The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

[knowsbleed]

If she had low self esteem she sounds perfect.

She didn't... so she wasn't.

 

[webhead9707]

We're also faceless names on the internet. It's why online dating is sometimes easier than meeting in person. People let down their guard a lot easier.



If she had low self esteem she sounds perfect.

Touché.

I guess it works for teenagers who are freaked out by everything.

Haha, I'm not freaked out by everything...Anymore.

Kind of, but I'm off to Uni tomorrow.....so fresh start. t:

That's great! Good luck!

 

[Ms. Marvel]

That's great! Good luck!

Thanks. t:

 

[jaymes_e06]

Dear Ashley,

I have this problem where people follow me around fawning over me but none of them ever actually try to start a conversation with me. And the ones I go over and start a convo with are usually people I just want to be friends with. What should I do?

Sincerly,
Anonymous

 

[webhead9707]

Thanks. t:

Mhm!t:

Dear Ashley,

I have this problem where people follow me around fawning over me but none of them ever actually try to start a conversation with me. And the ones I go over and start a convo with are usually people I just want to be friends with. What should I do?

Sincerly,
Anonymous

Wait who is Ashley?

 

[Ms. Marvel]

Dear Ashley,

I have this problem where people follow me around fawning over me but none of them ever actually try to start a conversation with me. And the ones I go over and start a convo with are usually people I just want to be friends with. What should I do?

Sincerly,
Anonymous

Two can play at that game. Fawn over them back.

 

[jaymes_e06]

Two can play at that game. Fawn over them back.

I'm liking this idea. Maybe some really weird Christopher Walken glares.

Mhm!t:


Wait who is Ashley?

Apparently Ms. Marvel cause she answers the question and doesn't make snotty remarks.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

You have to know your (and your partner's) "love language" to see what they will respond to. Like, a ton of guys think gifts are the way to a girl's heart. I took the test on http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ and I got a big fat zero/bupkiss/nada/jack-squat on receiving gifts. You give me flowers to earn my affections, you get a nice for your efforts.

What really melts my heart are acts of service. When the hubs borrows the car and the gas level is low, he'll refill it, even though I've been doing most of the driving. He'll go to the store on the way back from an early morning coffee run and pick up eggs.

Stuff like that shows that he's thoughtful and receptive to my needs, and he does it all without keeping score or asking me to do the same. He's happy to be giving and helpful, because he loves me. And lemme tell you, you'd have to be one cold-hearted SOB to not have that melt your heart.
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Yeah i'm right with you there. I value actions over words or gifts any day of the week. Though my scores seemed to be pretty across the board.

9 Acts of Service
8 Quality Time
6 Physical Touch
5 Words of Affirmation
2 Receiving Gifts

I never realised that people gave good sexual advice on a Internet forum that discusses superhero movies lol.

Haha, yeah seriously, it's a great place to come for help!

We're all just looking for someone a little less freaked out than we are. That's why I liked her, that's why she likes him, and it's why she doesn't like me. The perfect healthy relationship happens when a girl who is less freaked out than the guy, makes the guy brave enough to not be as freaked out anymore, and they balance eachother. Also I read some Spidey comics last night and realized she isn't my Mary Jane. She just sometimes makes me feel the way MJ makes Peter feel.

What????

Seriously, you have to get your head out of fictional representations of relationships.

There are so many different ways too people can end up together, and the majority of them aren't anything to do with the guy being more freaked out than the girl and therefore somehow more attractive... I just don't even get that.

TBH, I don't even know what kind of man I want on that level.

I'd be attracted to a guy who was a big strong confident and mature person with a great sense of drive and motivation - someone who made me a better person. I'd also be attracted to a complete wreck of a guy who wanted to be a better man for me.

Those two things seem equally exciting to me.

 

[Anita18]

What????

Seriously, you have to get your head out of fictional representations of relationships.

There are so many different ways too people can end up together, and the majority of them aren't anything to do with the guy being more freaked out than the girl and therefore somehow more attractive... I just don't even get that.

He's only 16, it's not that bad yet.

I had a friend who (when we were both in our mid-20s) claim she learned everything about relationships through chick flicks, and the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus."

We're 30 now, and I think she's still never had a boyfriend.

 

[webhead9707]

You're both right.. I met a really cool girl today while paying for lunch and talked to her but I didn't really know how to get her information without seeming sleazy so... Here I am.

 

[Erzengel]

Yeah i'm right with you there. I value actions over words or gifts any day of the week. Though my scores seemed to be pretty across the board.

9 Acts of Service
8 Quality Time
6 Physical Touch
5 Words of Affirmation
2 Receiving Gifts

5 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
4 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch



This is a little ironic, is I'm uncomfortable with most people touching me.

 

[Anita18]

5 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
4 Receiving Gifts
4 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch



This is a little ironic, is I'm uncomfortable with most people touching me.

I'm sure the hubs doesn't want anyone else touching him but me, but he got the most points for physical touch too.

 

[Erzengel]

I have coworkers who put their hands on my shoulders when they pass by like "how's it going!!!" I count the seconds until I'm returned to my own physical space.

 

[Anita18]

I have coworkers who put their hands on my shoulders when they pass by like "how's it going!!!" I count the seconds until I'm returned to my own physical space.

I think the hubs would want to punch their lights out.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

8 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
1 Receiving Gifts
3 Acts of Service
10 Physical Touch

 

[knowsbleed]

My co-workers found out I don't like being touched, having people stand behind me or stand to close to me so of course, they constantly try to do all of the above. I need to convince them that I don't like ****jobs, maybe they'll take the hint.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I coulda told you my score without even taking the quiz.

Although ironically enough, touching, words of affection / affirmation, and quality time, are all things I am hesitant to do myself because I'm afraid of being "too pushy" or "coming on too strong" or looking like a "creeper".

 

[webhead9707]

I coulda told you my score without even taking the quiz.

Although ironically enough, touching, words of affection / affirmation, and quality time, are all things I am hesitant to do myself because I'm afraid of being "too pushy" or "coming on too strong" or looking like a "creeper".

Same here! Aren't we cool?!t:

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I used to be really into PDA's with guys I was with, but I think I'd find it a bit weird now I've been single so long.

I love cuddling my mum, and I have friends who are really touchy and cuddly and it doesn't make me uncomfortable or anything, but there are also people I'm really close to where touching or cuddling feels a bit unnatural.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Btw, you guys would be proud of me. I'm coming up on two weeks without a drink!

All this stuff that's happened lately has just really made something click in my brain.

I've been talking about stopping drinking (at least for a while to try and get some perspective) for a while now, but never been able to stick to it.

Tonights the first night I'm out with friends who are drinking, and I just ordered a lime and soda (which the barmaid gave me for free ) and I don't even feel like having a drink.

I am full of all this nervous energy though, it's weird. Feel sort of hyper.

Going to an open mic night, so should be fun. And hey, I will actually remember the people I meet and the conversations I have for once!

 

[Anita18]

I coulda told you my score without even taking the quiz.

Although ironically enough, touching, words of affection / affirmation, and quality time, are all things I am hesitant to do myself because I'm afraid of being "too pushy" or "coming on too strong" or looking like a "creeper".

Well the love language stuff is most useful when you're already in a relationship. It's a way to know how to best communicate your love to a partner, in a way they will respond to.

The hubs wasn't filling my gas when we were merely dating. And I sure wasn't mussing his hair willy-nilly when we were going on dates either.

Although it helps to know that I don't respond to gifts, even early on.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Well the love language stuff is most useful when you're already in a relationship. It's a way to know how to best communicate your love to a partner, in a way they will respond to.

The hubs wasn't filling my gas when we were merely dating. And I sure wasn't mussing his hair willy-nilly when we were going on dates either.

Although it helps to know that I don't respond to gifts, even early on.

In fairness, while I don't find gifts to be an essential way of knowing someone loves me, I do think I'd respond quite well to them early on because I've never really had someone give me that kind of thoughtful romance.

Never been bought flowers, so I think I'd be pretty touched by someone buying me some.

 

[Erzengel]

I have to be honest though. Receiving gifts may seem like it should be low on everyone's list. But, there was a really nice watch that Erzette was eyeing for a long time. They made a men's watch and I commented that I liked it. Months later she bought it for me. Now it might not seem like much, but I thought the gesture is worth mentioning.

 

[webhead9707]

In fairness, while I don't find gifts to be an essential way of knowing someone loves me, I do think I'd respond quite well to them early on because I've never really had someone give me that kind of thoughtful romance.

Never been bought flowers, so I think I'd be pretty touched by someone buying me some.

How has a girl as cool as you never been bought flowers?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Well the love language stuff is most useful when you're already in a relationship. It's a way to know how to best communicate your love to a partner, in a way they will respond to.

The hubs wasn't filling my gas when we were merely dating. And I sure wasn't mussing his hair willy-nilly when we were going on dates either.

Although it helps to know that I don't respond to gifts, even early on.

Well yea I get that, I'm just saying the stuff that I respond best to is the stuff I'm most afraid to give out myself because I'm afraid of the response.

I'm not talking about sweet caresses on the first encounter lol. If I was, I think I'd have a much clearer picture of why I fail so much in regards to women.