The Relationship Thread: Because Superhero Forums are Full of Sexperts!

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How would you "dump" someone In a nice way

I don't think it's possible. I was once dumped by text before a job interview, so don't do that. Also don't dump them by text on they day they're supposed to travel up to be with you for a week, that's a bit of a dick move.

Don't dump someone then post a Facebook status about how happy you were you found some rare toys. That one does not go down well. And don't dump someone who is your ride back from a comic con, it leads to awkward car times.

So really I don't think you can do it. I've tried and it all just makes everything very very uncomfortable no matter how nice you try to make it.
 
Unless dumping someone stops meaning, I'm sorry I don't want to remain in a committed relationship with you. There's no real "nice" way to dump someone that doesn't come off as phoney or bs.

I've always thought the best option was to fake your own death and have your twin take your place, but the twin isn't attracted to her.
 
I'm officially engaged! She said yes! Took her down to the Santa Monica pier and got one kneeand ask her to marry me! She started crying and so did I. I'm soooo excited and happy
 
^Get the hell out of here with your happiness!:argh:

But seriously congrats.:woot:
 
I'm officially engaged! She said yes! Took her down to the Santa Monica pier and got one kneeand ask her to marry me! She started crying and so did I. I'm soooo excited and happy

Sweet deal man I'm happy it worked out for you!
 
I'm officially engaged! She said yes! Took her down to the Santa Monica pier and got one kneeand ask her to marry me! She started crying and so did I. I'm soooo excited and happy
:highfive: Congrats!
 
That means she wants you to send her a picture of your privates. 2 Likes means she wants a video.

I am taking this advice to my grave... It is that good...

What do you do with 3 likes?
My instinct would be to track her down, wearing only a trenchcoat and repeatedly flash them.

That's not too much is it?
 
Na, seems a rather conservative move to me, but, you know, do you. :o

And Congrats LA. :awesome:
 
I think I'm gonna hold off on the d waving for the time being and see if her and I even go out before I leave town :hehe:
 
And now I've told the story, and I'm totally embarrassed :(.

I've definitely read that story before. I know because every time I think it's gonna be that she was on her period... and then it's just your finger. :funny:

It did sound like he just wanted to have a very "specific" chat about someone's "private areas" and when you weren't available while his blood was flowing, he selfishly got disappointed.

But no, its not sad that you considered that a win. He wanted more, which shows you did something write. HIGH FIVE!!!!

Meh, I slept with him again on my bday. But tbh, the whole situation was a bit *****eish.

When me and my friends arrived he was there chatting to a couple of girls, and looked totally uncomfortable when he saw me... so I just acted totally normal, casually waved.

He came over after a while, sat with us and made conversation with me. He bought me and all my friends a round of shots, and then later in the night invited some of us up to the flat above the pub for drinks and music and stuff.

I asked him why he was being weird and why he'd called the other night. He said he just didn't want me thinking that this could be anything more than sex, and I told him he was being stupid and that i'm not the kind of girl who gets attached like that. So then when I went to leave late in the night, he stopped me and asked me to stay, so I did... but TBH, I was so drunk by that point that the sex just wasn't anywhere near as good.

Next morning, I was feeling hungover and just a bit unsociable so tried to sneak out while he was sleeping... but the whole pub was locked up. So I had to wake him up just to ask for his keys, and he was all like 'just stay and sleep for a bit', but I just wasn't in the mood for cuddling with someone who is so adamantley against me getting feelings for him.

I did text him a couple of days later just saying thanks for a fun birthday, but again, no response.

So I figure screw it, i'm bored with that!

I got on one knee and proposed and she said yes. We then spent the night there where they upgraded us to a suite. (I lucked out because the room was very spacious.) Everything pretty much worked out for me that day.

Fast forward and we will be getting married next year.

:hrt: That all sounds lovely :)

Girls can't be nerds, I thought this was common knowledge?

Ahem... :p

Good luck. If you are able to find a girl that that'll work on, bless you.

However, I don't want to start an argument on social convention or buckling to social pressure, but more women would want a ring.

I want a ring, but I might have to wear it on a necklace. I tend to loose anything on my finger or wrist cause I fiddle with it.

Do women still cook meals everyday when you are together? I ask because I refuse to have anyone do anything for me. I just hate being served/waited on. I always feel weird. I guess because it's weird because I'm not rich or anything. What have I done to deserve that?

I can barely cook for myself everyday, so no I won't be cooking for a man every day... I hope it's something we can share.

But then I see the flipside with my brother. Last night, I came home with his wife and we stopped by the supermarket because she was going to cook. Now I understand that some people want to eat dinner together and stuff, but my brother gets home at about 5pm and his wife is usually there at 8pm, if she doesn't decide to stay late at work, which is what she usually does. But last night, he kept calling her to hurry up and get home to cook for him and the kids, and I kept thinking to myself, why can't he just do something himself. I mean, bad enough he relies on my mom to feed him when he gets home, if she cooks when she's watching the kids, but for him to wait three hours and then try to rush his wife to either cook or bring something from outside for him, I can see why some women would get upset.

Yeah I kind of hate seeing relationships like that. I find it hard not to yell at the women for just taking it.

Hypothetical question: If I'm waiting till marriage to have sex, am I supposed to tell the boy that before we start dating to make sure we're on the same page?

I'd say yes. Not first date, cause too early is a major put off. But after 2 or 3... cause if the guy isn't into that, what's the point in getting attached/hopeful. You may as well just find out.

So I was casually flirting with the 14 year old last night, and she informed be she doesn't like me that way. I can't even get a freaking 14 year old. I quit. I'm so done. Done. Done. Dooooone.

Dude, depending on how attractive you are, the majority of girls out there are going to shoot you down.

I graduated college still a virgin, and I'm a chick. Couldn't even get a single college guy to sleep with me. I think I should have been done then too. :oldrazz:

I was in my second year of college, and I lost mine to a guy I loved who turned out to be gay... I should have been done then :p

If anything tho, i'd say it says a lot about how much easier it is to get laid once you no longer give two hoots about sex or what it meant to you.

What's the point of marriage period? I never plan on it. I'm planning on life isolated. Don't care anymore.

And yet you are still here. :yay:

Yup... what is your interest in this thread?
 
I find it hard to believe hopefuldreamer is a nerd haha ;)
 
Meh, I slept with him again on my bday. But tbh, the whole situation was a bit *****eish.

When me and my friends arrived he was there chatting to a couple of girls, and looked totally uncomfortable when he saw me... so I just acted totally normal, casually waved.

He came over after a while, sat with us and made conversation with me. He bought me and all my friends a round of shots, and then later in the night invited some of us up to the flat above the pub for drinks and music and stuff.

I asked him why he was being weird and why he'd called the other night. He said he just didn't want me thinking that this could be anything more than sex, and I told him he was being stupid and that i'm not the kind of girl who gets attached like that. So then when I went to leave late in the night, he stopped me and asked me to stay, so I did... but TBH, I was so drunk by that point that the sex just wasn't anywhere near as good.

Next morning, I was feeling hungover and just a bit unsociable so tried to sneak out while he was sleeping... but the whole pub was locked up. So I had to wake him up just to ask for his keys, and he was all like 'just stay and sleep for a bit', but I just wasn't in the mood for cuddling with someone who is so adamantley against me getting feelings for him.

I did text him a couple of days later just saying thanks for a fun birthday, but again, no response.

So I figure screw it, i'm bored with that!

Would it have been that hard to get home even intoxicated? It just seems you were his best opportunity at sex that night and gave you attention because he wanted something out of it. And after your last post, I thought you'd be a little bit more "selective".
 
My life... this is my life...

:waa:

You're either 1.) not a nerd or 2.) not a girl.

Thought this much was obvious on the internet :oldrazz::oldrazz::oldrazz:

:p Fine... you got me... i'm a dude...

I find it hard to believe hopefuldreamer is a nerd haha ;)

When I was in school, my best friend and I used to be total book nerds. Not only did we get 16 books a week out from the library... we'd get the same books... and then read them competatively :funny:

I was in chess club in primary school, and was selected to be 1 of 4 people a year to do special extra projects and stuff for smart kids. In middle school, I was the poor kid with no money for her own pokemon so I used to beg people for a free weeble or energy card and tried to trade with the other lamos like me :hehe:

I got in with a pot smoking grunge/goth crowd in upper school, but I was still in poetry club and loved lotr role play and stuff, and I was still super shy.

Through being a barmaid, university and generally hanging in a lot of different social circles, I might have gotten seriously good at appearing like a cool normal person... but it doesn't take long before the nerd in me comes out, and i'm rambling at people about Superman or Never Ending Story or something :p

Would it have been that hard to get home even intoxicated? It just seems you were his best opportunity at sex that night and gave you attention because he wanted something out of it. And after your last post, I thought you'd be a little bit more "selective".

I didn't stay cause it would have been hard to get home, I could have easily walked home :confused:

I stayed cause... well... it was my birthday, I was having a good time, and I actually kind of liked the guys company...

I'm definitely not going to be hooking up with anyone new like that again, but I figured i'd already gone there with him, so there was no harm in just going for it once more.

Plus... I make bad decisions when i've been drinking.

On a side note, i've actually be talking to my mum today about going to a meeting. I mean, i'm not addicted to alcohol on like a daily basis thing, but I do think i'd be better off removing it from my life, and I definitely need help doing that.
 
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Meh, I slept with him again on my bday. But tbh, the whole situation was a bit *****eish.

When me and my friends arrived he was there chatting to a couple of girls, and looked totally uncomfortable when he saw me... so I just acted totally normal, casually waved.

He came over after a while, sat with us and made conversation with me. He bought me and all my friends a round of shots, and then later in the night invited some of us up to the flat above the pub for drinks and music and stuff.

I asked him why he was being weird and why he'd called the other night. He said he just didn't want me thinking that this could be anything more than sex, and I told him he was being stupid and that i'm not the kind of girl who gets attached like that. So then when I went to leave late in the night, he stopped me and asked me to stay, so I did... but TBH, I was so drunk by that point that the sex just wasn't anywhere near as good.

Next morning, I was feeling hungover and just a bit unsociable so tried to sneak out while he was sleeping... but the whole pub was locked up. So I had to wake him up just to ask for his keys, and he was all like 'just stay and sleep for a bit', but I just wasn't in the mood for cuddling with someone who is so adamantley against me getting feelings for him.

I did text him a couple of days later just saying thanks for a fun birthday, but again, no response.




Dude, depending on how attractive you are, the majority of girls out there are going to shoot you down.

Generic response, but, you deserve better?:oldrazz:

And yeah I'm cool with it now. I don't really know how to tell how attractive I am. I mean I don't have gigantic muscles or anything and I have acne, but I dress well and have (I think) a good haircut. I have a relatively defined jawline, but I know most girls like the blonde hair blue eyes type, and I have brown hair and brown eyes. I can sing and play guitar though, so that helps me out right?:oldrazz:
 
Generic response, but, you deserve better?:oldrazz:

Thanks :)

I think i'll actually start believing that soon... if I can stop drinking, stop hanging out in this kind of scene, and focus more on pushing forward with my career aspirations as a journalist.

I just wanna be proud of what i'm doing. Or heck, even proud of the kind of person I am.

I used to have so much integrity. I miss that girl so much, and i'm so mad at myself for just giving up on it and letting it slip away.

And yeah I'm cool with it now. I don't really know how to tell how attractive I am. I mean I don't have gigantic muscles or anything and I have acne, but I dress well and have (I think) a good haircut. I have a relatively defined jawline, but I know most girls like the blonde hair blue eyes type, and I have brown hair and brown eyes. I can sing and play guitar though, so that helps me out right?:oldrazz:

Attrativeness is subjective. It's not about specific features = women will find you attractive.

And I don't know where you got the impression most girls like the blonde hair blue eyes type... :huh:

As for the guitar and singing... yeah, I fell for a guy once at a live music night when I saw him sing and play guitar for the first time. So it doesn't hurt :p
 
Generic response, but, you deserve better?:oldrazz:

And yeah I'm cool with it now. I don't really know how to tell how attractive I am. I mean I don't have gigantic muscles or anything and I have acne, but I dress well and have (I think) a good haircut. I have a relatively defined jawline, but I know most girls like the blonde hair blue eyes type, and I have brown hair and brown eyes. I can sing and play guitar though, so that helps me out right?:oldrazz:
This describes my husband. No, he did not get a lot of action in high school. Because he was a socially awkward nerd who was also kind of a punk. :funny: But he was so cute back then - I told him if I were in the second grade with him, I would have had such a huge crush on him. :atp:

Besides, in high school, it's not so much about physical attractiveness as it is popularity. A lot of the popular girls in high school that dated around IMO really weren't all that. But they climbed that social ladder really well.
 
Thanks :)

I think i'll actually start believing that soon... if I can stop drinking, stop hanging out in this kind of scene, and focus more on pushing forward with my career aspirations as a journalist.

I just wanna be proud of what i'm doing. Or heck, even proud of the kind of person I am.

I used to have so much integrity. I miss that girl so much, and i'm so mad at myself for just giving up on it and letting it slip away.



Attrativeness is subjective. It's not about specific features = women will find you attractive.

And I don't know where you got the impression most girls like the blonde hair blue eyes type... :huh:

As for the guitar and singing... yeah, I fell for a guy once at a live music night when I saw him sing and play guitar for the first time. So it doesn't hurt :p


"I just wanna be proud of what i'm doing. Or heck, even proud of the kind of person I am.

I used to have so much integrity. I miss that girl so much, and i'm so mad at myself for just giving up on it and letting it slip away. "

I know that feel, ladybro. Best advice I ever received was before you do something questionable, ask yourself how your 7 year old self would feel about seeing you do that.


I got that idea from TV. They always have a surfer dude that gets chicks and he always has blonde hair and blue eyes. And in my town, if you aren't in the highschool band or play on a sport team, you probably are going to be single. But I'm cool with it. Aside from the fact that I'm ridiculously lanky (6'0, 123 lbs) I think I'm moderately attractive. I mean it's subjective like you said, but you know.
 
This describes my husband. No, he did not get a lot of action in high school. Because he was a socially awkward nerd who was also kind of a punk. :funny: But he was so cute back then - I told him if I were in the second grade with him, I would have had such a huge crush on him. :atp:

Besides, in high school, it's not so much about physical attractiveness as it is popularity. A lot of the popular girls in high school that dated around IMO really weren't all that. But they climbed that social ladder really well.

Seee HopefulDreamer? Told you!:oldrazz:

And that's true about popularity. It's awful. Although I don't give a crap about popularity. I'd rather find a girl to loiter with behind the bleachers than date the head cheerleader.:cwink: :oldrazz:
 
I know that feel, ladybro. Best advice I ever received was before you do something questionable, ask yourself how your 7 year old self would feel about seeing you do that.

:funny: I think that's a bit too far.

I'd rather ask myself 'What would Lois Lane do'... :)

I got that idea from TV. They always have a surfer dude that gets chicks and he always has blonde hair and blue eyes.

Seriously? Never seen a TV show where the hot guy is 'tall, dark and handsome'? :huh:
 
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