The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[hopefuldreamer]

hopeful, cuz she's the only one that actually would go on a date with me. Then I'd realize it was a pity date, and I'd come on the Hype crying about how I can never find a girl that actually likes me.

Well with my track record, at the very least you'd get a kiss out of it

 

[slim_summers]

Anyone have ideas for the best places to meet new people? I'm tired of sitting alone on Fridays and Saturdays.

No matter what age you are, interest groups can be a good way to meet new people (not just potential partners) - book clubs, community/sports activities, martial arts or dance classes (I've never taken a dance class but I bet they're sexy as hell).

If you're in high school/college then there should be plenty of people to meet just in your school, but I'm guessing you've exhausted that resource already.

 

[Anita18]

Nell, cause then maybe he'd be proven wrong about never ever finding a girl.

hopeful, cuz she's the only one that actually would go on a date with me. Then I'd realize it was a pity date, and I'd come on the Hype crying about how I can never find a girl that actually likes me.

I love how we know each other so well.

Just get involved in stuff, in school or outside of school. High school and college are the perfect times to find someone because everyone is right around you.

Unless you don't like anyone or no one likes you.

No matter what age you are, interest groups can be a good way to meet new people (not just potential partners) - book clubs, community/sports activities, martial arts or dance classes (I've never taken a dance class but I bet they're sexy as hell).

Both my cousin and my sister found their partners (husband and bf of 5 years, respectively) swing dancing. My cousin was taking a class and my sister was just doing it for fun. They live in separate states, so it wasn't like they were in the same swing dance circles.

There is quite a varied crowd that does social dancing. You obviously wouldn't get the manly man guys who think social dancing is lame, but my cousin, my sister, and their guys are very successful, highly intelligent people. You get the Ivy League lawyers as well as the barista down the street.

I don't network to find people to date (obviously), but Meetup.com is a great way to find interest groups.

 

[webhead9707]

Just get involved in stuff, in school or outside of school. High school and college are the perfect times to find someone because everyone is right around you.

No matter what age you are, interest groups can be a good way to meet new people (not just potential partners) - book clubs, community/sports activities, martial arts or dance classes (I've never taken a dance class but I bet they're sexy as hell).

If you're in high school/college then there should be plenty of people to meet just in your school, but I'm guessing you've exhausted that resource already.

I love how we know each other so well.


Unless you don't like anyone or no one likes you.


Both my cousin and my sister found their partners (husband and bf of 5 years, respectively) swing dancing. My cousin was taking a class and my sister was just doing it for fun. They live in separate states, so it wasn't like they were in the same swing dance circles.

There is quite a varied crowd that does social dancing. You obviously wouldn't get the manly man guys who think social dancing is lame, but my cousin, my sister, and their guys are very successful, highly intelligent people. You get the Ivy League lawyers as well as the barista down the street.

I don't network to find people to date (obviously), but Meetup.com is a great way to find interest groups.

Or if you go to an online school, which I do.

I'll check it book clubs and other community activities. If I can stand the embarrassment I might try a dance class. I'd like to learn to dance like Usher and moonwalk, but I don't think that's the kind of dancing they teach.


I'll check out meetup.com (Edit: Checked out meetup, nothing in my area.)

 

[moviedoors]

From a recent crack.com article:

Chicks Don't Dig Nice Guys



I've heard a lot of people complain about niceness. It's not a new refrain: "Every girl says she's 'just looking for a nice guy,' yet I'm a nice guy, no one ever dates me, and girls keep going out with *******s!" I hear that all the time, usually from guys. Or not "usually." Exclusively. In fact, in my 20-something years as a semi-professional expert in the study of Balls-Out ****smanship (I studied at Cornell, where I graduated Summa *** you see where this joke is going), I have never once heard a woman say she was "just looking for a nice guy." I've heard it from lonely guys, jaded guys, hacky stand-up comedians, and sitcoms, but never from a woman (and I've talked to upwards of eight women).
What I do hear from women is very much the same as what I hear from guys -- they want someone who is nice, sure, but also interesting and exciting and confident. Talented in some way, or funny. Dynamic and comfortable in his own skin and respectful and attentive and useful. The first step to getting your tongue all up in a woman's mouth begins with making sure you didn't put words in there first.

So, how do you get one of those dopey broads to fall for the old "I'm dynamic and interesting" trick? Simple: learn, do, and get good at stuff. If time is money, then skills and life experiences are the sweeping dividends you yield after you invest your time wisely. In a group, the person who can play an instrument really well or speak six languages or start a fire in the wilderness out of nothing at all is the impressive person, but they got that way after years of being the person who practiced and studied. They made investments.
We love impressive people. We love the guy who can just shred on a guitar while doing magic tricks, but we forget that to be that guy, he had to first be the kid who was ****** at guitar for a very long time, and who worked on his sleight of hand in front of a mirror instead of playing video games. Invest your time in a subject. Learn about something you love and be able to talk about it, because if you love something, you have passion for it, and people respond to passion. Nothing makes a person more attractive than being in their element. Talent, knowledge, and passion are sexy things. Invest yourself in a hobby. Be the kid who doesn't make a lot of friends doing gymnastics, because when that kid grows up he'll be able to do back flips off walls, and girls ****ing love that.
Suddenly, you're not "the nice one," you're "the nice, ambitious one with a number of impressive skills, passions, and stories that make him interesting; a dynamic person who brings a lot to the table, including his ability to do back flips off that table." Be that guy, because that guy gets to go to the ice cream shop for a treat, only guess what, bro, the only treats they serve here are ice scream sexwiches and, double guess what, they're free and they're all yours. Go ahead and take your treat!

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[Erzengel]

That's BS.

Everyone knows, being patient and wishing that a woman gives you the time of day is the right way to go.

 

[Anita18]

LOL, sexwiches.

I wouldn't recommend learning something just to get girls, though. We can see through that a mile away. Be passionate because you really are passionate and don't give a crap about what people think of your hobby.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I guess I will post this here, it's a friend relationship, not a love/sexual one.

So I have a friend who is deeply religious. I mean it, DEEPLY religious. I think he's trying to convert me or something. He's told me about three times now that I should read the bible. Today, he handed me a card to his youth group. I'd say the greatest irony of everything is that he wasn't like this back when I met him. I met him in the 6th grade, and I think honestly he was an atheist. Then about three years ago he found Jesus or something. Now he's like really into it, and now he's desperately trying to get me into to it. How do I kindly say to him that I honestly don't give two ****s about religion? I wouldn't say I'm an atheist, but I'm kinda fed up with religion right now. I think there is probably some sort of higher power, and I'm sure some of the stories from the bible occurred, but I just don't care for religion. It's a business filled with blind heretics.

 

[Anita18]

I guess I will post this here, it's a friend relationship, not a love/sexual one.

So I have a friend who is deeply religious. I mean it, DEEPLY religious. I think he's trying to convert me or something. He's told me about three times now that I should read the bible. Today, he handed me a card to his youth group. I'd say the greatest irony of everything is that he wasn't like this back when I met him. I met him in the 6th grade, and I think honestly he was an atheist. Then about three years ago he found Jesus or something. Now he's like really into it, and now he's desperately trying to get me into to it. How do I kindly say to him that I honestly don't give two ****s about religion? I wouldn't say I'm an atheist, but I'm kinda fed up with religion right now. I think there is probably some sort of higher power, and I'm sure some of the stories from the bible occurred, but I just don't care for religion. It's a business filled with blind heretics.

I had a friend in high school like that. She invited me to her summer church camp. Of course I declined, and she didn't really bother me about it again.

Just tell him you're not interested. He might have a quota to fill for that youth camp, and unless he's an idiot (and my friend wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed!), he'll realize there's no use in continuing to bug you about it.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Just keep declining offers/invites and try not to engage in long conversations about it. Eventually he will stop.

Though, tbh, one of the things that most baffles me about deeply religious people is why they don't try HARDER to convert those around them.

My best friend for instance, found Islam a few years back. We had a conversation one night about it, and it came out that she believes that non muslims (especially sinners like me) are going to hell...

... I just don't get that though. I mean if I TRULY believed that my best friend was going to burn in hell for eternity if I didn't do something to convince her I was right, i'd be trying all the time...

 

[Anita18]

Just keep declining offers/invites and try not to engage in long conversations about it. Eventually he will stop.

Though, tbh, one of the things that most baffles me about deeply religious people is why they don't try HARDER to convert those around them.

My best friend for instance, found Islam a few years back. We had a conversation one night about it, and it came out that she believes that non muslims (especially sinners like me) are going to hell...

... I just don't get that though. I mean if I TRULY believed that my best friend was going to burn in hell for eternity if I didn't do something to convince her I was right, i'd be trying all the time...

She thinks she's better than you.

But no really, I think they're taught that you can't convert the unwilling. My coworker is deeply "fear of God" kind of religious. She thinks that if she lies, she'll be banished to hell. It's kind of unhealthy. But she doesn't bother us about it, because she believes religion is a personal decision. She doesn't even believe there's ENOUGH separation of church and state in the US.

 

[jaymes_e06]

I guess I will post this here, it's a friend relationship, not a love/sexual one.

So I have a friend who is deeply religious. I mean it, DEEPLY religious. I think he's trying to convert me or something. He's told me about three times now that I should read the bible. Today, he handed me a card to his youth group. I'd say the greatest irony of everything is that he wasn't like this back when I met him. I met him in the 6th grade, and I think honestly he was an atheist. Then about three years ago he found Jesus or something. Now he's like really into it, and now he's desperately trying to get me into to it. How do I kindly say to him that I honestly don't give two ****s about religion? I wouldn't say I'm an atheist, but I'm kinda fed up with religion right now. I think there is probably some sort of higher power, and I'm sure some of the stories from the bible occurred, but I just don't care for religion. It's a business filled with blind heretics.

I had this happen the opposite way where two friends of mine were desperately trying to convince me God didn't exist. What was weirder is I had never pushed my religious views onto them either way. They would talk very disparagingly about organized religion (which I'm not apart of) and made me feel like they were expecting me to agree with everything they said. It was very awkward...

The worst part is we were all roomates at the time. :/

 

[hopefuldreamer]

She thinks she's better than you.

But no really, I think they're taught that you can't convert the unwilling. My coworker is deeply "fear of God" kind of religious. She thinks that if she lies, she'll be banished to hell. It's kind of unhealthy. But she doesn't bother us about it, because she believes religion is a personal decision. She doesn't even believe there's ENOUGH separation of church and state in the US.

Yeah, I guess it's all part of why i'd never swallow religion in that sense... cause I could never just sit idly by while people around me damned themselves for all eternity

Belief in God is difficult enough for me to understand. But belief in Hell is completely baffling to me.

Because it's torture. It's evil. It's sick and twisted. How could any all powerful, all knowing and benevolant God condone that?

I used to joke, that if Hell actually does exist, i'd rather go there and try and stir up some kind of rebellion than sit in heaven with God just letting all those souls suffer.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

This kid, this exact kid, tried to tell me that there wasn't a God back in the 6th grade. I'm not gonna talk to him about that one time in his life, because I'm sure he'll deny it. I don't know what kind of revelation he had.

 

[Anita18]

Yeah, I guess it's all part of why i'd never swallow religion in that sense... cause I could never just sit idly by while people around me damned themselves for all eternity

Belief in God is difficult enough for me to understand. But belief in Hell is completely baffling to me.

Because it's torture. It's evil. It's sick and twisted. How could any all powerful, all knowing and benevolant God condone that?

I used to joke, that if Hell actually does exist, i'd rather go there and try and stir up some kind of rebellion than sit in heaven with God just letting all those souls suffer.

 

[Hyde]

Well, you could give it a go just to shut him up and see if you like it. Who knows.

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Would you guys get into a relationship with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as you (e.g. religion)?

Yeah, I guess it's all part of why i'd never swallow religion in that sense... cause I could never just sit idly by while people around me damned themselves for all eternity

Belief in God is difficult enough for me to understand. But belief in Hell is completely baffling to me.

Because it's torture. It's evil. It's sick and twisted. How could any all powerful, all knowing and benevolant God condone that?

I used to joke, that if Hell actually does exist, i'd rather go there and try and stir up some kind of rebellion than sit in heaven with God just letting all those souls suffer.

I don't really see it that way, but this isn't the place to discuss it.

 

[webhead9707]

From a recent crack.com article:

Chicks Don't Dig Nice Guys



I've heard a lot of people complain about niceness. It's not a new refrain: "Every girl says she's 'just looking for a nice guy,' yet I'm a nice guy, no one ever dates me, and girls keep going out with *******s!" I hear that all the time, usually from guys. Or not "usually." Exclusively. In fact, in my 20-something years as a semi-professional expert in the study of Balls-Out ****smanship (I studied at Cornell, where I graduated Summa *** you see where this joke is going), I have never once heard a woman say she was "just looking for a nice guy." I've heard it from lonely guys, jaded guys, hacky stand-up comedians, and sitcoms, but never from a woman (and I've talked to upwards of eight women).
What I do hear from women is very much the same as what I hear from guys -- they want someone who is nice, sure, but also interesting and exciting and confident. Talented in some way, or funny. Dynamic and comfortable in his own skin and respectful and attentive and useful. The first step to getting your tongue all up in a woman's mouth begins with making sure you didn't put words in there first.

So, how do you get one of those dopey broads to fall for the old "I'm dynamic and interesting" trick? Simple: learn, do, and get good at stuff. If time is money, then skills and life experiences are the sweeping dividends you yield after you invest your time wisely. In a group, the person who can play an instrument really well or speak six languages or start a fire in the wilderness out of nothing at all is the impressive person, but they got that way after years of being the person who practiced and studied. They made investments.
We love impressive people. We love the guy who can just shred on a guitar while doing magic tricks, but we forget that to be that guy, he had to first be the kid who was ****** at guitar for a very long time, and who worked on his sleight of hand in front of a mirror instead of playing video games. Invest your time in a subject. Learn about something you love and be able to talk about it, because if you love something, you have passion for it, and people respond to passion. Nothing makes a person more attractive than being in their element. Talent, knowledge, and passion are sexy things. Invest yourself in a hobby. Be the kid who doesn't make a lot of friends doing gymnastics, because when that kid grows up he'll be able to do back flips off walls, and girls ****ing love that.
Suddenly, you're not "the nice one," you're "the nice, ambitious one with a number of impressive skills, passions, and stories that make him interesting; a dynamic person who brings a lot to the table, including his ability to do back flips off that table." Be that guy, because that guy gets to go to the ice cream shop for a treat, only guess what, bro, the only treats they serve here are ice scream sexwiches and, double guess what, they're free and they're all yours. Go ahead and take your treat!

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Read that earlier and almost posted it here!

 

[webhead9707]

Would you guys get into a relationship with someone who doesn't share the same beliefs as you (e.g. religion)?



I don't really see it that way, but this isn't the place to discuss it.

No, which is part of why I'm so picky. I figure if we have kids, we're gonna need to agree as far as how to raise them. Your beliefs need to align in my opinion. Plus, suppose, someone was a Christian and their significant other wasn't. They die, and only one of them gets into heaven. Spending eternity without that person would suuuuuck. (Although I'm not 100% regarding the whole hell thing. I believe it exists but there are certain things in the Bible that lead me to believe that most if not all people will eventually get into Heaven. But that's something I'm currently unsure and can't make a solid statement on.)

 

[Erzengel]

You're 16. You shouldn't be thinking of kids now. just go out and date. Date someone who isn't perfect for you.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

Webhead, kids? Really? KIDS!? Get out of college before you think about kids. You're not even at like a quarter of your life yet. I'm still single, and I'm nearly 18.

 

[Anubis]

 

[jaymes_e06]

I'm like 25 and I'm not sure I want kids...

 

[Anita18]

You're 16. You shouldn't be thinking of kids now. just go out and date. Date someone who isn't perfect for you.

Unfortunately, in some parts of the world/US, people are already having kids at webhead9707's age.

But if you're saving yourself until marriage....yeah, kids are too early to think about. I wouldn't be attracted to someone who was deeply religious anyway, so it's a moot point.

 

[webhead9707]

Unfortunately, in some parts of the world/US, people are already having kids at webhead9707's age.

But if you're saving yourself until marriage....yeah, kids are too early to think about. I wouldn't be attracted to someone who was deeply religious anyway, so it's a moot point.

Gee, thanks.