I'm going to say something that no one listens to.....and for good reason. I've always said that you can't tell someone how to feel, but if you find yourself in a relationship that you think is unfair and can't reconcile that fact on an emotional level, you're in the wrong relationship and it's not going to get any better. I've had my share of close relationships and I think one of the most important things one can do is to be honest and up front about who you are right from the start because you ARE going to revert to your general personality. Better to have someone not want to be with you than fooling someone and finding out you aren't really compatible down the line. I also let (well......used to let) people know I expected the same from them.
One other thing......don't be desperate and don't be in a hurry. Make friends. Be a friend. I know my girl
@MissMarvelous thinks I'm nuts, but virtually every close relationship I've ever had came "after" a friendship developed. That could just be my personality quirk, but I've found that it's better to know someone and like them first. Of course there's those times when sparks just fly from the get go, but I've found those to be the exception rather than the rule and they didn't generally last for me. For me, there's nothing worse than being in a relationship that makes you miserable.