normal for people who are dating not to share a bed when staying somewhere?

I feel like that depends on so many factors. Give me more context?

 

[Lily Adler]

I feel like that depends on so many factors. Give me more context?

Like you guys stay late at one or the other's place or make arrangements for a trip.

 

[Shinobi Shaw]

Is it normal for people who are dating not to share a bed when staying somewhere?

If you guys are already having sex with each other, it's a little weird.

If you haven't reached that point yet, then it's normal.

 

[theastsunnn]

I don’t care how many people are doing something if it works for you is all that matters. Parenting from different homes, open relationships, whatever you can think. No two people are the same and don’t have to do what cultures do

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Like you guys stay late at one or the other's place or make arrangements for a trip.

I guess I meant more like... what's the reasons for not sharing a bed?

Vague answer - there are tonnes of good reasons I can see for not sharing a bed. It'd only raise flags to me if the reasons for doing so seemed sus I.e. part of a pattern of controlling or disrespectful behaviour. (I was once with a guy who made me sleep on the floor when I stayed over because he needed to get a good night's sleep before work - that ended up being an abusive relationship).

 

[Lily Adler]

 

[Babillygunn]

Is it normal for people who are dating not to share a bed when staying somewhere?

Not at all. I always used to find myself falling asleep with the person and then migrating somewhere else. I’m not huge on laying next to a 98.6 degree hump of flesh that keeps breathing on me and probably hasn’t been bathed in at least 18 hours.

These days, after 25 years of marriage, I look for reasons to have to sleep in our guest room. When I’m really spent I’m like “I’ve caught a sniffle. I best sleep somewhere else so as to not get you sick.”

Introvert does not equal shy. Most introverts are the better partners because they are better in 1-on-1 conversations. I am an introvert and I used to believe that flirting was my spiritual gift.

 

[MissMarvelous]

Oh, Frago is an ad! I thought it was a place or a review app, something like that.

Is it normal for people who are dating not to share a bed when staying somewhere?

IMO sharing a bed is nice, but it's *really* uncomfortable if you are not used to it.

We both have a hard time sleeping when we stay over. We both are almost 40, so it's not that we are pulling an all-nighter. And then, we both have responsibilities and being sleepy all day is not cool anymore.

However, when you stay somewhere (especially on vacation), you usually share a bed. First, because you might get lucky, and second, there's usually only one bed, so you have little to no choice. Unless you specially ask for two beds (but that's reserved in case you go to a hotel or b&b, etc).

 

[Lily Adler]

As I enter further into the dirty 30s, I think to myself has society moved on from relationships and building connections to instant gratification? Why go out on a date while a variety of hook up apps can get me anonymous sex on the fly. Then I asked myself, am I out of touch?

 

[Babillygunn]

As I enter further into the dirty 30s, I think to myself has society moved on from relationships and building connections to instant gratification? Why go out on a date while a variety of hook up apps can get me anonymous sex on the fly. Then I asked myself, am I out of touch?

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Fascinating question you pose here.
I tend to think that what you describe isn’t that out of the ordinary.
When I look back on my life, I remember very little in terms of any relationship building or connection with anyone that I dated in my teens or even early 20’s before I was married. Most of what I remember were carnal encounters. Probably the closest that I would come to actually engaging in building a social connection with the opposite sex was flirting with someone. But meeting my wife changed me quite a bit. At first, there was the flirtation and the seeking to get my carnal itches scratched, but over time I developed a relationship with her through mutual respect. That became a game changer for me. Now when I look at our time together, I view moments of friendship and shared social experiences with a much greater fondness than our sexual encounters. The carnality is still enjoyable, but it is certainly secondary to our social connection. A few years ago, we took an anniversary trip about two hours away. Without going too far into detail, we spent a lot of time in the hotel room on that particular trip. It was really great. The time spent on our physical connections was simply amazing. But looking back I tend to remember the time spent going out to eat after we emerged from our cocoon of physical intimacy as my richest memories from that trip.

I guess what I’m saying is that I am not sure that what you describe is a new phenomenon. It’s just a natural progression that most people experience whereby they move away from merely seeking a physical encounter toward a greater desire to be known intimately by another person in a deeper connection than just sex.

 

[theastsunnn]

In my first long term relationship at 37 and we’ve been together a couple of years now and working on long term goals. Best advice i can give anyone over 27, there is no perfect partner. I don’t think of it as settling, but let’s say there’s a list of ten things you’re looking for and 5/6 of those boxes are checked take them and make it work. You don’t want to be in my position and close to 40 and working on things i should’ve been doing at 30

 

[I'm Venom]

Alright I'll try this again...

I've been on two dates with a girl I met online so I was wondering what would be good for a potential third date? First date we went out to dinner, and second date we went out to lunch and played putt putt. I'd like to find something fun that we can do just not sure what, though.

Also how soon is it okay to hold hands or kiss somebody that you've just met? Thanks, y'all!

5 years later we got married in March!